How to escape paying ailmony to my wife

nomoretimes · #1 14-09-2008, 01:03 PM

Hi bros,

If i divorce my wife how can i protect my assets to prevent sharing my assets with her want to have a break from my wife.

If you migrate will you be bounded by sg law to provide ailmony to yr wife.

ahl30ng · #2 14-09-2008, 05:26 PM

Sad to say woman are protected by woman's charter. Hence it's very unlikely that u do not have to pay a single cent.

But then if there's reasonable proof to show that she earned more then u ...and u can hardly fend urself....then maybe u dun have to pay.

As for asset wise....very tricky thing lah....matrimonial asset are all to be divided loh. dun be suprise even if u are paying for the flat and household stuffs..when get into divorce the wife gets to half of the share for the sale of flat.......guess u better seek advise from lawyer beta...

just my twenty cent worth.

peter88798 · #3 14-09-2008, 07:34 PM

Unless u can prove ur wife betray u.

trademarker · #4 14-09-2008, 07:40 PM

woman's charter is suppose to protect them.

End state, now they are exploiting it against us!

SammyHulk · #5 14-09-2008, 08:45 PM

when things like this go south, it's all for his own.

in this case, her own

nomoretimes · #6 14-09-2008, 09:08 PM

Like that cannot escape. but is there any way to reduce the amount to the lowest

havana · #7 14-09-2008, 09:50 PM

Declare bankrupt

Starlite · #8 14-09-2008, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by nomoretimes

Hi bros,

If i divorce my wife how can i protect my assets to prevent sharing my assets with her want to have a break from my wife.
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Unfortunately, she would have the joint rights to your property unless you have stated very clearly during the divorce agreement that which assest who own it etc.

dgsk · #9 14-09-2008, 10:02 PM

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Originally Posted by peter88798

Unless u can prove ur wife betray u.

Sorry to disappoint you bro, but that's not how the women's charter sets it out to be. Neither do the courts put much weight to that argument.

miniS · #10 14-09-2008, 11:37 PM

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Originally Posted by dgsk

Sorry to disappoint you bro, but that's not how the women's charter sets it out to be. Neither do the courts put much weight to that argument.

Bro, you mean even if the man can proof that his wife betray the relationship, the man would still have to pay...?

Suck_My_Dick · #11 14-09-2008, 11:40 PM

What is the reason for the divorce may I ask? And do u have kids?

maninsinsha · #12 15-09-2008, 12:25 AM

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Originally Posted by miniS

Bro, you mean even if the man can proof that his wife betray the relationship, the man would still have to pay...?

YES...... Even if you caught your wife red-handed with a man in bed, you will still need to pay alimony.

nomoretimes · #13 15-09-2008, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by maninsinsha

YES...... Even if you caught your wife red-handed with a man in bed, you will still need to pay alimony.

Hi bro sure anot even her fault for adultry i also have to pay ailmony to my wife like that both ways to lose.

How to reduce or cut the ailmony to the minimum any advise bros even hire a top notch lawyer to fight can anot??

nomoretimes · #14 15-09-2008, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Suck_My_Dick

What is the reason for the divorce may I ask? And do u have kids?

Have no kids divorce due to incorrigible difference also sian of her nagging gotta to get rid of her asap

sex4LiFe · #15 15-09-2008, 02:30 AM

Hi TS,

Firstly, I'm not a lawyer but I've been through a quite messy divorce with my 1st wife so I do know a little on the FACTS OF DIVORCE.

Firstly, like many bros have pointed out, the Singapore law protects woman in divorce cases. For this, you got to blame a lot of those dead bastards many donkey years ago who bullied woman.

However, although woman do appear to have the upper hand, this law does not applies to UNREASONABLE WOMAN.

Now, there are a few cases when the judge decided to award only a S$1 alimony per month due to unreasonable requests from bitter wives. What is meant by unreasonable you might ask. This is a little tricky. E.g. When you both are married and you earn more than her and most of her lifestyle "luxuries" like monthly facial, spa treatments, yearly holidays etc etc are paid by you.. then i can only say WRONG MOVE! In this situation, your wife will be more likely to be awarded with her requested alimony since she'll need to maintain the same lifestyle after divorce.

But if she earns a higher wage and she pays for all these herself, the court might consider your plea for a lower alimony by taking into consideration your pay and chances are higher than 50%.

Do bear in mind that whatever amount of alimony your wife is going to ask, she has to back in up with concrete proof - i.e. receipts of expenses or photos of holidays etc etc.

In most cases, the judge will also consider the course of divorce. Was she the one who betray the relationship or was it due to irreconcilable differences. If you are the "victim", the judge will more likely to take a lenient view to you.

Assets-wise, it'll always be 50-50 and most of the time, it's always the matrimonial house. But this should not be much of a problem. She can opt to buy over your portion of the house or vice versa.

Also, if you have kids, you'll definitely need to pay for them too. This is a separate case from your wife's alimony. The younger your children are, the more you'll need to fork out. I pray that you're childless.

If you ask me, the best way is to sit down with your wife and have a mature talk about the alimony. Be fair to her and ask her to be fair to you too. You can't run away from alimony (unless she re-married instantly coz once the ex-wife gets married, she is no longer eligible for alimony). Have a nice chat and work out a way through the alimony, otherwise you'll be paying your lawyers a hell lot more if it's going to be a long messy court case. Declaring bankrupt should not be a option coz you're not going to be bankrupt for the rest of your life right?

With my 1st wife, I took a gentle approach to the situation and had several talks with her regarding alimony. In the end, she decided not to ask for a single cent. Before you guys think I'm a bastard, I'm not. She was earning way lot more than me back then. Honestly, I was prepared to provide alimony; I was just hoping not to pay so much coz I was such a poor bloke back then.

One more thing though, once the woman decide not to have alimony, she'll never be able to get any more cents from you in the future, even if you were to strike TOTO.

I hope my information will be useful to you and I wish you all the best. A divorce is already nasty, don't make it any nastier. It ain't good for you too. Nobody will be the winner in the end.