I stopped going to KTV for 5 months and end up losing contact with all my friends

[y238992]

I had a very good group of core friends that I know since poly. They introduce me to KTV. I did not like to go KTV at first but after getting stressed and bullied in the working world, I became addicted to KTV..maybe we went once every 2 to 3 months, though got a short period of time we went almost every month.

However, 5 months ago, I cut the habit as I wanted to change my life. I also did not like being made fun of during KTV sessions, they like to make fun of my lack of love life or work problems. Got one guy, someone i consider a close friend also like to secretly take photos too. They invited me since but I (very, very politely) said no.. since then, they stopped contacting me, not even for a meal out.... Since then, I realised that they are more willing to communicate with each other than with me, as I still keep in touch with one of them.

Since then, I became total male loner. I tried joining meet-up groups for hiking and book reading clubs but only managed to form passing acquaintances and not genuine friendship. I am heartbroken that my male friendships of over 20 years turned out to be so shallow.

[chubbybastard]

Originally Posted by y238992

I had a very good group of core friends that I know since poly. They introduce me to KTV. I did not like to go KTV at first but after getting stressed and bullied in the working world, I became addicted to KTV..maybe we went once every 2 to 3 months, though got a short period of time we went almost every month.

However, 5 months ago, I cut the habit as I wanted to change my life. I also did not like being made fun of during KTV sessions, they like to make fun of my lack of love life or work problems. Got one guy, someone i consider a close friend also like to secretly take photos too. They invited me since but I (very, very politely) said no.. since then, they stopped contacting me, not even for a meal out.... Since then, I realised that they are more willing to communicate with each other than with me, as I still keep in touch with one of them.

Since then, I became total male loner. I tried joining meet-up groups for hiking and book reading clubs but only managed to form passing acquaintances and not genuine friendship. I am heartbroken that my male friendships of over 20 years turned out to be so shallow.

What's your point anyway? You gay or smtg? I don't have any guy friends too and I'm just fine. Go find some girls to make friends with. At least that can develop to something more like a gf or fuckbuddy. Why would you wanna hang out with guys that don't wanna hang out with you is beyond me.

[chinacuntlover]

Want to change life but after become unhappy
As one grow older, skin must become thicker la,
Words are cheap, just let them pass by, after a while, they will get tired of rewinding same old topic, agree with what ever they say about you
"Yalor, its just me, what to do??", if someone say you are ugly, dont retort but compliment back, " yalor unlike you, so handsome sia" when you compliment instead of fighting back, the guys will back off, hopefully.

[fallen11]

Originally Posted by y238992

I had a very good group of core friends that I know since poly. They introduce me to KTV. I did not like to go KTV at first but after getting stressed and bullied in the working world, I became addicted to KTV..maybe we went once every 2 to 3 months, though got a short period of time we went almost every month.

However, 5 months ago, I cut the habit as I wanted to change my life. I also did not like being made fun of during KTV sessions, they like to make fun of my lack of love life or work problems. Got one guy, someone i consider a close friend also like to secretly take photos too. They invited me since but I (very, very politely) said no.. since then, they stopped contacting me, not even for a meal out.... Since then, I realised that they are more willing to communicate with each other than with me, as I still keep in touch with one of them.

Since then, I became total male loner. I tried joining meet-up groups for hiking and book reading clubs but only managed to form passing acquaintances and not genuine friendship. I am heartbroken that my male friendships of over 20 years turned out to be so shallow.

if these are all the friends you have, not having any friends is better for you

[Pictionary]

Originally Posted by y238992

I had a very good group of core friends that I know since poly. They introduce me to KTV. I did not like to go KTV at first but after getting stressed and bullied in the working world, I became addicted to KTV..maybe we went once every 2 to 3 months, though got a short period of time we went almost every month.

However, 5 months ago, I cut the habit as I wanted to change my life. I also did not like being made fun of during KTV sessions, they like to make fun of my lack of love life or work problems. Got one guy, someone i consider a close friend also like to secretly take photos too. They invited me since but I (very, very politely) said no.. since then, they stopped contacting me, not even for a meal out.... Since then, I realised that they are more willing to communicate with each other than with me, as I still keep in touch with one of them.

Since then, I became total male loner. I tried joining meet-up groups for hiking and book reading clubs but only managed to form passing acquaintances and not genuine friendship. I am heartbroken that my male friendships of over 20 years turned out to be so shallow.

Ktv is not a good place to socialise. It makes oneself very tired. Same for casino too.

It is not easy to get a proper job and learn proper skills. Best is to save money and dun anyhow spend money. Who knows you cannot take it, then leave the job.

That's the least i say. Even if cannot make things better, dun make it more worse. If no money, no job, you will suffer like hell.