Marriage First or Career First?

[hitnrunn]

Scenario

Recent years, I often bump into an ex secondary school classmate during weekend window shopping. She was (& still is) the nerdy girl that nobody will ever notice her existence. The very 1st time I saw her after 15 years, we do have chemistry for each though eye contact; love at 1st sight. Later, she opens a Facebook & added me.

Right now, we always hinted our feelings for each other through eye contact & Facebook post. But we have not PM each other in Facebook or physically talk to each other.

Myself

I came from a broken home & used to be poverty sicken. In my belief, I will only consider marriage when I’m filthy rich because I’m fear of poverty. Moreover, I’m an independent person who never thought of having a girlfriend or getting married.

I don’t look for FB but I used to look for WL. As age passes, my kick for WL or sex fades completely. But I used to be very kinky in my sexual advances; not sure how a decent wife will react. I’ll not practice sex before marriage in a relationship. I’m not looking for a pass time relationship.

I’m not gay but I’m a typically shy person with ladies (especially in non-business talk). I never have any female friends before.

Questions

I have not reached my lifelong filthy rich target yet. Should I make my move on her (or let her make her move, which won’t happen)? Will proposing straight away frighten her? I’m actually afraid to communicate with girl; any pointers on how to behave, talk, do, don’t etc during courtship?

[Kuan Aik Hong]

Career first...Marriage is just a contract . Man has zero benefits for marriage . Is just our culture of family oriented . Government has to promote family and birth just for economic sake . If everyone shys away from marriage mankind will be extinct . Anyway in developed countries marriage and birth rate are trending lower now because of feminism and high cost .

[AUDITH]

Originally Posted by hitnrunn

Moreover, I’m an independent person who never thought of having a girlfriend or getting married.

Perhaps it’s time to adjust yourself; I hope this 2 article helps you.

The Smarter And More Independent You Are, The Harder It Is To Find Love:
http://elitedaily.com/dating/smarter...-love/1262556/

WHY HIGHLY INTELLIGENT PEOPLE STRUGGLE TO FIND LOVE:
http://iheartintelligence.com/2016/0...ple-find-love/

[newlywedbride]

Originally Posted by hitnrunn

I don’t look for FB but I used to look for WL. As age passes, my kick for WL or sex fades completely. But I used to be very kinky in my sexual advances; not sure how a decent wife will react. I’ll not practice sex before marriage in a relationship. I’m not looking for a pass time relationship.

I’m one such nerdy girl. Sex is a natural thing that operates by body language; just like love & chemistry. Unless you are engaging in life threatening acts which will traumatize the girl. Therefore, don’t worry & let nature take its course after marriage.

Sex is a secret between two couples which glorify marriage & kids are the fruits of love.

[Triple70]

I dun think TS is anywhere near ready for marriage.
Focus on career first and concurrently try to understand women phychology.

The womens charter act is not a small matter. Any rational person will not agree to such terms.

[hitnrunn]

Is it possible to have a permanent girlfriend for companionship (no sex involve) & stay single forever or perhaps ROM 10 or 20 years later?

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by hitnrunn

Is it possible to have a permanent girlfriend for companionship (no sex involve) & stay single forever or perhaps ROM 10 or 20 years later?

Impossible...Her parents and friends will pester her. Woman always dream on wearing the wedding gown .

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by hitnrunn

Questions

I have not reached my lifelong filthy rich target yet. Should I make my move on her (or let her make her move, which won’t happen)? Will proposing straight away frighten her? I’m actually afraid to communicate with girl; any pointers on how to behave, talk, do, don’t etc during courtship?

Simple...let her love you deeply...she will makes things easy when she loves you more than you love her...marriage is just matter of time after that...

[hitnrunn]

Originally Posted by topcook1

Impossible...Her parents and friends will pester her. Woman always dream on wearing the wedding gown .

Both of us are not are not so young or not so old. Perhaps this may work?

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Simple...let her love you deeply...she will makes things easy when she loves you more than you love her...marriage is just matter of time after that...

How to provide deep love (non-sexual or no lavish spending) to a lady? I have nil experience on this.

[throwmyselfaway]

I think every couple is different, no two individuals are the same. For me, non-sexual and non-lavish, we just needed to spend time together, it can even be silent, both reading our own books or whatever. It depends on both your personalities, maybe you need more time to get to know each other better.

IMO relationships can never sustain on love alone, you need understanding and compromise. Take your time to know someone and their quirks before committing, and take note of things that put you off, even if they are "small".

The hardest rocks will also crack under the constant trickling of water.

[archer69]

TS you will never be a filthy rich. You will never experience to love the girl u like before as you are afraid to get out of your shell. Being rich does not guarantee you could have a happy marriage.

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by archer69

TS you will never be a filthy rich. You will never experience to love the girl u like before as you are afraid to get out of your shell. Being rich does not guarantee you could have a happy marriage.

In 20 to 30 years later wonder will you say the same again......lol

[Blackcloud]

Originally Posted by hitnrunn

How to provide deep love (non-sexual or no lavish spending) to a lady? I have nil experience on this.

By showing her genuine concern for her well being . Be a gentleman . Always remember it is better for the other party to love you more than you love her .

[Ngengheng]

Career will always be first. No money No Honey.

[Greendevil]

TS neither career or marriage first. in SBF, SEX come first lol