Ode to the Nice Guys

[watmidoin]

saw this article on the net. really ode to all the nice guys out there

Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal

This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what assholes guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style.

This is for the guys who escort their drunk, bewildered female friends back from parties and never take advantage once they’re at her door, for the guys who accompany girls to bars as buffers against the rest of the creepy male population, for the guys who know a girl is fishing for compliments but give them out anyway, for the guys who always play by the rules in a game where the rules favor cheaters, for the guys who are accredited as boyfriend material but somehow don’t end up being boyfriends, for all the nice guys who are overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated, for all the nice guys who are manipulated, misled, and unjustly abandoned, this is for you.

This is for that time she left 40 urgent messages on your cell phone, and when you called her back, she spent three hours painstakingly dissecting two sentences her boyfriend said to her over dinner. And even though you thought her boyfriend was a chump and a jerk, you assured her that it was all ok and she shouldn’t worry about it. This is for that time she interrupted the best killing spree you’d ever orchestrated in GTA3 to rant about a rumor that romantically linked her and the guy she thinks is the most repulsive person in the world. And even though you thought it was immature and you had nothing against the guy, you paused the game for two hours and helped her concoct a counter-rumor to spread around the floor. This is also for that time she didn’t have a date, so after numerous vows that there was nothing “serious” between the two of you, she dragged you to a party where you knew nobody, the beer was awful, and she flirted shamelessly with you, justifying each fit of reckless teasing by announcing to everyone: “oh, but we’re just friends!” And even though you were invited purely as a symbolic warm body for her ego, you went anyways. Because you’re nice like that.

The nice guys don’t often get credit where credit is due. And perhaps more disturbing, the nice guys don’t seem to get laid as often as they should. And I wish I could logically explain this trend, but I can’t. From what I have observed on campus and what I have learned from talking to friends at other schools and in the workplace, the only conclusion I can form is that many girls are just illogical, manipulative bitches. Many of them claim they just want to date a nice guy, but when presented with such a specimen, they say irrational, confusing things such as “oh, he’s too nice to date” or “he would be a good boyfriend but he’s not for me” or “he already puts up with so much from me, I couldn’t possibly ask him out!” or the most frustrating of all: “no, it would ruin our friendship.” Yet, they continue to lament the lack of datable men in the world, and they expect their too-nice-to-date male friends to sympathize and apologize for the men that are jerks. Sorry, guys, girls like that are beyond my ability to fathom. I can’t figure out why the connection breaks down between what they say (I want a nice guy!) and what they do (I’m going to sleep with this complete ass now!). But one thing I can do, is say that the nice-guy-finishes-last phenomenon doesn’t last forever. There are definitely many girls who grow out of that train of thought and realize they should be dating the nice guys, not taking them for granted. The tricky part is finding those girls, and even trickier, finding the ones that are single.

So, until those girls are found, I propose a toast to all the nice guys. You know who you are, and I know you’re sick of hearing yourself described as ubiquitously nice. But the truth of the matter is, the world needs your patience in the department store, your holding open of doors, your party escorting services, your propensity to be a sucker for a pretty smile. For all the crazy, inane, absurd things you tolerate, for all the situations where you are the faceless, nameless hero, my accolades, my acknowledgement, and my gratitude go out to you. You do have credibility in this society, and your well deserved vindication is coming.

Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003

[benjamin00000]

Can have a summary?

[Noobie]

Originally Posted by benjamin00000

Can have a summary?

simply, nice guys get no girls

i like nice guyz...i m tired of bad guyz...all jerkz hope to find a nice guy somedae

Originally Posted by uglyger

i like nice guyz...i m tired of bad guyz...all jerkz hope to find a nice guy somedae

I super nice guy...always kana dump jialat jialat...so sad.

[MachoDevilX]

Wow.. This is such a nice journal..
I have already up your reps for sharing such nice journal...

After reading it, I agree up to a certain extent... It really depends on what type of girls do guys want. If we think about it, we will find that it is probably the same to girls as well... Nice girls sometimes finished last? Or probably won't ever finished.. Have you taken a look at the girls around us? Those girls who are really nice and treat us really well but then their looks are below average.. Will we bother to think of being together with them or even marry them? Some of the guys will, but only if there are chances that allow the guy to understand the girl and hence, looks will be secondary... But there must be fate for the guy to be able to notice the girl's good points in order to understand her and know that she is nice... Since usually guys will tend to take more notice on pretty girls, or at least average girls, therefore, there wouldn't be any moments where guys will take notice of the below-average looking girls...And needless to say, to get to understand them, unless it's really fated...

Guys will usually say that nice guys will be at a disadvantage. I agree but it depends on what guys want for themselves... It was always in most of our mind that we feel that other guys are not better than us.. the guy who are together with the girl you love, is no good, he's a jerk etc... But have we think about it ourselves... Whether we are any better??? Human beings always able to see the bad points in others but not themselves...

Very often, most guys will feel that if a girl is being together with a rich and handsome guy, the girl is materialistic... But the guy could be treating the girl very well and with respect.. And hence, the girl likes the guy and not just his $$.. Rich guys can be gentlemen and nice as well.. Maybe it's because of TV series whereby they have cast an impression that rich guys are flirts and jerks... But in actual fact, it might not the case. It realy depends on individuals... If a girl leaves her current bf and get together with a guy who is rich, everyone will think that she is bad and materialistic. But have we thought for the girl? The rich guy may love her truly and treat her really well... Shouldn't she choose someone whom she loves? Don't she has the right to choose someone who can take good care of her for the rest of her life?

If we think in terms of guys, if there are two girls who equally love you and treat you well, and both girls are equally educated... But one is pretty and one is below-average looking.. Which one will you choose?


Most girls also go for looks as well.. Although they always deny that but then they will add in a line that at least must be comfortable (sun yan)... That's why I feel that regardless of guys or girls, we should take a look and understand those people who are by our side, regardless of their looks. We should treat it as if we are blind. Blind people can't see but they can feel. They can feel who really treat them well and who really care for them.. Who is the nice guy/girl...

[nirvana]

Originally Posted by watmidoin

saw this article on the net. really ode to all the nice guys out there

Ode to the Nice Guys
This rant was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal


Fu-zu Jen, SEAS/WH, 2003

read my signatute, ' i care abt u ' too

nirvana

[cbjuiceyumseng]

Sometimes i wonder whether am i a nice guy or a bastard?

[nirvana]

Originally Posted by cbjuiceyumseng

Sometimes i wonder whether am i a nice guy or a bastard?

for my case, i can only be one.. u can either find me nice , or find me idiot. i can never be in between

[Big Sexy]

Trust me... i am a nice guy!

[poolhot.]

Big Sexy Trust me... i am a nice guy!

That case I am the nicest guy!!!!!!!!

[Big Sexy]

wow.. mr nice... how abt add my points then

Originally Posted by poolhot

That case I am the nicest guy!!!!!!!!

[earth]

Originally Posted by poolhot

That case I am the nicest guy!!!!!!!!

nice guy, help me reach 3 digit?

[Big Sexy]

queue up hor... i first..

Originally Posted by earth

nice guy, help me reach 3 digit?

[vesfreq]

Sounds like a pretty interesting article and offers a renewed point of view about "nice guys".

Best is not to get entangled with those materialistic girls, bottomline.