Advice from married bros

[unsung80]

Do settle down. You already played 3 years, don't go on for another 7 years, by then is even harder to get out of such poor habit. Eventually you will realised everyone around you moved on and you are still like a top spinning on the same spot. Am a real life example. Luckily i moved on with a good lady, whatever extra you do don't get caught.

[secretlurker88]

Originally Posted by unsung80

Do settle down. You already played 3 years, don't go on for another 7 years, by then is even harder to get out of such poor habit. Eventually you will realised everyone around you moved on and you are still like a top spinning on the same spot. Am a real life example. Luckily i moved on with a good lady, whatever extra you do don't get caught.

thank you bro. Appreciate these words.

[SGBJ2016]

Originally Posted by secretlurker88

Hey guys. So..there's just something I hope can learn from married bros here.

For me, I'm 31, and single. Previous relationship with fiancé failed and then I was like fuck it already. Just play...

so it's been 3 years of playing, fucking other girls, but I hope to also settle down, find my 1 partner, and have kids. I like kids, as much as the process of making one..

Was wondering when I'd stop playing. Sometimes when the music stops, I just have a feeling that all the girls im with right now are temporary and won't really stay at my side in the long run.

Career doing quite ok for now.

What was your journey and perspective like? Any advice for me would be appreciated..

Bro, at 31 you are matured young man at your prime. You are highly desirable. Don’t waste this prime time of your life. Please invest time in increasing your social circle in whatever way you can. May be connect with old friends from high school and college. May be hang out with office colleagues and their single women friends. That way get to know more ladies and I’m sure you’ll find a nice partner. Matchmaking sites are not bad either. There are many professional women who don’t have much energy to go out, they post there. Bottom line, do invest time to find right person. But don’t rush, make a move only when you find the right one, otherwise you’ll be in the same situation again.

I’m not saying abandoning playing completely, it’s an addiction like smoking, cannot stop immediately. But reduce it significantly. Once you improve your social circle automatically you won’t have much time or energy for these anyway.

[travelmate4720]

Originally Posted by SGBJ2016

Bro, at 31 you are matured young man at your prime. You are highly desirable. Don’t waste this prime time of your life. Please invest time in increasing your social circle in whatever way you can. May be connect with old friends from high school and college. May be hang out with office colleagues and their single women friends. That way get to know more ladies and I’m sure you’ll find a nice partner. Matchmaking sites are not bad either. There are many professional women who don’t have much energy to go out, they post there. Bottom line, do invest time to find right person. But don’t rush, make a move only when you find the right one, otherwise you’ll be in the same situation again.

I’m not saying abandoning playing completely, it’s an addiction like smoking, cannot stop immediately. But reduce it significantly. Once you improve your social circle automatically you won’t have much time or energy for these anyway.

Good advice, up you.

[Piledriver]

Originally Posted by secretlurker88

Hey guys. So..there's just something I hope can learn from married bros here.

For me, I'm 31, and single. Previous relationship with fiancé failed and then I was like fuck it already. Just play...

so it's been 3 years of playing, fucking other girls, but I hope to also settle down, find my 1 partner, and have kids. I like kids, as much as the process of making one..

Was wondering when I'd stop playing. Sometimes when the music stops, I just have a feeling that all the girls im with right now are temporary and won't really stay at my side in the long run.

Career doing quite ok for now.

What was your journey and perspective like? Any advice for me would be appreciated..

Nope, I am not married. Never have been. And there is a reason for it.

Just wanna chip in with my 2 cents. Its easy for you to play around now. You can easily change your girlfriends.

But marriage is a lifetime commitment. Once you sign on that piece of contract, its very difficult and painful for you to get out.

You can anyhow change girlfriends. But you cannot anyhow change your wife.

I hope you can open your eyes big big before you commit. Make sure that the woman you choose to marry is a definite keeper.

Good luck, bro.

[hakone]

Originally Posted by SGBJ2016

Bro, at 31 you are matured young man at your prime. You are highly desirable. Don’t waste this prime time of your life. Please invest time in increasing your social circle in whatever way you can. May be connect with old friends from high school and college. May be hang out with office colleagues and their single women friends. That way get to know more ladies and I’m sure you’ll find a nice partner. Matchmaking sites are not bad either. There are many professional women who don’t have much energy to go out, they post there. Bottom line, do invest time to find right person. But don’t rush, make a move only when you find the right one, otherwise you’ll be in the same situation again.

I’m not saying abandoning playing completely, it’s an addiction like smoking, cannot stop immediately. But reduce it significantly. Once you improve your social circle automatically you won’t have much time or energy for these anyway.

Good advice 👍

[WesternWoods]

Marriage is like lottery, depending on your luck

[JackReacher66]

Originally Posted by ucla

My philosophy for married life is : You can milk other cows in the wild, don't ever bring the cow back home. Your married life will be colourful and fun n yet blissful.

Just came across this thread and I have to say, I lived by this philosophy too. Men will be men. Some men won't drink outside milk. Some men does.

It's life. So long you keep your cow happy, you can cont to milk other's cow.

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by thor1981

nice bro

sorry to hear abt the dvrce. hope it works out well for you and all involve.

Thanks bro! Appreciate that.

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by ucla

My philosophy for married life is : You can milk other cows in the wild, don't ever bring the cow back home. Your married life will be colourful and fun n yet blissful.

Brother, I am wondering if you are married yourself. You have a very simplistic view of marriage. If it were as simple as you say, divorce rate will be much lower.

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by bewan

Most important thing is the wife must not know of the cow's existence

[JacqueMerlin]

I was married. My divorce was difficult and costly but necessary. She found a new bf and that one worked out for her. I thought my fidelity, patience and love will yield the same but instead, it took my sanity during a period which i was ready to die. My ex wife indulged in a series of affairs and when she found someone with the remote possibility of giving her an upgrade, she will embark on her divorce drills She had affairs because she legally could as we all know the odds stack against men during a divorce.
STEP1: Alleged that I 'forced her to have an affair because I was not good enough'.
STEP 2: Demand for maintenance in case her affair didn't work out after divorce. The sums are always without fail ghastly.
STEP 3: If it didn't work out, which it always happened until the last one, she came back to me telling me that she was offering me an opportunity to love her again.

I walked out of an argument with her one day after discovering her new affair again. and was prepared to jump into fast moving traffic. Someone pulled me out of that and introduced me to SBF. I discovered a new world out there and realized how stupid I was.

[secretlurker88]

Originally Posted by JacqueMerlin

I was married. My divorce was difficult and costly but necessary. She found a new bf and that one worked out for her. I thought my fidelity, patience and love will yield the same but instead, it took my sanity during a period which i was ready to die. My ex wife indulged in a series of affairs and when she found someone with the remote possibility of giving her an upgrade, she will embark on her divorce drills She had affairs because she legally could as we all know the odds stack against men during a divorce.
STEP1: Alleged that I 'forced her to have an affair because I was not good enough'.
STEP 2: Demand for maintenance in case her affair didn't work out after divorce. The sums are always without fail ghastly.
STEP 3: If it didn't work out, which it always happened until the last one, she came back to me telling me that she was offering me an opportunity to love her again.

I walked out of an argument with her one day after discovering her new affair again. and was prepared to jump into fast moving traffic. Someone pulled me out of that and introduced me to SBF. I discovered a new world out there and realized how stupid I was.

Thank you for sharing bro. It's a good reminder not to be blind in love. Though of course for some reason I still hope that one day I'd be able to fall in love. Anyway, hope you are much much better now and may your ex wife get what she deserves. Am glad you're a survivor!

[afterburn]

Originally Posted by JackReacher66

Just came across this thread and I have to say, I lived by this philosophy too. Men will be men. Some men won't drink outside milk. Some men does.

It's life. So long you keep your cow happy, you can cont to milk other's cow.

Best of both worlds Enjoy the cows outside once a while, but don't ever let them get into your head.

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by secretlurker88

Thank you for sharing bro. It's a good reminder not to be blind in love. Though of course for some reason I still hope that one day I'd be able to fall in love. Anyway, hope you are much much better now and may your ex wife get what she deserves. Am glad you're a survivor!

She married a caucasian, her dream. And she seems to be doing fine in France. The last time she contacted me was to brag about her new marriage and life in France. But that was years ago. Not sure if COVID got her.