Qi Nian Zhi Yang (7 Yrs Itchy)

BODO · #1 18-10-2010, 02:13 AM

I'm married for almmost 7 yrs and my child is 2 yrs old now. But my relation with my wife, a full time house wife, is drifting farther and farther apart. Maybe is this caused by the constant nagging and house chores she forcing me to do even after work. From my wife's pregency till my child 2 yrs old now, we only had sex twice. It is like 2 times in 3 yrs. She is just not interested at all.

Recently, I get to know a gal from work. She is cute, she is cheerful, abit chubby. She was quite surprised that I was married with a child when I first got to know her.

Though not as pretty as my wife, but I'm quite attracted by her after months of working together. I often look towards her direction, I often walk in front of her desk hope she would notice me. Although I dunno what she thinks about me, but she started to notice the attention I have for her. I felt my action was like courting girls when I was still single.

BUT! I must stop all this. Although my feeling for my wife have faded, but I love my son. I dun wanna part with my son because I have an affair or for whatever reason.

I am abit confused now, lack of abit of determination. Any advise from brothers?

Niceman · #2 18-10-2010, 02:25 AM

Follow where the heart goes. In life, there is no right or wrong, is a matter of choice, to be lonely or to seek happiness.

mr chen · #3 18-10-2010, 02:34 AM

@bro BODO, family is more important and it is unwise to shit where you eat.

ManageYou · #4 18-10-2010, 02:37 AM

For your son you must do it, just think if when you are young and your father gave you a step-brother/sister. How will you feel?

beachaway · #5 18-10-2010, 09:08 AM

i guess u and ur wife have lost the communication, just go for paid sex and dun destroy what u have built over the yrs just for a short fling/affair. it's not worth it.

can u imagine u have to go thru the whole process again... court ship - divorce - preparing for a new marriage - see ur new girl true colours out after some time - have babies again - go thru the infant stage....

to me it's scary to go thru the above again, and divorce dun come cheap...

just my 2 cents worth of thoughts, hope it helps...

simple2kee · #6 18-10-2010, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Niceman

In life, there is no right or wrong, is a matter of choice, to be lonely or to seek happiness.

bro, i do agree. i would like to add tht we must be responsible for our own action, no 1 else.

dgsk · #7 18-10-2010, 10:51 AM

Don't kill yourself by over analyzing bro.
I used to think like you and lost out on a lot of friendships.
Girls can be friends too. And it sounds like you need a friend.
Take it from there and slow down on the courtship.
If the chemistry is there, then go with the flow. She already knows you are married, that's a plus. If not for anything else, you have made a friend and makan kaki during lunch.

Good Luck

lovebj83 · #8 18-10-2010, 11:09 AM

Hi bro BODO,

I'm married for 7 years +, my kid is 7 yrs old. I used to have the same problem as u. After giving birth my wife lost interest in making love etc.

You gotta try and get her interested, sayang her like u did last time. Try and rekindle the feeling you both used to have.

Now my wife is the one asking "Y these 2 days u never touch me?" jus cos im tired from work..

Of cos other things include comments others said like : dun shit where u eat.

Its not only relationship problems that may happen, it may also affect ur work.

Not worth it to have anything happen to your family and affect ur kid.

Hope u pull thru this well.

All the best!

naturegreen · #9 18-10-2010, 11:23 AM

TS, I believe there are many others out there having this same problem. We are just so weird, be it male or females. Before we get married, we wanted to bonk the hell out of each other, but after marriage, everything slows down or even stops. I have faced this problem before too during my OC's pregnancy. But mine was the 2 Yrs Itch. LOL

gpod · #10 18-10-2010, 11:46 AM

ts after getting child, lady may direct their interest to kids and ignore the hubby, and this is norm. try to talk to her, if cant they just carry outside if u can not control

kingfuck · #11 18-10-2010, 02:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Niceman

Follow where the heart goes. In life, there is no right or wrong, is a matter of choice, to be lonely or to seek happiness.

Wah Nice Man,

your reply is very phili sophical and I like it very much.

powder full man !!!1

VanGogh · #12 18-10-2010, 02:33 PM

If your wife is genuinely not interested in Sex and you are drifting apart, then you should not start a relationship as yet... but maybe have a good talk first. However, to ease your sexual desire, you can always take a look at our FL domes and of course Bro, practice safe Sex.

Sidetrack abit just to share personal experience : For me, I tot my ex-wife and i was drifting apart due to te same issue : after childbirth lost sex interest etc etc.... little did i know that she's having great fun outside without me.. ... LOL

but that was more than 10 yrs ago and I'm a much happier man today.. ...

singexpat · #13 18-10-2010, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by naturegreen

But mine was the 2 Yrs Itch. LOL

U are on Express level mah Bro.. Mine oso around same time..

owl888 · #14 19-10-2010, 12:27 AM

TS could it b that u seem uninterested to have sex with your wife bcoz she shows lack of interest? If both party so negative then the result could be much much negative. Should stay positive in a healthy relationship. My humble 2 cents!

B52bomber · #15 19-10-2010, 12:34 AM

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Originally Posted by BODO

I'm married for almmost 7 yrs and my child is 2 yrs old now. But my relation with my wife, a full time house wife, is drifting farther and farther apart. Maybe is this caused by the constant nagging and house chores she forcing me to do even after work. From my wife's pregency till my child 2 yrs old now, we only had sex twice. It is like 2 times in 3 yrs. She is just not interested at all.

Recently, I get to know a gal from work. She is cute, she is cheerful, abit chubby. She was quite surprised that I was married with a child when I first got to know her.

Though not as pretty as my wife, but I'm quite attracted by her after months of working together. I often look towards her direction, I often walk in front of her desk hope she would notice me. Although I dunno what she thinks about me, but she started to notice the attention I have for her. I felt my action was like courting girls when I was still single.

BUT! I must stop all this. Although my feeling for my wife have faded, but I love my son. I dun wanna part with my son because I have an affair or for whatever reason.

I am abit confused now, lack of abit of determination. Any advise from brothers?

I been married for 21 yrs...still itchy and need to fuck someone else..