Are you cautious when sharing info with colleagues?

[MobileSuits]

In your work place have you been cautious when sharing info with your colleagues?
I've been observing my colleagues and came to conclude that most of them are loose cannon. They talk bad about the boss, criticize the way others work and most often than not try to back stab those that doesn't click well with them. The situation gets worse if there's a few ladies around. Not only they are bitchy and also like to gossip around what we share with them. The same goes with some of those younger guys who likes to be a busy body, like to joke around and make fun of anything that they can think of. A lot of times I find myself hesitate to share too much info with them. That makes me directly or indirectly became a lone ranger and eventually isolated from the gossip group. It's not that I don't wish to mix around with them. Beside the generation gap and different frequency, it's just too scary to realize that your most of your colleagues cannot keep secret and always let the cat out of the bag.
Do you share the same situation in your work place?

[archer69]

Better not to share.
Ask yourself, what else could you get if you share?

[MobileSuits]

Originally Posted by archer69

Better not to share.
Ask yourself, what else could you get if you share?

Sharing info with them ended up making ourselves as being a fool. They will only conclude that whatever that person did was hilarious.

[orangeproud]

Anywhere as long as hv ppl around, sure will hv gossip n conflicts coz of different background, personality & etc. I personally feel tat most important is even if u r really unhappy wif ur boss, pay, work load, nvr complain to ur colleagues or talk bad abt ur boss as news especially bad news spread very fast. No boss like to listen abt all it, the impression of him on u will b very bad, better talk to ur boss straightaway.

Even some colleagues will talk bad abt someone they can't get along wif, u can juz lend a listening ear, listen to their grumble but dun add any comments on it. Dun involve in their politic.

Normally, juz casual talk wif them will do. Even u r unhappy abt the work, pay.....dun keep on grumble, nobody like wif someone who is grumpy.

Stay positive always!!!

[conquer]

Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.

[DiCap84]

I usually don't. Keep to myself better.

[maxxdesire]

Not recommended. Today he's your Friend but tomorrow he can become your enemy and you don't know what damage the info can do to you and your reputation. So it's better to seperate your official work and non official work.

[BanJohnbass]

You go to work not to make friends.
Colleagues in Singapore are known to have big mouth and are famous for back stabbing.

[Silentreader88]

I usually share silently with few cheong colleauges only! Words in office spread faster than the internet ler!

[orangeproud]

Nvr ever divulge ur salary to ur colleagues
Some colleagues can b friends, some can only remain as colleagues.

[squiggle]

If I want to say bad things about other people, I will make sure that the involve parties are not present. But at the same time I will be saying the fact and the good. Not just the bad to be fair, logical and balance.

I will try to cover up my colleagues mistakes even if they were to try to back stab (I will just treat it as a lesson to be learn and improve) me, I will not complain about them, as it is not nice to see people losing their jobs.

Before saying anything, I will try to see the situation and whether the person I talking with can be trusted. If you don't like a company, then just resign. If you can't, then try and see what you can do to improve your working environment and your mindsets. As for sex related stuff, I will not talk about it in front of girls, in case they take it as an offend/harassment.

Of course, nobody in this world will be completely honest/tell you all their secrets, we all have our own privacy. We will only share a portion of things to certain people by bit by bit, even if your wife/parents, you won't be telling them everything.

TBH, I don't really like to make friends with my colleagues and classmates. As the environment may be competitive that everybody fighting for survival, promotion, grades, rice bowl and recognition. Due to these, people may use the wrong way to kill you to obtain them, then how you can be friends with them?

[EtherC]

TS, end of the day:Most people can't keep secrets, keep your expectations low. In the workplace its really important to protect yourself, especially against the disarmingly "friendly" ones. Understand your position in the greater picture and learn to play the game otherwise you may end up as cannon fodder or somebody's tool.

[milfmilf]

few years back when I just join the current team, I will go lunch with the group. Like it or not my main objective is to "collect wind" on what they know of the things that are related to work. Slowly the topics stalemate and no longer much updates on work changes ... then I slowly join the group lesser and lesser.

lone ranger is definitely not a problem.

[126gal]

If nothing Good to say,

dont say anything bad.

[joncheong]

lots of such low level people in the work place...last time i have a guy in my team, always complaining to his colleagues how badly paid he is and how much work is demanded from him...i knew all these cos one of the girls he always grumble to is my fb..i posted him to another team with a notoriously evil managress...less than 2 months later he left...he is a job hopper in the first place and i doubt he will stay long even if he is treated well...but such a lousy job hopper who got a meagre pay for his qualifications...all he could is talk and not work..