Wat happen when ur wife figure gone bad after giving birth??

manny · #1 29-10-2010, 03:25 PM

It kind of sadden me to see a wife gone fat, pale, tired and ugly after giving birth to kids and then, the hubby jus look the same.. Feels kind of unfair to women.. Droopy boobs, bigger hips, darker eye circle, thicker waist.. Omg.. It jus happen to womeb..
Whenever i see such woman wif kid and hubby, i cant help it but ask my hb what will he feel if i become like that? His reply is obviously, i'll still love u As much.. But deep down, i realli hav my doubt.. My hb is alittle vain, he will exercise whenever he can.. N never realli allow himself to grow fat... Bein his wife, i feel pressured to look better though after having 2 kids.. Its realli nt easy..
Jus wonder hw u guys will feel when ur wife sacrificed her looks n figure after bearing u kids? Still love her jus as much? Or will it affect ur love towards her a little?

sammyboyfor · #2 29-10-2010, 03:34 PM

ekemono · #3 29-10-2010, 03:41 PM

sta1100 · #4 29-10-2010, 04:10 PM

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Originally Posted by manny

It kind of sadden me to see a wife gone fat, pale, tired and ugly after giving birth to kids and then, the hubby jus look the same.. Feels kind of unfair to women.. Droopy boobs, bigger hips, darker eye circle, thicker waist.. Omg.. It jus happen to womeb..
Whenever i see such woman wif kid and hubby, i cant help it but ask my hb what will he feel if i become like that? His reply is obviously, i'll still love u As much.. But deep down, i realli hav my doubt.. My hb is alittle vain, he will exercise whenever he can.. N never realli allow himself to grow fat... Bein his wife, i feel pressured to look better though after having 2 kids.. Its realli nt easy..
Jus wonder hw u guys will feel when ur wife sacrificed her looks n figure after bearing u kids? Still love her jus as much? Or will it affect ur love towards her a little?

Hi Manny

It your HB need to love you as what you are after giving bath to 2 children, as for me i still love my wife even her body put on some weight,but she look more sexy now.

manny · #5 29-10-2010, 04:50 PM

Sta110... Im luckier as im still as slim as before preg but jus tat my tummy is nt tat tone like before.. Still same " but jus nt the same and its enuff to make mi sad... But when i see other couple, wife become fat and hb slim size.. I feel bad for the lady.. Putting on a little weight is fine but gone fat?! Omg.. Realli v sad.. Tat happened to one of my fren and she is so bz looki g after her bb, she neglected her figure n look.. Become so much like ah soh.. Only 25yrs old.. Feels tat her youth is somehow wasted if she dun start putting some attention on herself..

ekemono · #6 29-10-2010, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by manny

soh.. Only 25yrs old.. Feels tat her youth is somehow wasted if she dun start putting some attention on herself..

I am sure she would want to, and so is the hubby for a sexier wife.
It would be most ideal if she could balance family life and an exercise regime. But with kids in an average income family, ideal usually doesn't happens.
Children are misforgiving in thier own ways.

Moreover, the shift of priority changes for a responsible couples when they have kids. No more is the bulk of joy derive from sex with a sexy wife or a hunky hubby, but the everyday heartwarming interaction with their children. It is not a choice, it is the nature of lifestyle for parents.

Sad and negative it may sounds, but a matured-minded couples as Father and Mother themselves will not be saddened by few inches thicker on the waist.

Stating an example for a better undersatanding:
Your wife goes out these whole week for fitness session and lost a few inches to the waist. But you discovered your maid, upon your wife's absent, did not took good care of your baby hygiene and the poor child develop nappy rashes.
Which issue will you be more concern about the entire night?

So, tips for young mothers. If you wanna your husband to worship you, take best care of your baby first, and then your body.

manny · #7 29-10-2010, 08:00 PM

Yes u r so rite... Taking care of kids is definitely the priority.. But i also feel tat taking care of one's look and figure is also impt though nt as impt as kids.. I've had nice ex colleagues who made effort to exercise during lunchtime etc.. They look absolutely great! Well i jus feel tat being a mum can also look good.. Doesnt means one shld end up looking so haggard after having kids.. I've had frens who unfortunately when astray after he wife giv birth to kids n as i described earlier, doesnt take care of herself n end up fat, ugly etc.. There are also nice hbs who love their wife despite any chAnges and thats definitely greAt! I hope my hb will b like tat too!!

goodpartner · #8 31-10-2010, 12:32 AM

I'll tell her that if she grows FAT, I'll start looking for slim GFs.
Because if I tell her that I'll still love her no matter how fat she becomes, she won't believe me and say that deep down she'll still have doubts

Women...what's new?

Cum'on, what do you LIKE to hear from your hubby as an good answer?

Maybe you tell us what's a acceptable model answer.

ekemono · #9 31-10-2010, 07:54 AM

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Originally Posted by goodpartner

Maybe you tell us what's a acceptable model answer.

There're no acceptable answer. Either way you are dead.

1)
Wife: Dear, am i fat?
Husband: No dear, you look good
Wife: You are lying! I know I look fat.
Wife: Now you started lying to me. I hate you! Go away!!

2)
Wife: Dear, am I fat?
Husband: A bit, but it is okay.
Wife: You think I am fat? no wonder you started looking at sexy ladies.
Wife: You dun love me anymore. Dun touch me. I hate you!

manny · #10 31-10-2010, 10:32 AM

Wahaha... True, either way also die..

peanut123 · #11 31-10-2010, 12:17 PM

I share the same sentiments. As a guy who's been banging cute young things, I sometimes wonder what will happen to my sex drive if one day I really settle down with a woman who then proceeds to transform into a flabby ah soh. I mean, all of us will age, but some age more gracefully than others.

I once saw my friend's wife after a few years. If I didn't know better, I would have thought she was the nanny or the maid. She was never really slim in the first place, but now she looked exactly like the fishmonger in the wet market - plump, no makeup, wearing dumpy clothes, and looked way older than her true age. In my mind, I had a hard time imaging my friend getting aroused and banging her. Maybe he's eating out ?

Anyway, I think the key is self-maintenance. Some women put in effort to minimize the effects of time and motherhood. Some don't bother. It's all up to her.

Oopsx2010 · #12 31-10-2010, 12:28 PM

Manny,

Why worry about others? If you read more in this forum, you'll know that no matter how well kept the wives are, husbands still 'eat out'. There are thousands and one reasons to do so.

I agree that women should take care of their health and appearance for themselves not others!

joew2005 · #13 31-10-2010, 12:39 PM

In the ideal world -

Wedding Oath
2 ppl,
Fr 2 diff backgrounds
Hv come 2 say yes 2 a word of oath
They hv exchanged oaths
'Till death do us apart'
Woman,u r leaving 4 yr matrimonial home
Make sure u give respect
2 family members of yr husband
Including his bros & sis
father,mother & other relatives
Don't be 2 4ward & froward
But be submissive 2
every member of yr new family
So tat the humbleness in u may reflect
& ppl may say prayers 2 the
parents tat bring you up
But u 2 do ride the waves with wisdom
4 tat is wat it takes 2 make a home
& if u lack it god supplies
If only u could humble yrselves in prayer
A word is enough 4 the wise

But then tis is the REAL world ..... & do not follow the ideal case ALL the time !!

iphone5 · #14 31-10-2010, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by manny

being a mum can also look good.. !

agree sis, being as mum looks good too, and i like a girl a little flesh and really dont keen on the skinny skinny ones, but still hope the mum will also take care of herself to some extent not becoming fatty - think that is not difficulty

Again different man have different tastes

sta1100 · #15 31-10-2010, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by peanut123

I share the same sentiments. As a guy who's been banging cute young things, I sometimes wonder what will happen to my sex drive if one day I really settle down with a woman who then proceeds to transform into a flabby ah soh. I mean, all of us will age, but some age more gracefully than others.

I once saw my friend's wife after a few years. If I didn't know better, I would have thought she was the nanny or the maid. She was never really slim in the first place, but now she looked exactly like the fishmonger in the wet market - plump, no makeup, wearing dumpy clothes, and looked way older than her true age. In my mind, I had a hard time imaging my friend getting aroused and banging her. Maybe he's eating out ?

Anyway, I think the key is self-maintenance. Some women put in effort to minimize the effects of time and motherhood. Some don't bother. It's all up to her.

HiP123. I really like the way you put it, it v v truth it all up to the woman