FB - Sensation or Senses?

[whiteangelcsh]

Been pondering upon this for awhile.

FB - does ur relation wif ur FB a one tts of pure lust or wif a touch of frenship? My terms of frenship doesn't stops at the mere definition of fren. Do u feel comfy in confiding and sharing ur senses wif ur FB? How does he/she look upon such interaction? I would reckoned tt most juz prefer pure lust without commitment. Dun get me wrong. I'm not referring to one tts gonna developed into steady relationship of settling down wif ur FB.

Let's face it. There are moments when one would like to share their thoughts and senses to their FB but holds back due to the nature of such relationship. How often would u wanna let it out and hv sensual talks to care and understand for each other. Many a time one would be taken aback and refrain frm sharing too much. But there are moments where one might be comfy enough to share intimate thots wif ur FB. Afterall, it still requires certain degree of sensual comfortness when u are wif ur FB.

Small head over big head? Big head ruining the rules of the game? Would like to hear ur comments.

ps: to those whom I had once hurt, I'm sorry...

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by whiteangelcsh

Small head over big head? Big head ruining the rules of the game? Would like to hear ur comments.

ps: to those whom I had once hurt, I'm sorry...

Agree bro , depend on comfort level you are with your FB . its still a relationship building bond to be built up . Starting from initial attraction , lust to trust and companionship . A FB that can be your alternate soul mate is the ultimate you can get . PEACE

[gotcraft30]

Originally Posted by jasdude

Agree bro , depend on comfort level you are with your FB . its still a relationship building bond to be built up . Starting from initial attraction , lust to trust and companionship . A FB that can be your alternate soul mate is the ultimate you can get . PEACE

You know bro, I also hope for something like that but I haven't been able to find someone like that...

[whiteangelcsh]

I guess all hv the urge to be able to find a soulmate, even if u are oredi married or attached. The feel is somehow diff frm that which u would get when confiding to ur lifetime partner. It's juz a human nature likewise for others to reject such needs as those who are seeking pure lust would resist such sensual conversation or engagement. Probably the fear of being falling in love?

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by whiteangelcsh

Probably the fear of being falling in love?

Yes there is always a possibility when you meet someone that stimulate you mentally and physically ! But as long both talk things out initially and both understand each others need for comfort and support . it can be a very long lasting relationship . COMMUNICATION is the key to unlock the FEEL for each other .

[ashleygal]

seriously, fb who talk too much about their feelings/inner thoughts freak me out big time. esp if he is married/attached, it totally just freak me out even more and it's a total turn off for me. even if i do feel there's some connection between us, it's a no go for me.

to be honest, most ppl here are just seeking for fun, why wanna make things complicated? it's ok to be friends with ppl you have sex with, but getting too involve with them is a taboo to me.

i have very strong feelings for one of my fb till the point that i think i am starting to fall in love with him. BUT i told myself to be logical, fb will always be fb no matter whether you are single, attached or married, the fb status will always be there. sex is sex. it SHOULD NEVER cross the line.

comfronting with your fb on your daily life and etc is one thing. sharing too much of your inner thoughts and senses is something that i feel should be left to your gf/wife, not fb. period.

peace,
Ash


p/s: to add on, i have forgiven someone. i just don't see the point to return ur msg. i am a simple person, i don't like things to be complicated. and i don't see the point to remain as friends becuz history will repeat itself. i just want a simple life.

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by ashleygal

seriously, fb who talk too much about their feelings/inner thoughts freak me out big time. esp if he is married/attached, it totally just freak me out even more and it's a total turn off for me. even if i do feel there's some connection between us, it's a no go for me.

to be honest, most ppl here are just seeking for fun, why wanna make things complicated? it's ok to be friends with ppl you have sex with, but getting too involve with them is a taboo to me.

i have very strong feelings for one of my fb till the point that i think i am starting to fall in love with him. BUT i told myself to be logical, fb will always be fb no matter whether you are single, attached or married, the fb status will always be there. sex is sex. it SHOULD NEVER cross the line.

comfronting with your fb on your daily life and etc is one thing. sharing too much of your inner thoughts and senses is something that i feel should be left to your gf/wife, not fb. period.

peace,
Ash


p/s: to add on, i have forgiven someone. i just don't see the point to return ur msg. i am a simple person, i don't like things to be complicated. and i don't see the point to remain as friends becuz history will repeat itself. i just want a simple life.

Well Princess ! seems you had just gone through a rough patch ( hope everything is fine ). Its a thin gray line that often or not many FBs fail to keep within . We are all humans beings not devoid of feelings . however , if the FB is married or both married ! do reconsider the Consequences of your actions cos responsibilities to the family must not be forsaken .

[Sexy Under]

With senses comes sensation. If you are blind or deaf, 2 major senses are lost and definitely less sensation.

All I can say is that there are rules to every game. It's people (male or female) who break them.

Everyone wants to find a good partner in life but many have been unlucky. Those without can pay for sex and there is no complain about it since sex is a natural human instinct.

Then what is FB? Someone you crossed the line to have sex with.

Consequences... your luck!

[foooah]

Trust me on this one bro, better leave feelings out of the FB. I used to have a hot and cool FB. (She knows my friends and to the rest, she declared that she's just a very very good friend)

Until one day she started to develop feelings and things start to go downhill from there (and i really mean downhill)

Inevitably, both sides can develop emotions and that will put a big block on your stable relationship (OC,GF,WIFE, whatever...)

In my case, FB started to mark territory and asked me to spend more time with her than my girl....needless to say, I spent months trying to get out of it...(no such thing as free sex, you pay in some other senses)

Hope this helps...

[whiteangelcsh]

Personally, not withstanding and not disagreeing wif the statements by fellow bros and sis, I would opined tt it ultimately voiced down to how one would look upon the 'relationship'. How many lines is one gonna cross? It's juz like platonic love. How many would really be able to resist the temptation of lust for the case of platonic love and to maintain a relationship without sexual aspect? Similiarly to FB, it's how one would maintain his/her stand. There are rules set, and one or both parties might cross the line inevitably during the process.

I would reckon tt it's the mentality of one's maturity over such relationship. Pure sexual? FB who shares inner thoughts without crossing the line? Or otherwise. It takes both parties to understand how each other feels and want in this FB relationship. Some may be comfy while some may not. End of the day, lust would took over. I do agree tt mixing sensation and senses are messy and would get out of hand if not handled tactfully. But at certain point of time in our life, despite whether attached or married, one would hv needs, not juz sexual needs but tt of a confide. Someone whom u juz like to relax, share moments/thoughts, hv sex and then go back to ur normal life. Pervert? Disordered mental? Or juz pure alternate way of confiding? U decide. Simply put in my own words, it's sharing of thoughts with the elements of sex. For wife/gf/bf case, it'll be making love in the same manners. I may be sound confusing but tts how I looked upon it. Nonetheless, I do agree tt family is impt. End of the day, it's the support frm family tt drives u thru difficulties.

My point here is: Friends with Benefits - someone who u can share ur senses, period.

[gotcraft30]

I guess the trick is finding that balance. Someone who is crazy enough to risk morals and family for you but still logical enough to know that it is the best you can do in the situation that you are in.

[BiRd13]

Originally Posted by whiteangelcsh

Been pondering upon this for awhile.

FB - does ur relation wif ur FB a one tts of pure lust or wif a touch of frenship? My terms of frenship doesn't stops at the mere definition of fren. Do u feel comfy in confiding and sharing ur senses wif ur FB? How does he/she look upon such interaction? I would reckoned tt most juz prefer pure lust without commitment. Dun get me wrong. I'm not referring to one tts gonna developed into steady relationship of settling down wif ur FB.

Let's face it. There are moments when one would like to share their thoughts and senses to their FB but holds back due to the nature of such relationship. How often would u wanna let it out and hv sensual talks to care and understand for each other. Many a time one would be taken aback and refrain frm sharing too much. But there are moments where one might be comfy enough to share intimate thots wif ur FB. Afterall, it still requires certain degree of sensual comfortness when u are wif ur FB.

Small head over big head? Big head ruining the rules of the game? Would like to hear ur comments.

ps: to those whom I had once hurt, I'm sorry...

For my case, 1 of my FB are from friends, becoming FB... 1 was my gf, and after break, become FB... 1 knew her online, and well, ended as FB...

Many of times, I would confide with my 2nd one, which is my gf previously. Cause she knew about me most (We were together for 4yrs before breaking up due to some cases, which I dun wish to said it...) When we became FB, do felt of 'chasing' her back again... But everytime when think of the past, will felt sad, and not wanting to get hurt again...

For my 1st FB, we do have feeling for each other too. Just that due to certain reason, we aren't able to have a proper relationship. Hence will control our feeling from developing further. In fact when we are out of country, we will act like a real couple... Holding hands, walking down the street etc...

For the last FB, it's purely LUST... Perhaps there's some feeling between us, but I guessed LUST in between wins the 'feeling'....

[Fantasysez]

Originally Posted by jasdude

Starting from initial attraction , lust to trust and companionship . A FB that can be your alternate soul mate is the ultimate you can get

Originally Posted by whiteangelcsh

Probably the fear of being falling in love?

Originally Posted by jasdude

Yes there is always a possibility when you meet someone that stimulate you mentally and physically ! But as long both talk things out initially and both understand each others need for comfort and support . it can be a very long lasting relationship . COMMUNICATION is the key to unlock the FEEL for each other .

Originally Posted by jasdude

We are all humans beings not devoid of feelings . however , if the FB is married or both married ! do reconsider the Consequences of your actions cos responsibilities to the family must not be forsaken .

Originally Posted by whiteangelcsh

I would reckon tt it's the mentality of one's maturity over such relationship.....at certain point of time in our life, despite whether attached or married, one would hv needs, not juz sexual needs but tt of a confide. Someone whom u juz like to relax, share moments/thoughts, hv sex and then go back to ur normal life.....Friends with Benefits - someone who u can share ur senses, period.

Originally Posted by gotcraft30

I guess the trick is finding that balance. Someone who is crazy enough to risk morals and family for you but still logical enough to know that it is the best you can do in the situation that you are in.

Is your partner (gf/bf/wife/hubby) your soul mate? If he/she is not, the chances of your FB being your alternate soul mate can indeed be very possible.

Most of the times, most people entered into such lifestyle without the slightest intention to get involved emotionally for fear of falling in love. It's all about instant gratification. In fact, some went in head on saying it's all just sex & no love.

I guessed all of that is easy as long as one understands the rules of the game & stick with it. However, when your "alternate soul mate" appeared, nothing can stop the rush of emotions flooding the gates of the heart. There is no denial when you experience that mutual physical & sexual chemistry or attraction to each other, and no, it's no longer lust.

I discovered probably the only way to ensure never to get emotions involved is to just "fxxx & go". Leave your emotions at the door. That also means no lunch, no dinner, no sms, no small talk, no sharing about your life or day except the basics.

But honestly, all of us crave for that magical feel .... to love and be loved deep inside. FBs give us that temporal feel. And most of us are happy with that. But once that magical person "accidentally" appeared, who seems to be able to fill that void in your heart that your gf/bf/wife/hubby cannot fulfil, a long lasting relationship can be built. And when it happens the most unexpectedly, it can be the most beautiful thing.

For now, whether the relationship last or not is secondary ....
I just want to make the best of it, treasure every moment of it while it last.
I believe it's "better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all'

... thanks for loving me .........

[Krazzie]

Used to talk too much with my former FB ended up starting to talk love in bed... both of us agreed to stop when we both realized that we are going down a steep slope with a cliff at the end of it. Now we just talk on the phone instead of meeting each other. I still ache for her but this is for the best.

Anyway it depends on the circumstances. If both are single and available, it is alright to fall for each other... but if either party for whatever reason shouldnt be too involved then doing things that may cause you to fall in love is bad. But as bro Fantasysez mentioned all of us crave that magical feel, unless you are so scared of it you run away from it.

[jasdude]

Originally Posted by Fantasysez

For now, whether the relationship last or not is secondary ....
I just want to make the best of it, treasure every moment of it while it last.
I believe it's "better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all'

YES . Loved and tried than regret you never ever .