All Men are Liars - Sex, Lies, Prostitution

[kryptonite123]

I happen to come across this blog entry – interesting! Do take a look at it.

The Sydney Morning Herald Blogs: All Men Are Liars


Similarly in Singpore,

Women – Much of their effort is used to make themselves attractive (to men). Cosmetics, slimming treatment, bust enhancements, the list goes on.

Men – We focus our energies on carving out successful careers, moneymaking, so as to purchase that attraction. The logic is that the more $ and power men have, the more attractive women they will be able to “purchase”.


I know there are bros here who are single (late 20s, 30s, 40s...). True love – Everyone’s looking for it – men and especially women. It does appear in movies, but in real life? Of course, a true relationship isn’t all about sex; the ideal situation would be you can find someone whom you are able to connect with emotionally, and the sex will not be plain animal sex, but that of a deeper level. But until that person appears, and if that person does not appear, are you going to remain celibate your whole life? Women have their needs, what more men?

So you either:

1. Pay for FL/WL. Simple cash-service transaction. You get what you want i.e. sex. The FL/WL gets what she wants i.e. $. End of story.

2. You go to clubs (e.g. Zouk, St. James Powerhouse) and nightspots and try to pickup girls to get laid. You use those pickup artist methods to “build attraction” and get them into bed. Apparently, more deception is involved here, as in your motives are not as clear-cut as (1). After all, if you went up to a girl and asked “I just want sex - nothing more”, you’re going to fire blanks 9.9/10 times, so those pickup techniques are somewhat needed.

(1) Vs. (2)
I think the general thinking is that (2) is more morally right than (1). I used to think like that. Not anymore. Not that I want to justify commercial sex (that’s not my purpose), seducing girls in clubs and trying to get them into bed isn’t morally superior to paying for sex. At least there is some honesty (less mind games) for the latter.


What’s your take on this issue?

[goodpartner]

Being wanted is perhaps the greatest turn-on in the bedroom, and though you can buy a prostitute's body, you cannot purchase her desire.

I strive to purchase that "desire" in the commercial sex scene

In other words, I'm always looking to pay for "being wanted" so that I can enjoy that great turn-on to have the best sex possible - however it's still a deal, although it's not a one-off transaction. Do I sound confusing or contradicting?

[Joris]

Its like fishing, either wait for the bait to be taken or go to the wet market buy instantly.
I'll go with option 1, simple cash transaction make things more easier and less feelings involved.

[break free]

Having sex is different with making love. When you are having sex with someone that you have feelings for it's never going to be the same as making out with a FL/WL.

Or simply put it, if you just want sex, pay the price...

[Roman city]

Personally i would prefer commercial sex. Other options will have a higher propensity of developing feelings if your main objective is purely sex. Reduce the chances of hurting someone or hurting oneself.

[nottituck]

women lie too but they seldom get caught that's why!

[alphonsus]

Getting commercial sex is to satisfy one's sexual needs. Its a transaction where you pay, bang, happy, and go off (sequence varies).

Getting gals from a night scene is much more than sex. The excitement of courting a gal; Ego boosting with the triumph of a conquest; Brain crackling mind games with opposite sex etc.

I will chose gals from the night scene. Because I'm looking at fulfilling of the inner needs more than outright sexual needs.

There is no such thing as morally wrong or right for either option. Just which side of the coin you want it to be.

[Longitude]

There are many different ways of reaching a goal. There are a number of different routes to the same conclusion. For the faithful, all roads do indeed lead to Rome.

[cabayasi]

Urgent call, option 1.

Leasure game, option 2.

That's me.

Although both lead to sex. Option 1 is clear cut, option 2 no guarantee. If option 2 fail, must remember the source to option 1, or else will have to spent the night blank

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by alphonsus

Getting commercial sex is to satisfy one's sexual needs. Its a transaction where you pay, bang, happy, and go off (sequence varies).
Getting gals from a night scene is much more than sex. The excitement of courting a gal; Ego boosting with the triumph of a conquest; Brain crackling mind games with opposite sex etc.
I will chose gals from the night scene. Because I'm looking at fulfilling of the inner needs more than outright sexual needs.
There is no such thing as morally wrong or right for either option. Just which side of the coin you want it to be.

Agreed with yr explanation. 1) & 2) are two different issues. For me, I go to HC/TN to release. No KC involvement. However, still can enjoy to a certain extend of gfe ... cos I normally go for my regular. So, over time, you will get a little gfe. Good luck.

[break free]

Originally Posted by nottituck

women lie too but they seldom get caught that's why!

I agree with you partly, but I would like to add a point here. If man are caught cheating, chances are even if your spouse or GF says she'll forgive you, it's never true. They'll always remember it deep down.

For us, it's harding for us to say that we'll forgive them, but once we forgive, we'll probably generally eventually forget about it as well...

Thats how I feel, what about you guys?

[gjlow]

Agree that women won't forget

Originally Posted by break free

I agree with you partly, but I would like to add a point here. If man are caught cheating, chances are even if your spouse or GF says she'll forgive you, it's never true. They'll always remember it deep down.

For us, it's harding for us to say that we'll forgive them, but once we forgive, we'll probably generally eventually forget about it as well...

Thats how I feel, what about you guys?

[HCKing]

can the husband approach the wife one fine day and ask her politely ' darling i am sick of only making love with a woman all the time, can i go try making love with a different woman for a change? i promise i will be back by 10. '

will the wife give him a hug and kiss for his honesty?

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by alphonsus

Getting commercial sex is to satisfy one's sexual needs. Its a transaction where you pay, bang, happy, and go off (sequence varies).

Getting gals from a night scene is much more than sex. The excitement of courting a gal; Ego boosting with the triumph of a conquest; Brain crackling mind games with opposite sex etc.

I will chose gals from the night scene. Because I'm looking at fulfilling of the inner needs more than outright sexual needs.

There is no such thing as morally wrong or right for either option. Just which side of the coin you want it to be.

well said bro. i will go 4 both as both options are equally sextisfying though the end results are the same. but getting gals from the night scene will be more risky if one is married and the girl happens to be the easy to lay but hard to dump type.

[A Simple Man]

every human beings will at least tell some lies during their life time.
it depends whether they are white lies or bad lies.