Should I get my BF an escort or a FWB?

[antartica]

Not trying to be funny but how about oral and anal sex as an option if he is not keen on eating out?

Also, use small sex toys to help you relax?

[Aprilandjune]

Originally Posted by Angelynmarie

Have you guys tried lubrication while penetration? Does it helps?
I had a friend who had this condition too, nothing helped except this medium sized vibrator, before penetration with her bf she will put it inside her for about 10mins and it helped with her intercourse with her bf. Apparently this made her vagina muscles relax

Will try this, thank u!
Right now can only fit a toy half my bf’s size even with lots of lube so still got a long way to go literally

[Aprilandjune]

Originally Posted by VoicesWithin

Do you think this is a good solution for the long term, when you are married with kids, and he is fxxking his 17th fwb or 163th social escort?

Or your mom (dad, aunt jenny, add name) saying, Hey I saw Derick going into hotel with 2 women, and you have no issues with it??

Yeah worry about this also. Now leaning away from escorts after what several ppl said about it being addicting too.

We been working on our issue for 2 years already and dunno how much longer it will take honestly. Maybe if there was just 1 or 2 long term fwb until we resolve it that would still be acceptable

[classicangus]

There are other forms of sex, other than entering your vagina. In my experience it definitely feels different, but they can still be amazing.

after 2 years I hope you are not one of those that only allows vagina sex, imo you should reflect if you are.

You guys can also explore erotic massages, there are classes locally

[skihon]

I think you need longer time get warmed up. My 2x ex also have this issue so i tried play with her longer then try enter her, i do this a few times till i find easier to enter her. After a few times of sex, soon her body started to lub easily.

Maybe you can try masturbate yourself, let your body get more sensitive. And also dont be tense or stress when you both having sex.

[Roam]

Still have not gotten to main point yet ?

waiting......waiting......

[Ivysaw]

I think this is the female version of phimosis.

[ingilein]

In this situation, it is important to talk openly and honestly with your partner about your concerns and needs. Here are some steps that might help you:

Communication: Sit down together and talk about your feelings and needs. It is important that both partners understand how the other feels and what their expectations are.

Compromise: Try to find a compromise that is acceptable to both of you. This may mean finding different ways to meet your sexual needs that are safe and pleasurable for both of you.

Medical support: If your health problems are the main cause of your difficulties, you could consider seeking medical help to improve your situation. A doctor or specialist can help you with this.

[MaoSanWang]

Originally Posted by Aprilandjune

I have a condition that makes penetration difficult + my libido is much lower than my BF (my needs = once/twice monthly, his needs = all the time)

Recently i asked him if he wants FWB but he seems reluctant cuz things could get messy. On the other hand escorts is no drama but worry std/sti.

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated

Guess u have enough of 2nd guess about your condition so, although tempted, I will not add more.
I'll assume you have exhausted your medical options or professional therapies.

Regards your qn on escort or FWB.
In the first place, can find FWB so easily ah, your personal friends?
Can share contact? LOL ... kidding.

Perhaps I can share my 2 cents worth.

Escort / WL (Working Lady) is a simple transaction of service without emotional attachment, most of the time.
The WL provides service, collects $, end of relationship.
A WL usually do not want an emotional relationship with customers.
Addicted to WL / sex, maybe for a start.
After awhile, one will realised that is nothing more than someone "masturbating" for you, because of the lack of emotions.
The enjoyment, is transient.

A FWB on the other hand, happens when both parties enjoy each other company and intimacy.
Because of this enjoyment, it is common for one to become emotionally attached over time.
Read up the forum here, you will find many chongsters moved on from WL to FWB eventually, for companionship, on top of great sex (those sticking to WL are because cannot find FWB LOL.)
That is likely the time you lose your BF.

Between WL and FWB, I recommend WL if you want a higher probability of keeping your BF.
Better addicted to WL than FWB.

[weefred]

To be honest, if your BF is someone with a high sex drive and you can't satisfy him. I don't think you need to find someone for him. He's probably eating outside without you knowing already. You just have to close one eye or both.

[wansomemilk]

Learn tantric massage

Essentially a turbo charged handjob - better feel than actual penetration

After making out (love part) - he should pleasure you as well : clitoris stimulation eat you out, etc

Then help him get release with sensual tantric massage
Never fails to get me to the highest point.

Knowing how to tease the sac, massage around the groin, and handle the rod/knob …. You can give the best release

[antartica]

Originally Posted by Ivysaw

I think this is the female version of phimosis.

I was trying to think of that.
It's called vaginismus

https://www.singhealth.com.sg/patien...nts/vaginismus