How do you manage finacial issues with wife or girlfriend

[Vanda]

Originally Posted by thedevil666

I think the best way to ensure you keep your salary is to make sure u wear the pants in the relationship. Make sure u are the one and only alpha. Show her that she can’t live without you, and not the other way round. If u showhand your emotions during the courtship, u gonna showhand your wallet when the relationship becomes more stable

I got a prc xiao ginna looked up to me for marriage, quite pretty and slutty looking claimed that she working in night club. She demanded that she wanted to marry me as soon as possible because her boyfriend dun love her for not buying shoes of 400 rm and she want .to take revenge to show her boyfriend that there are many suitors willing to marry her and keep her as tai tai. After that she claim she is very happy that her boyfriend patched back to her and agreed to give 100% of his salary to her which is 10k rm. This guy must be another xiao ding tong tio gong tao from her bed skills.

I guessed you are right showing her you are the Alpha guy only when you are financially well off and confident in career and leadership.

[ourworld]

I’m a housewife,,,
My duty is to take care of the kids and manage the house chores,,,
We don’t have a maid,,, but we have a part time baby sitter,,
I don’t work,, I don’t have any income,,,
So there is not sharing or splitting,,,
he pays for everything,,,

My hubby didn’t give me a specific amount for allowance,,
He sub his CC for me,,,
So whenever I need to buy anything,, I will use the sub card,,

I’m not into luxury stuffs,,,
so most of the money I spend are on Our kids,,

I guess in a relationship,, it’s not so much about money money money,,,
I might not be working, but I contribute my entire time to the family,,,
I woke up at 6:30am, I cook breakfast,
I then wake my 4 year old boy up at 7,,
Bath him and feed him,,
hubby drive him to school at 7:30
By then my younger son would have oredi woken up,,,
I got to feed him,,,
Then bring him out for a walk and groceries shopping at 9am
He got to sleep again at 11am, that’s where I do my house chores,,,
And cook lunch,,,

He will usually wakes up at 1am and I will have to feed him and play with him,,
3pm I will head out to pick my son from school,,,
Come back home,,
Cooks dinner,,,,
Imagine a 4 yr and a 1 yr old are together,,, chaos,,,
Typically, my hubby will return at 6pm,,,
Monday and Tue my elder son has math tuition,,
Wed and thurs he has eng class,,,
That’s where my baby sitter will be around,,
Hubby and I will send him to class and wait for him,,,
We will spend some couple time together,,,

My day is pack,, I only do online shopping from Lazada,,,
And yes,, I use my hubby card,,
But we have a joint account,, he keeps a good amount in the account,,,
That’s about it,,

[ibanezjem555]

That`s nice Mrs Ow.

Prefer to have a full-time domestic help.
At first, wifey was apprehensive as privacy intrusion.
After 6 or 7 changes over many years, she realised domestic help is indispensable.

Early years, domestic help clean house, wash and iron clothes etc whilst we improve quality time with kids on homework, go outdoors n play, bedtime stories etc..

Now, old already, we spend time walking after dinner whilst domestic help cleans up and cooks which saves lots of money..

Domestic help is expensive. But it buys us time which is priceless.

[Vanda]

Originally Posted by ourworld

I’m a housewife,,,
My duty is to take care of the kids and manage the house chores,,,
We don’t have a maid,,, but we have a part time baby sitter,,
I don’t work,, I don’t have any income,,,
So there is not sharing or splitting,,,
he pays for everything,,,

My hubby didn’t give me a specific amount for allowance,,
He sub his CC for me,,,
So whenever I need to buy anything,, I will use the sub card,,

I’m not into luxury stuffs,,,
so most of the money I spend are on Our kids,,

I guess in a relationship,, it’s not so much about money money money,,,
I might not be working, but I contribute my entire time to the family,,,
I woke up at 6:30am, I cook breakfast,
I then wake my 4 year old boy up at 7,,
Bath him and feed him,,
hubby drive him to school at 7:30
By then my younger son would have oredi woken up,,,
I got to feed him,,,
Then bring him out for a walk and groceries shopping at 9am
He got to sleep again at 11am, that’s where I do my house chores,,,
And cook lunch,,,

He will usually wakes up at 1am and I will have to feed him and play with him,,
3pm I will head out to pick my son from school,,,
Come back home,,
Cooks dinner,,,,
Imagine a 4 yr and a 1 yr old are together,,, chaos,,,
Typically, my hubby will return at 6pm,,,
Monday and Tue my elder son has math tuition,,
Wed and thurs he has eng class,,,
That’s where my baby sitter will be around,,
Hubby and I will send him to class and wait for him,,,
We will spend some couple time together,,,

My day is pack,, I only do online shopping from Lazada,,,
And yes,, I use my hubby card,,
But we have a joint account,, he keeps a good amount in the account,,,
That’s about it,,

Good morning, mrs ow, looks like your hubby earn 5k~6k per month or more. You husband is lucky to have you fully take care family. Nice feedback. Thank you

[Vanda]

Originally Posted by ibanezjem555

That`s nice Mrs Ow.

Prefer to have a full-time domestic help.
At first, wifey was apprehensive as privacy intrusion.
After 6 or 7 changes over many years, she realised domestic help is indispensable.

Early years, domestic help clean house, wash and iron clothes etc whilst we improve quality time with kids on homework, go outdoors n play, bedtime stories etc..

Now, old already, we spend time walking after dinner whilst domestic help cleans up and cooks which saves lots of money..

Domestic help is expensive. But it buys us time which is priceless.

It is good to save time, my sis has a daughter, she took up to the naughty cunningness of the maid. After the maid had scammed some air ticket money not returning. My niece take a better change under tuletage of my sister and had significant change in behaviour and character. I believe that the maid must have good character to take care of children, becos they affect their upbringing.

[lynnlynn2525]

gd pov
Can gv her allowances u also human ,needs some cash for your own “me” time n “me” stuffs ma. As a woman I feel my man can go out play lol but must remember his duties as a family unit n be safe Tts all dun squandered all his money on outside char bor can liao ;p

Lynn

Originally Posted by Vanda

Seriously I dun mind spend more for wifey for giving birth and children education and be a responsible man and father of family unit, but I feel that women should not be over hawkish on men salary. So far I have not seen any female samster input yet. Anyway appreciate your input from a father pov.

[lynnlynn2525]

Lol this is funny n hilarious 🤣

Originally Posted by thedevil666

I think the best way to ensure you keep your salary is to make sure u wear the pants in the relationship. Make sure u are the one and only alpha. Show her that she can’t live without you, and not the other way round. If u showhand your emotions during the courtship, u gonna showhand your wallet when the relationship becomes more stable

[Vanda]

Originally Posted by lynnlynn2525

gd pov
Can gv her allowances u also human ,needs some cash for your own “me” time n “me” stuffs ma. As a woman I feel my man can go out play lol but must remember his duties as a family unit n be safe Tts all dun squandered all his money on outside char bor can liao ;p

Lynn

I feel that married man play with women as fb, it is dangerous that men will throw feelings to KC traps. Sex is a dangerous tool that can make very strong bond feelings between man and woman which is why it may destabilize family relationships. Which is why I disagreed with having extramarital relationships especially sex. I rather respect a marriage relationship.
Sex can make you think about each other very strongly and sex can help patch back relationships between husband and wife as a mean to overhaul and repair relationships

[thedevil666]

Originally Posted by lynnlynn2525

Lol this is funny n hilarious ��

i think it is not funny. i somehow think the bros here who shared that they surrendered their salary appears to be more submissive. not disrespect to the bros here. my assumption can be wrong also. it is also nothing wrong if u truly madly deeply love your gf/wife.

Originally Posted by Vanda

I guessed you are right showing her you are the Alpha guy only when you are financially well off and confident in career and leadership.

i really despise such type of woman. honestly, they should reflect themselves in the mirror before being so demanding. if they are that good, they don't need to work in those places. my 2 cents.

Originally Posted by ourworld

I’m a housewife,,,
My duty is to take care of the kids and manage the house chores,,,
We don’t have a maid,,, but we have a part time baby sitter,,
I don’t work,, I don’t have any income,,,
So there is not sharing or splitting,,,
he pays for everything,,,

My hubby didn’t give me a specific amount for allowance,,
He sub his CC for me,,,
So whenever I need to buy anything,, I will use the sub card,,

I’m not into luxury stuffs,,,
so most of the money I spend are on Our kids,,

I guess in a relationship,, it’s not so much about money money money,,,
I might not be working, but I contribute my entire time to the family,,,
I woke up at 6:30am, I cook breakfast,
I then wake my 4 year old boy up at 7,,
Bath him and feed him,,
hubby drive him to school at 7:30
By then my younger son would have oredi woken up,,,
I got to feed him,,,
Then bring him out for a walk and groceries shopping at 9am
He got to sleep again at 11am, that’s where I do my house chores,,,
And cook lunch,,,

He will usually wakes up at 1am and I will have to feed him and play with him,,
3pm I will head out to pick my son from school,,,
Come back home,,
Cooks dinner,,,,
Imagine a 4 yr and a 1 yr old are together,,, chaos,,,
Typically, my hubby will return at 6pm,,,
Monday and Tue my elder son has math tuition,,
Wed and thurs he has eng class,,,
That’s where my baby sitter will be around,,
Hubby and I will send him to class and wait for him,,,
We will spend some couple time together,,,

My day is pack,, I only do online shopping from Lazada,,,
And yes,, I use my hubby card,,
But we have a joint account,, he keeps a good amount in the account,,,
That’s about it,,

i think a responsible father, husband should have no qualms in feeding or providing for the family without complains. the wife, mother take care of the family while dad take care of the mouth. she sacrifice so much, by dedicating their life for the family.. to expect the husband to give allowance is a given.

im more against the so called tai tais. do nothing, probably dump the household chores and the kids to the maid/MIL, everyday shopping/mahjong but still want this and that. worse still, don't even provide sex to the husband after marriage/ giving birth.

[Vanda]

Bro 666, my respect for you. Couldn't agreed more

[cavemanng]

It takes both hands to clap. In order for things to work:

1. Wife must be reasonable. Occasionally big spending is OK but not every month. If every month whack 1 LV or Hermes, sooner or later husband die even if he earn $10-20k a month. One LV per year still possible. If not 1 luxury holiday still doable

2. Husband also must be reasonable. Can cheong but limit cheonging to maybe $500-1000 per month. Don't let FL carrot head u. If FL also want you to buy LV or Hermes every month, also die cock stand. Just fuck and go if you need

3. Then I think $8-10k per month salary is OK. Don't anyhow spend. If one year get few months bonus, then can spend on luxury items or holiday. If have car, then need to spend less also.

Usually why wife control? Because $ not enough. Why husband complain, because money not enough. Then sure quarrel one

[ilovepantyhose]

Originally Posted by thedevil666

im more against the so called tai tais. do nothing, probably dump the household chores and the kids to the maid/MIL, everyday shopping/mahjong but still want this and that. worse still, don't even provide sex to the husband after marriage/ giving birth.

tiagong some wives belittle their husbands and keep comparing them against their friends' husbands, seems like their expectations on certain things in life are not realistic/pragmatic

when one becomes a tai tai, hoseh jackpot liao, shake leg all the way

[Vanda]

Originally Posted by cavemanng

It takes both hands to clap. In order for things to work:

1. Wife must be reasonable. Occasionally big spending is OK but not every month. If every month whack 1 LV or Hermes, sooner or later husband die even if he earn $10-20k a month. One LV per year still possible. If not 1 luxury holiday still doable

2. Husband also must be reasonable. Can cheong but limit cheonging to maybe $500-1000 per month. Don't let FL carrot head u. If FL also want you to buy LV or Hermes every month, also die cock stand. Just fuck and go if you need

3. Then I think $8-10k per month salary is OK. Don't anyhow spend. If one year get few months bonus, then can spend on luxury items or holiday. If have car, then need to spend less also.

Usually why wife control? Because $ not enough. Why husband complain, because money not enough. Then sure quarrel one

Bro I agree with you and if things deviated from such norms where you had mentioned, is considered not a stable relationship or a jeopardized relationship. If husband had allowed wifey to climb above head and spolit market, I have nothing to say but wish them well. I had a failed relationship with my wife as a non contributor even though I did my utmost sincerity to maintain this relationship. One conclusion, there is no mutual love in this relationship.

[HeLovesMe]

Originally Posted by Vanda

I got a prc xiao ginna looked up to me for marriage, quite pretty and slutty looking claimed that she working in night club. She demanded that she wanted to marry me as soon as possible because her boyfriend dun love her for not buying shoes of 400 rm and she want .to take revenge to show her boyfriend that there are many suitors willing to marry her and keep her as tai tai. After that she claim she is very happy that her boyfriend patched back to her and agreed to give 100% of his salary to her which is 10k rm. This guy must be another xiao ding tong tio gong tao from her bed skills.

I guessed you are right showing her you are the Alpha guy only when you are financially well off and confident in career and leadership.

This guy marrying PRC Xiao will regret later after marriage. Self entitled women will make their husbands and kids suffer in silence.

[thedevil666]

Originally Posted by ilovepantyhose

tiagong some wives belittle their husbands and keep comparing them against their friends' husbands, seems like their expectations on certain things in life are not realistic/pragmatic

when one becomes a tai tai, hoseh jackpot liao, shake leg all the way

if the husband is already a rich tao kay, or ah ah sia kia to begin with, maybe becoming a tai tai is not wrong. who doesn't want to marry into the rich and respected? everyone want to be meghan markle right?

but if your husband is also just a 9 to 5 normal guy, working hard for himself, the best a good partner can do is to be by his side and give his career a support. not comparing him with other ah sia kia or belittle his slow progress.

you are correct, need to be realistic, but not overly pragmatic.