Reasons Why Women Cheat

[rodsim]

http://sg.news.yahoo.com/reasons-wom...120616916.html

anyone sis or bro here agree or disagree with the points stated? better if any sis wish to share her own exp..

[francolin]

Interesting. Thanks for sharing.

[DreamOfLust]

Nice article..

Maybe can come up with why men cheat... to let them understand better

[rubberduckygirl]

2, 4 and 5 for me. agreed with both hands.
But back then for some reason, i didnt resort to cheating. just live with it.
but how would you guys define cheating?

if you are single man, fking a married woman just for the mutual satisfaction (ie not lovey-dovey feelings involved). is it cheating? or if you are a single girl with no boyfriend. going out with a married man for sex. is it wrong?

usually ppl whom you marry is usually a good husband/father material rather than someone who is a sex god. and depending on the guy, he may not be as good as the woman on bed. thus, the woman feels deprived and wants to cheat.

[eeemen]

He he, I like your reasoning sis rubberduckygirl! If only a majority of people have such reasoning, the world would be a much happier place!! Best wishes, cheers ..............

[deludedgal]

cos they are lonely? husband not giving them attention? sex life is pitiful. i think its pretty much the same for guys and gers

[chnhubby71]

We in this changing World, everyone have their preferences and needs. As a Man we can have fun with other females, so as the female nowaday. As long you know how to drink a milk and dun bring the cow back home it should be fine to work it out and not consider cheating.

Whether you are a Gentleman/Gentle Female or Not, you will find it bore after getting the same thing in your life.

[gigigagago]

Logic > Social stigma

Hahaha actually I don't know why cheating nowadays has to have a gender label. Men or women will want novelty, attention and satisfaction (emotionally, physically or spiritually) from their relationship/marriage. It's not like it's 20-30 years back where social stigma prioritised above logic. Now more and more people embrace logic than flawed societal yardstick.

Logic Vs Morals

IMHO, why people cheat in general is because they like to choose an easier way out. Most don't want to face their mistake of staying in that relationship or don't want/are inadequate to fix their problems.

For newly-married couples, the underlying issue is simple. If people still possess the mentality that: It's best I marry someone who's a stayer, a security trophy I can put at home for quiet enjoyment, then my question is why deceive yourself and your spouse to get married in the first place? Is this the case of flawed social stigma triumphing logic? Is this another case of "doing what's supposed to be right", or "feels like it's the next thing to do at his/her age"? Most of the time you probe further by asking the right questions, you'll find that the person they marry actually is replaceable. LMAO.

It seems like the person whom they get married to at that point just happened to be there. There is no logic or sense whether the person is the one. If you substitute that person to someone else with different attributes, but hung around the same time you are "of marriagable age", he/she becomes the one. Stunning piece of logic right?

Lol, I'm certainly not against marriage - I'm against stupid reasons for marriage. Some people do it because their relationship seems dull but the marriage idea seemed like a good novelty to spice things up, or getting inspired by friends who got married or to solve an underlying relationship problem etc. There are so many reasons I uncovered by talking to some of my friends. I'd to bite my tongue in cases where I think their marriage could be fixed. Those that couldn't be, I'll gently dish some hard truths and leave them to decide what they want.

If people got married for the right reasons, have the relationship maturity to choose a right partner (in every way critical of a marriage: like bedroom, or emotional needs, etc), there'll be less cases of cheating spouses. That's my take. Basically, I really feel that characteristics you want for a spouse + a lover in a bedroom are not mutually-exclusive. It's the people who don't look around enough and jump into the marriage wagon too hastily who think that those 2 things can never be together.

As for relationships before marriage, then I feel it's so much simpler. If it doesn't work, be honest and also show respect by wanting out of it. Don't hog the person just for your emotional and physical needs. Set people and yourself free.

I always told my exes: If we cannot work out our relationship and it doesn't give you the things you need, tell me. I can take it. Don't cheat behind my back. Cos it's making use of me. I don't like being made use of. We can go single again and you can do whatever you like without guilt - isn't it better. No need for lies, guilt and cheating.

Conclusion: If you are not a monogamous person, don't force yourself to be. Don't bring pain to other people and yourself. Choose your life wisely based on your own characteristics. Don't blindly give in to societal yardstick. Everyone is happy that way. If you still want to get married to a security trophy, fine, you could cheat to get your emotional needs by having a soulmate, or a FB for your sexual needs, but don't feel guilty and please hide it well. Otherwise, do you consider yourself smart? LOL. And think about this, if you had spent some time waiting, that soulmate/FB you are now cheating on your spouse with, could have been someone you are married happily to isn't it? That's the point I'm driving at.

However, if you're not a one-person man/woman, please don't care how people judge you. Don't be afraid to say no to marriage. Those who will judge you are slowly dilluting in this society already - most of them are gonna be obselete soon. Besides, why do you care about opinions of narrow-minded people? They're the same species that would support different races sitting at different seats on the bus, or against gay marriage, or believe that women are unequal, or that Singapore has meritocracy (oops) - you get my point.

Cheers.

[callmebad]

women cheat when they no longer love their guy
or they do out of revenge
or maybe some are like men have the 'cheat' gene inside their bodies

[DreamOfLust]

Poker genes...

[sgman1968]

it's all about satisfying one's need..it's take's 2 to tango..

Its just that women can hide it very well then us guys.

[MistressVamp]

No 2 and 4 will most likely be my main reason....

[pmlee]

Originally Posted by sgman1968

it's all about satisfying one's need..it's take's 2 to tango..

Its just that women can hide it very well then us guys.

agree, woman is better in hiding their true feeling / meaning, and lying hehe

[cupid]

Originally Posted by gigigagago

Logic > Social stigma

Hahaha actually I don't know why cheating nowadays has to have a gender label. Men or women will want novelty, attention and satisfaction (emotionally, physically or spiritually) from their relationship/marriage. It's not like it's 20-30 years back where social stigma prioritised above logic. Now more and more people embrace logic than flawed societal yardstick.

Cheers.

it is the education hehe, higher education does not mean better person, or better society hehe

[fun2nite]

They forgot the most important and common reason which is those ladies who go for money.

Basically this group of ladies just go for money, no love no feeling no chemistry with the guy at all. With all these, of course they are most likely to cheat.