I need some advice, really feel like a loser

[maxstar]

Hello bros,

Currently i am 30 years old, broke up with my gf of almost 2 yrs. I have loved her very much, in fact i wanted to marry her. She left one day saying she no longer felt the same for me. I was devastated. That was 1 year ago. Within this 1 year i have had 1 ONS, screwed many whores. But i am really sick of fucking prostitutes or trying for ONS cos it's really so empty. I feel so hollow inside. I have always believed family is the most important thing. I really wanted someone whom i can share my life with. I have tried so hard to keep her, really so hard, but atlas in the end it wasn't meant to be.

Meanwhile i have been trying to find a new soul mate. Went dating with so many girls, but seems like they aren't very reciprocative. I don't know what's wrong, it seems like every door is closed to me now. Girls would go out with me on dates but nothing comes out of it. I cannot find the chemistry anymore. My life is bland, boring and without love. I longed so much for the love i once felt, that very moment when the world just seems so beautiful, that every moment is worth living and there is a beautiful future that awaits both of us. Coupled with work stress and climbing the ladder of society, i could no longer be the me i used to. I am losing this battle, this sanity, this very life.

Do any of you bros felt the same way as me? Or have encountered somewhat similar?

Currently i just felt like a god damn loser.

[ALonelyPerson]

are you earning well?

[jasdude]

TS. Self reflect on yourself and why she left you. Self reflect on yourself why gals are non reciprocating you. There must be something wrong somewhere.

Lead a life of richness or want a life of riches. Strike a balance and be happy is most important.

[sunhuan-con]

Why not try again to woo her back??

[5ag1_Boar]

If you think you are a loser, you will behave like a loser. You will subconsciously project yourself as a loser, no matter how successful you are in work or society. You just project yourself as a successful rich loser. Whoever you date will feel it... then of course nothing will come it.

Before others can love you, you have to love yourself. Stop sulking and go do stuff. Learn to enjoy being by yourself. Go for dance lessons. Hang out with friends.... even guy friends. Read, travel, learn scuba diving, painting, whatever you fancy. Make friends along the way, both guys and girls. It will lead to more social activities. Just stop focusing on finding love. Learn to live first... then you will attract the right girl.

If you can get ONS, you must be at least fairly attractive, so that is not an issue here. The ONS and whores are just physical relief. Don't let that define you and your life. Just something to get you through your days till you find your life partner.

[hamsapkwai]

a loser got nothing to live up to

nobody expects you to amount to anything

you are not expected to succeed in anything

there`s no pressure to perform or deliver

no daily stress and strain and hence your bodily functions remains healthy

no women with ulterior motives will want to cash in on what you have , which is zero

the only way to go is UP

you got nothing to lose

if u are caught having an affair which losers are not likely to have , the news people wont be interested in u at all

so what is your problem?

[MeIAm]

Tough times don't lasts, Tough people do. Take a deep breathe n reaccess ur whole situation.

[flowbow]

TS, I was just like you. After breaking up life just sucked for me. All I wanted back then was to get back with my ex-boyfriend, and when that didn't work, I pretty much gave up on everything. I gave up on my life, to be exact. Just like you, I started chionging... Sex to me wasn't between two people in love anymore, unlike what I used to think. Sex was just, well, sex. But soon it became meaningless and I too felt that life held no meaning for me. I thought that having random flings could fill my empty heart but that only made me feel lonelier when I realized that deep down I was actually still very much alone.

I'm still trying to get over this phase. It's not easy. Sure, the random flings did make me happy while they lasted - but that's the point, they never lasted. Whether or not I will eventually make it out of this deep, dark hole, I don't know. But as trite as this may sound, I have never stopped believing that there will be someone out there meant for me; perhaps it is just that the time isn't right yet. I haven't given up on love, I'm just waiting for the right one to find me.

So don't give up. You're not a loser, it's just a phase in life you have to go through. Sooner or later you'll find the one who'll make all of this worth it.

[ALonelyPerson]

i feel TS shouldn't fee he a loser .. at least you are able to get a ONS .. this show you have calibre somewhere inside you..

So why dont social more .. and maybe one day you find your true heart ? just dont go find a whore as gf

[justl00king]

Bro TS,

This is just part and parcel on life, no need to feel down and be in a hurry to look for a soul mate. Getting impatient may just make you make hasty decisions which may result in wrong choices.

Try to let nature take it's course and just go with the flow.Put more emphasis in broadening your network and socializing activities. When it's meant to be, your destined one will appear at the right time.

If any consolation, many that are attached may hope to be in your shoes being single and available again.

Hope you will get over it and have more confidence on yourself. In the meantime, just enjoy your single hood and go paint the town red!

[Jamester999]

bg relationship and marriage is not everything in this world.

step out of the small picture and enjoy life as a whole.

if not, you'll be the true loser.

[AsianConqueror]

Congratulations!u have just past by a road name journey of life.

With your past fail relationship u will not know sadness.without sadness u will not know loneniess.without loneliness u will not remember how nice it is to have a companion that u love compare to fling,ons,whores.

Now just remember to learn how to accept things doesn't always goes the way we wanted in life.It's how u look at it and what will u do when similar things happen in future.u only live once.

[monktwh]

TS sounded like a woman. Its usually the ladies whom will feel like he does, actually did anyone ask if TS is a woman. U never know? I say enjoy been single while u can. U will have your way with fate when it comes.
In the meantime, be a man. Live like one, & talk like one. Good luck.

[Yumenotameni]

Perhaps you should focus on your career instead? When you are desperate, they run away.

[justl00king]

Originally Posted by Yumenotameni

Perhaps you should focus on your career instead? When you are desperate, they run away.

Good point, got money sure got honey.