Help me move on and rejoin the dating scene

[echodude]

I just came out of a divorce. I had more or less moved on from my ex, and this thread is not so much about moving on from her. I was determined to channel my energies to focus on my career, while having my sexual needs fulfilled in the non emotionally expensive way.

Unfortunately, I became the lead in the oldest joke in the book. I grew closer to the girl I go to. She did not seduce me, and we really started from friends who eventually became closer. For some unfathamable reason, after a 'quarrel' of sorts on wechat, she cut me off and eventually broke off all contact when she returned to China.

I had no idea I had grown so attached to her, and how it is in fact, harder to move on from her.

I want to avoid being a pathetic whiner and all, but I hope the seasoned men of the forum who has seen the world can give me some advice. How do I get back to the dating scene again? The girl probably broke it off because she did not see how we could make it work. At least that's what I'm telling myself in order to let go. She made me realize I need to be at least out and about for my emotional needs.

I am in my late 30s. Tall, reasonably good looking. Draw a decent income as well. Can converse well online and offline in both Chinese and English. I had no problems dating when I was single before I met my ex wife, but I am absolutely clueless as to where to meet girls right now. Can help?

[stillgottheblue]

Good thing she broke off with you. You probably has got nothing for her to take advantage of.

Why look for WL as partner? If you are the kind who gets attached to the WL you have frequently visited, it's better for you to jump from one girl to another.

[echodude]

I did not expect to get attached to her. Simply exchanged contact via wechat and progressed from there. And I'm not trying to look for WL as partner. I mean how to socialize/meet girls in real life or through app or whatevr.

[sammyboyfor]

If you take up a sport or a hobby, you'll meet like minded females.

[maxsee]

Go join dating agency la....

[Kuan Aik Hong]

Go join SDN...

[mutantchicken]

Originally Posted by echodude

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I am in my late 30s. Tall, reasonably good looking. Draw a decent income as well. Can converse well online and offline in both Chinese and English. I had no problems dating when I was single before I met my ex wife, but I am absolutely clueless as to where to meet girls right now. Can help?

if you are indeed as you say..men seem to overestimate their attractiveness and qulaties whereas when underestimate...then there should be a fair few women attracted to you naturally just need to advertise them more....

one minute u say you reasonably good looking next is average borderline ugly..so what is it
http://thesbf.shop/showpos...15&postcount=4

[<<totally>>]

TS if you are thinking of dating, the best thing is to expand your current circle of friends. Using mathematics, as your social circle expands, the more people you know. Thus without you realizing, the number of female friends has increase. Hence increasing the probability of finding a match of your choice.

Sometimes the best are just beside you, freed your mind and open your eyes identifying who are the ones that have been beside you when you are down. Those who cared about you will be deemed as a higher rate of sucess.

Hope you find it useful. Good luck.

[Wintermelontea]

Maybe it holds truth to joining an activity and thus expanding your social circle from it. Think about it, not many (single and available) ladies are into golfing per se.

I do agree on the 'expanding social circle' portion though.

On where to meet (decent) girls:

1. Social activities - from dance classes to sewing to jogging events.

2. Clubs (rather few)

3. Your work place (taboo)

4. Via work events (from other companies)

5. Social networks

6. Friends of girl friends

7. Relatives' recommendation

TS, just think back when you are still single where and how you met your other girlfriends (ex)??

Don't give up!

[PPGirl]

Originally Posted by <<totally>>

Sometimes the best are just beside you, freed your mind and open your eyes identifying who are the ones that have been beside you when you are down. Those who cared about you will be deemed as a higher rate of sucess.

hmmm referring to me?

[<<totally>>]

Originally Posted by PPGirl

hmmm referring to me?

Or myself. Haha.

[Ken79]

Hi TS bro, first u gottat be clear of what u want, it is either:

1. find a gal that u want to nurture the relationship with and if possible progress on to marriage.

2. find a fling/fb or FL.

once u got that sorted out u will know where to start.

cheers, gd luck
ken

[echodude]

Thanks everyone. Appreciate it.

[megachiongster]

clear ur mind.. join a few dating sites.
or download those apps to meet new people.. skout or the badoo or those apps. can meet a lot of nice people, but u probably meet a lot of bad matches before u can find a good girl to settle down

[zan888]

Whatever it is dont get married unless no choice lol