What do Singaporean Men like in a girl?

emogirl · #1 11-05-2014, 08:28 PM

Hi boys,

i'm here out of curiosity. I moved here from San Diego about 6 months ago. I was dating someone for a bit but that ended badly. I'm not really looking for anyone to be in a relationship and I don't really want a fuck buddy or anything but I would like to go on a date or two. Just to meet people and see Singapore more. I do hit the club with my friends but we're mostly expats from the US, UK and Australia. Even though I'm of Korean decent and look very "asian" it's pretty hard to meet guys here in Singapore. Most guys seem shy or they don't seem to like talking very much. It's always "can i buy you a drink" and then wanting to grind on the dance floor. No in-betweens. Or maybe I just don't know how to read guys here.

So I'm looking for some friendly advice. What do Singaporean guys like to do? Usually in San Diego, we can go hiking, to the beach, road trips. But it's different here. It's pretty much restricted to clubbing, dinners, movies. That's about it. Would love to explore the Singaporean male mind more.

chevy7970 · #2 12-05-2014, 12:29 PM

Sis,

Asian guys in Asia are pretty shy unless they stay in Western countries for many years. I am the same here...LOL

If you go out with your Expat friends, chances are they would not bother to approach you. Maybe you can try going out with your local collegues/friends instead of the Expats.

In Singapore, you can do alot more stuffs than just clubbing and eating. It is all about mixing with the right group of ppls.

Cheers and have a great time here in Spore.
L

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Originally Posted by emogirl

Hi boys,

i'm here out of curiosity. I moved here from San Diego about 6 months ago. I was dating someone for a bit but that ended badly. I'm not really looking for anyone to be in a relationship and I don't really want a fuck buddy or anything but I would like to go on a date or two. Just to meet people and see Singapore more. I do hit the club with my friends but we're mostly expats from the US, UK and Australia. Even though I'm of Korean decent and look very "asian" it's pretty hard to meet guys here in Singapore. Most guys seem shy or they don't seem to like talking very much. It's always "can i buy you a drink" and then wanting to grind on the dance floor. No in-betweens. Or maybe I just don't know how to read guys here.

So I'm looking for some friendly advice. What do Singaporean guys like to do? Usually in San Diego, we can go hiking, to the beach, road trips. But it's different here. It's pretty much restricted to clubbing, dinners, movies. That's about it. Would love to explore the Singaporean male mind more.

MIFAcafe · #3 12-05-2014, 12:51 PM

I cannot represent everyone; just base on my own preference.

Girl that are less demanding and slightly chatty.
Girl that smile constantly does melt my heart.

Sometime it is as simple as the way we hold hand, or the way we feel like long lost buddy that really make things magical.

Nothing to do with look or money or career or background.

Keep dating; you just haven't met the right guy.

imdestinyz · #4 12-05-2014, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by emogirl

Hi boys,

i'm here out of curiosity. I moved here from San Diego about 6 months ago. I was dating someone for a bit but that ended badly. I'm not really looking for anyone to be in a relationship and I don't really want a fuck buddy or anything but I would like to go on a date or two. Just to meet people and see Singapore more. I do hit the club with my friends but we're mostly expats from the US, UK and Australia. Even though I'm of Korean decent and look very "asian" it's pretty hard to meet guys here in Singapore. Most guys seem shy or they don't seem to like talking very much. It's always "can i buy you a drink" and then wanting to grind on the dance floor. No in-betweens. Or maybe I just don't know how to read guys here.

So I'm looking for some friendly advice. What do Singaporean guys like to do? Usually in San Diego, we can go hiking, to the beach, road trips. But it's different here. It's pretty much restricted to clubbing, dinners, movies. That's about it. Would love to explore the Singaporean male mind more.

I spend my weekends doing voluntary work

Singapore is pretty small so sometimes there really aint much to do.

The interesting parts of sg(or I find interesting) are always not publicized or ppl dont spend the effort to find them

MrPleaser · #5 12-05-2014, 02:14 PM

Most SG guys are shy IMO

though we can be more aggressive if we are really interested in forming a relationship/getting closer to someone

Unfortunately, our idea of being aggressive is likely not the same as in other western cultures (assumption, have been living here all my life)
I agree that going out with your expat friends might cause some SG guys to avoid you as they might feel they stand no chance.

If you would like to go on a date or two, I would suggest looking among your coursemates in NUS. Might be easier to connect with them. Wait, if you moved here 6months ago, does that mean you're matriculating this year? I'm matriculating this year

oldslywolf · #6 12-05-2014, 05:29 PM

Agree that most local guys here are shy but then there are few exceptions.

If you happen to meet a local guy suggest that you go easy first.
Try to find some common topics for a start.
Then carry on from there.
Bearing in mind Singapore is a very small country, so there is not much things you can do.
Hope that helps.
By the way welcome to Sillypore.
Hope you enjoy your stay here.

emogirl · #7 12-05-2014, 06:15 PM

Thank you for the well wishes and advice. Most of my friends who i go out with might be expats but they're all of Asian descent - Chinese, Indian and pan asian. Sure there are some white folk too but I think we're friendly and smiley. We definitely mix with locals but mostly girls. For some reason, guys don't seem interested or are shy. I hope to mingle more with the people here. I do like Singapore a lot and the food is amazing.

JohnWiFi · #8 12-05-2014, 07:15 PM

Personally, I feel the girls are quite hard on the guys in Singapore.

Thus, the result of shying away.

hamsapkwai · #9 12-05-2014, 07:39 PM

sex,sex,sex and more sex, gosh u gotta like me cos i am the most honest guy around

real_king · #10 12-05-2014, 11:02 PM

thats really humsap.

Greenfrog · #11 13-05-2014, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by emogirl

Hi boys,

i'm here out of curiosity. I moved here from San Diego about 6 months ago. I was dating someone for a bit but that ended badly. I'm not really looking for anyone to be in a relationship and I don't really want a fuck buddy or anything but I would like to go on a date or two. Just to meet people and see Singapore more. I do hit the club with my friends but we're mostly expats from the US, UK and Australia. Even though I'm of Korean decent and look very "asian" it's pretty hard to meet guys here in Singapore. Most guys seem shy or they don't seem to like talking very much. It's always "can i buy you a drink" and then wanting to grind on the dance floor. No in-betweens. Or maybe I just don't know how to read guys here.

So I'm looking for some friendly advice. What do Singaporean guys like to do? Usually in San Diego, we can go hiking, to the beach, road trips. But it's different here. It's pretty much restricted to clubbing, dinners, movies. That's about it. Would love to explore the Singaporean male mind more.

Hi emogirl, i cannot represent the majority of the local guys here.
But i always prefer girls that look like girls, girls that act like girls. Minus a little materialistic will be perfect!

wally888 · #12 13-05-2014, 11:32 AM

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Originally Posted by emogirl

Hi boys,

What do Singaporean guys like to do? Usually in San Diego, we can go hiking, to the beach, road trips. But it's different here. It's pretty much restricted to clubbing, dinners, movies. That's about it. Would love to explore the Singaporean male mind more.

You've been hitting the wrong wall, u should go Bukit Timah Hill if u wanna find guys who like adventure instead of go clubbing

alanthedevil · #13 13-05-2014, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by wally888

You've been hitting the wrong wall, u should go Bukit Timah Hill if u wanna find guys who like adventure instead of go clubbing

I disagree. I will prefer girls who are slightly sporty and don't mind do dirty themselves with a bit of mud and sand.

I have to admit that fair girls with those thick makeups, with a porcelain face, and those perfectly manicured nails and hair is attractive, but they are just girls that will appear in wet dreams for most of us. Usually, these are also the type of girls who will scream that they are melting if left under the hot singapore sun, and is always comparing their Chanel bag with another girl's LV bag. U probably see them more in the dark than in the day...

There is more to life than clubbing and boozing..

Johnbass · #14 13-05-2014, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by JohnWiFi

Personally, I feel the girls are quite hard on the guys in Singapore.

Thus, the result of shying away.

Damn... U look familiar

Johnbass · #15 13-05-2014, 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by emogirl

So I'm looking for some friendly advice. What do Singaporean guys like to do? Usually in San Diego, we can go hiking, to the beach, road trips. But it's different here. It's pretty much restricted to clubbing, dinners, movies. That's about it. Would love to explore the Singaporean male mind more.

U shld try more of the local places... Hawker food and hotel 81.
Forget about restaurants and MBS.
I can be your free tour guide.