Help - how to find a young friend with benefits (or more) in SG?

[baumbaum]

First of all, let me mention that I'm an ang mo. Yes, we are not very well liked in this forum and, to be honest, I understand. Many Westerners I have seen/met in Singapore behave like jerks.

Whether or not you believe me that I'm actually different and a nice guy, I hope you can help me.

I'm in my mid-twenties and while I have been in a handful of relationships before, I actually never did it. For me, sex is/was an intimate activity and either for me or my ex girlfriends the time was never right due to various circumstances or just tough luck.

I have come to Singapore to study and intend to stay here. I do think it's a great place to live, to eat and enjoy life. As long as I can get an EP, I will stay here. Also because of the girls

Anyway, except for my coursemates I don't know many people in Singapore. I've tried an online dating site but the girls I've met from there were not that appealing to me. Most had issues and were not over past relationships or traumatised by former experiences...

I have heard many times that it should be easy for me as a Caucasian to find some SPG in one of the clubs and bars which are frequented by ang mos. The problem is, I would still be on my own and that I am actually quite shy.

I've heard about Orchard Towers, about KTV clubs, about Geylang, but what I'm really looking for is not a one night stand or some paid activity. She doesn't have to become my girlfriend, but I'd prefer a casual relationship where we have a bit more contact than just spending the night together. Or at least a regular thing if we get along. I am ready to lose my virginity, but not at a first date. Maybe after 2-3 dates. The "girlfriend experience", Cuddling, petting, foreplay... is important to me.

What would you suggest me to do? Would be going to a club really be the best idea? Even if going alone? How hard is it to grab someone's attention? And should I be cautious as some SPGs might just go for my money (no, I don't have a car )? Any other options to find a "friend with benefits"?

I'm ok looking, tall but a little on the chubby side.

Please forget about the racial stereotypes for a moment. I don't want to hurt anyone, I'm not just trying to fool around but to find someone to have a good time with.

Thanks for any comments and suggestions!

[baumbaum]

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[alan0338]

wat ppl suggest to u is unimportant, pls do watever u wan with ur life, u are a grown up ...

[comm]

yaloh, mid twenty already.....

anyway, i suggest u target a 'type' of people you like and then join some activities that will have them

example

sluts = clubbing
gambler sluts = casino with dance music
rich old woman = casino, star cruise
lonely old woman = old folk home
SPG = american embassy and other 'white man' places

[Johnston]

Originally Posted by baumbaum

I am ready to lose my virginity, but not at a first date. Maybe after 2-3 dates. The "girlfriend experience", Cuddling, petting, foreplay... is important to me.

What would you suggest me to do? Would be going to a club really be the best idea? Even if going alone? How hard is it to grab someone's attention? And should I be cautious as some SPGs might just go for my money (no, I don't have a car )? Any other options to find a "friend with benefits"?

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Whoa whoa whoa stop the presses, jack, we gots us an authentic "red-haired" white boy here!! And he's a goddamn virgin to boot!!!!! damn, where do these whitey virgin boys come from?????

first off, hoss - what the royal fuck are you looking for??? are you looking for a girl friend or a pal with benefits??? There's a difference, you wanna bring home the girlfriend to mom but the pal isn't.....

second: there ain't no set place where romance can happen, know what im sayin??? Yeah if cupid wanna shoot you with his longbow and shit, you could get riddled right out in the checkout aisle... could even be in the library, shit , man, i could go on~....

lastly: goddamnit, what kinda dating site did you go to, man??? all of those ive experienced had some good, some bad, and some fucking awesome chicks... you must be in the wrong place on the interwebs

[baumbaum]

Originally Posted by Johnston

first off, hoss - what the royal fuck are you looking for??? are you looking for a girl friend or a pal with benefits??? There's a difference, you wanna bring home the girlfriend to mom but the pal isn't.....

lastly: goddamnit, what kinda dating site did you go to, man??? all of those ive experienced had some good, some bad, and some fucking awesome chicks... you must be in the wrong place on the interwebs

It's a pal with benefits, I guess. As soon as it reaches a real relationship level, other factors than "having a good time" become important: goals in life and stuff.

That's exactly why I'm asking this here. I have no idea how things are done in Singapore. Apparently, I've used the wrong dating website Any suggestions where to go for finding FBs? I'd appreciate a PM very much!

Thanks

[baumbaum]

Originally Posted by alan0338

wat ppl suggest to u is unimportant, pls do watever u wan with ur life, u are a grown up ...

I've decided to discover something new. To listen to suggestions on here and maybe act based on them. Hey, I'd be stupid to not benefit from the vast accumulated experience of the Bros here!

[whiteswift]

Kindly please treat our ladies with respect .

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

I "was" kinda respect your reply to my 1st post but then your latest post in below thread is something else.

http://thesbf.shop/showthr...=1#post6370743

So don't come here to pretend you are not a racist ang moh..ANG MOH!!!!

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

Originally Posted by baumbaum

I've decided to discover something new. To listen to suggestions on here and maybe act based on them. Hey, I'd be stupid to not benefit from the vast accumulated experience of the Bros here!

Dont fxxking pretend la. KNN

You have insulted my country!!

Please go back to your country!! Pui! Pui!

Originally Posted by baumbaum

Isn't it at least questionable that this so-called "star blogger" is blogging about such an incident. Sounds like an attention whore to me. Additionally, this story sounds rather unrealistic. I wonder what has been left out. Maybe the girls tried to steal the woman's wallet (which would still not be a reason for a physical struggle, of course).

Nevertheless, it's still possible that it might have happened as stated. As mentioned before, the ang mo doesn't look exactly well-dressed. Considering his facial expression, his body language, style and general apathy, it's not unlikely that he has a mental issue. The woman seems prone of suffering from one.

This doesn't make their actions (if they really did occur that way) any better but it might make a few realise how crude racial stereotyping is. Especially in Singapore (a nation which pretty much only exists because of the efforts of foreigners having come here).

[GeMiNiZzzzZzz]

Originally Posted by whiteswift

Kindly please treat our ladies with respect .

This post sums up everything to TS.

You are not looking for a ONS, but a free FB until you get tired of her and dump her eventually.
Tough i couldnt agree more that some ladies here are also looking for ONS, but they deserve a more respectful guy.

On top of that, if there are such ladies out there, you think we will intro them to a racist guy like you

[callmebad]

Become a teacher or tutor teach at commercial schools, you can meet lots of girls.
Pretend you're very religious, go to church every Sunday, you can meet lots of girls there.
Be a volunteer or social worker will do.
Join some hobbies clubs
Enroll for some yoga, dance classes or cooking classes

[cookiemonsta]

forgive me if i've miss understood your request
but this is what the op meant:

perhaps a little naive but i always assume everyone has the best of intentions
the op's actually asking for advice to start a non-serious relationship with a local
and eventually, over time, when he is sure of his insecurities, would eventually like to commit to the relationship... kind of a 'try before you buy' concept
what the convoluted op is trying to say, not at all knowing is; what are the social protocol of dating local sgd ladies...

mate, i'm going out of my way in saying, the ladies in sgd in typically the same as any other ladies anywhere around the world
and it doesn't really matter where you meet them... local grocer, local watering hole, bus stop, random down the street... whatever you fancy
i'll even help you start with a conversation starter 'hi!, how you doing...'
the rest is up to your charm and charisma

good luck

[Johnston]

Originally Posted by baumbaum

It's a pal with benefits, I guess. As soon as it reaches a real relationship level, other factors than "having a good time" become important: goals in life and stuff.

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Holy dogshit batman, so um: what the royal fuck do you do with the chicks once your relationship hits "real relationship level" and shit???? do you dump them like a sack of used stockings and stuff>>???

i dont understand where your coming from saying that we only exists cos foreigners came here and shit like that, cos i pretty well know that the US of A exists because the goddamn spaniards found the place and came in like cock-a-roaches to take the place over where they sold the native bills of goods like beads for islands and blankets with smallpox and crap like that.

im still giving ya the benefits of the doubts here: so why'not ya addresse your comments in the other thread , hoss?

completely as an asides, where is you from? CONUS? the place north of CONUS? South of CONUS where the weed and shit comes from?

[rh8611]

Haha that Ang mo must be ciu tug lan now. I bet he won't ever understand Si mi LAN jiao lim Bei say about him.