I caught my hubby

[aaaa1986]

sadly to say most men will go cheat at one point of their life. there is a word once a cheater always a cheater. if cannot accept that this is his decision to cheat, i guess the best way is to file for divorce, make sure he pay alimony

[suteerak1099]

there's a difference between being a consumer of services vs cheating. so, the man has been found to be a consumer of commercial services.

why? bcos he has needs

if the need is being addressed in the matrimonial bed, he wouldn't have to go pay to get his needs addressed elsewhere

solution, address his needs

[LauNuaGuy]

Originally Posted by hiswife

I know this probably belongs to some women forum but I figure why not ask the men themselves.

Long story short, I found out that my husband has been seeing prostitutes in the last 2.5 years and flipped out. He said he's sorry and will not do that again. He's willing to let me monitor all his finance and online/phone activities.

I'm pretty sure my husband is not the first men to have been caught. To those who have been caught, did you really change?

I want to know whether I can trust him that he will not do that again.

I hope your marriage has work since 2016!
Don give him a chance
Give both of you a chance to work on it again

[DurianSg]

Originally Posted by hiswife

I've read many stories online where the wandering husband ended up never being truthful and never stopping their activities. It's so bad that it makes me question how my husband could be different. You said there're couples who've gone though such test and came out stronger, is it true? Are they happy now? Did the husband stop?

I can forgive but not forget. It hurts every time I think about it but I will stay as long as he remains faithful because I love him.

I understand what you go thru in singapore is hard get away sex city.... in sg men see chio mei mei don think they want fuck them? Marriage for men jus paper show their parents they are settle down! Everytime i say in chinese " 色 鬼" all men this kind charater bcos got money den they go wild.....

Jus pretend men outside fooling is ok but not at home...

Wolf cant change of guy heart once wild mean wild

[aceone10]

Actually I felt TS is quite a typical married woman mentality. I guess most married men know what I mean.

Sorry if it is offensive and I just state my feels. Since you are never wrong, then I bet you are the boss in the house. Husband comes back home felt like a tenant then head of the family. Every spoken words will meet with a direct objection or repute as though he sound stupid.

You are always very stressful and tired for the family from the work and house chore. He is always like not much or no contribution in your opinion.

Whence you are so high up how to talk to you on the matter of the heart?

TS, above does not imply it is my opinion of you. But are you guilty of any from above? Or you don't even know what is your fair share of woe to the man?

[Laolucas]

Bro, you are not alone... I too fell into depression and I kept thinking what's wrong with me that she keep rejecting me... it was 2 long years of pain and suffering on my end and I had to keep it all inside me when she pushed me away when all I wanted was simple hugs and kisses..

Maybe as humans we should really consider what this Ted show is about.


https://www.ted.com/talks/christophe...al_omni vores

Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

Sorry sis but that a fallacy, you think every man goes for young vivacious chicks....what if you are made to feel like a freak cos she hates it each time you touch her, don't like it when you try to pet her...bites your head off cos she feels it irritating? So much so that you start falling into a depression feeling the problem is probably with me, at times even feeling life is meaningless cos the problem you realize is beyond sex, the realization that the woman you are now with, is no longer comfortable with you and the realization that god knows how many more years down the road you have to be with her, it can be very depressing....divorce, yes simple to say but the implications are far reaching especially with the archaic Women Charter around to serve the interest of women...

[YELLOW]

then aft that ??? get fuck by the bloody womens charter ??

Originally Posted by HonkyTonkyMan

A man can file for divorce under Unreasonable Behavior if the wife refuses to have sex...the law recognizes that sex is a integral part of a marriage.

[YELLOW]

no women nowadays dont suck it up .... using sex as blackmail is common now. yes both sides are probably at fault leading to the impasse .... i ve given up .... we are strangers living in the same house. i prefer to eat out .... not sure if she is too .... i m not too bothered. just wan to lead my life .... not going to give her a cent becos of silly women charter ..... rather suffer this whole life than give her a single cent .

Originally Posted by hiswife

Sorry for being MIA. I felt that my question was rather pointless because everyone and every situation is different so I decided to stay away from the forum for a while.

Anyway I'm back and there's another thread by a lady with similar problem and another thread asking if men would mind if their wife fucks around. LOL I asked my husband the same thing and he said he wouldn't mind if he gets to participate. There's a similar answer in that thread, selfish men's brain at work. I can fuck around but not my wife. Other people's wife fucks around is great because there are more potential FB in the market but my wife? No, she would never do that. Even though I've not touched her because I've been too busy fucking around. She doesn't like sex anyway.

Sorry for being sour. Today's not a good day. I got a feeling that one day I'm going to catch him doing the same thing again and it's just a matter of time. And I'm not sure I want to waste more time.

Marriage is a sham, there's no loving relationships. In order for your husband not to stray, you need to get plastic surgery and serve him like a hooker. Even then, he might still stray because eating the same thing gets boring. Meanwhile, women should just suck it up and close your eyes or else your husband will leave you. And that, is a summary of advice from men in this forum.

Men who complaint about no sex with wife, go get a mirror and reflects on yourself. My husband had similar complaints too and it was only his version of "truths". Are you sure you are not part of the problem?

[cornelius]

This is a very healthy thread where I can learn what a wife feel and think.

My wife like to shout at me even in public. Reduce my ego, shame my though. Anger remain even at bed. So no mood to have love making. Consistent issue of argument, accumlating anger and frustration brought to bed. No more love.

Sex is addictive and if one has alot of energy will look for prey. Simple equation.

Sex can relieve stress for what I think, that why need to release. If spouse dun give, where to release. Seek porn and DIY. Learn more excitement. That where seeking real prey desire is high. Husband seek whore and not mistress cos they know mistress is equal to trouble. Transaction can prevent this issue.

Again. I think. Life too routine everyday, sick of this routine and cause anger. No patient to understand one another cos of anger.

[zktan]

Originally Posted by hiswife

Sorry for being MIA. I felt that my question was rather pointless because everyone and every situation is different so I decided to stay away from the forum for a while.

Anyway I'm back and there's another thread by a lady with similar problem and another thread asking if men would mind if their wife fucks around. LOL I asked my husband the same thing and he said he wouldn't mind if he gets to participate. There's a similar answer in that thread, selfish men's brain at work. I can fuck around but not my wife. Other people's wife fucks around is great because there are more potential FB in the market but my wife? No, she would never do that. Even though I've not touched her because I've been too busy fucking around. She doesn't like sex anyway.

Sorry for being sour. Today's not a good day. I got a feeling that one day I'm going to catch him doing the same thing again and it's just a matter of time. And I'm not sure I want to waste more time.

Marriage is a sham, there's no loving relationships. In order for your husband not to stray, you need to get plastic surgery and serve him like a hooker. Even then, he might still stray because eating the same thing gets boring. Meanwhile, women should just suck it up and close your eyes or else your husband will leave you. And that, is a summary of advice from men in this forum.

Men who complaint about no sex with wife, go get a mirror and reflects on yourself. My husband had similar complaints too and it was only his version of "truths". Are you sure you are not part of the problem?

What is your reason for coming to this forum? To seek support and affirmation in your lack of trust to your husband for his infidelity out of his marriage? Seems like all of your posts are about whining about how your husband can go fuck a prostitute at anytime if you do not pay attention to him carefully.

I don't see why a husband will have thoughts of constantly going out to visit prostitutes if the wife puts in effort in keep the marriage in good shape, yes and that includes sex too.

Your entire ranting on your posts are just concentrated on venting frustration on your husband, and I believe and hope you quickly start and settle your divorce soon. No man will want to have a wife like you.

[mrpresident]

Why is the female always so self-centered?

from wedding gate crashing where they make man look like idiot and bend to her will, to after marriage wanting to be felt loved etc.

ask yourself have you done the same for the man?

only when you start to think in his shoes (STOP BEING SELF CENTERED) then there can be some form of recovery, else it is futile, just get divorced and live single forever where you deserve.

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by zktan

What is your reason for coming to this forum? To seek support and affirmation in your lack of trust to your husband for his infidelity out of his marriage? Seems like all of your posts are about whining about how your husband can go fuck a prostitute at anytime if you do not pay attention to him carefully.

I don't see why a husband will have thoughts of constantly going out to visit prostitutes if the wife puts in effort in keep the marriage in good shape, yes and that includes sex too.

Your entire ranting on your posts are just concentrated on venting frustration on your husband, and I believe and hope you quickly start and settle your divorce soon. No man will want to have a wife like you.

IMHO.. you should not have written.
So harsh to say no man will want a woman like her based on what she as wrote.

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by mrpresident

Why is the female always so self-centered?

from wedding gate crashing where they make man look like idiot and bend to her will, to after marriage wanting to be felt loved etc.

ask yourself have you done the same for the man?

only when you start to think in his shoes (STOP BEING SELF CENTERED) then there can be some form of recovery, else it is futile, just get divorced and live single forever where you deserve.

Oh wow. So because the women gets upset over cheap men who's dick precedes the brains, she is now label as self centered?
Which girl in the right mind wouldn't want to feel loved by the man she desires? You mean you won't want a lady you married to love you with her heart?

[AhKong69]

Originally Posted by hiswife

Sorry for being MIA. I felt that my question was rather pointless because everyone and every situation is different so I decided to stay away from the forum for a while.

Anyway I'm back and there's another thread by a lady with similar problem and another thread asking if men would mind if their wife fucks around. LOL I asked my husband the same thing and he said he wouldn't mind if he gets to participate. There's a similar answer in that thread, selfish men's brain at work. I can fuck around but not my wife. Other people's wife fucks around is great because there are more potential FB in the market but my wife? No, she would never do that. Even though I've not touched her because I've been too busy fucking around. She doesn't like sex anyway.

Sorry for being sour. Today's not a good day. I got a feeling that one day I'm going to catch him doing the same thing again and it's just a matter of time. And I'm not sure I want to waste more time.

Marriage is a sham, there's no loving relationships. In order for your husband not to stray, you need to get plastic surgery and serve him like a hooker. Even then, he might still stray because eating the same thing gets boring. Meanwhile, women should just suck it up and close your eyes or else your husband will leave you. And that, is a summary of advice from men in this forum.

Men who complaint about no sex with wife, go get a mirror and reflects on yourself. My husband had similar complaints too and it was only his version of "truths". Are you sure you are not part of the problem?

Hi. Hope your marriage problems are resolved. My parents have the same problem as a few bros here. The usual henpecked husband and domineering wife lah. So far as i know dad doesn't cheong but I do haha. I learned from observations, advice and experience that often times change and experiencing new things are the real challenge. I would suggest that you and your husband make sure that communication is open and honest between the two of you. This can help root out causes of problems in the relationship. Although it takes alot of work in itself. Remember, cheonging is not the cause of problems but often times is the result. Happy belated mothers day

[Shadow_warrior]

I didn't go for WL/FL

but I did find a FB/GF

think that's worse than just pay and get lost.

Getting emotionally involved...