Falling in love...once again

[WatLoveAbt]

Originally Posted by ct75

Haizzz dont say I dont have a soft heart.... and am only acid tongue To THREADSTARTER.....

Sometimes you are not looking for love. You are looking for someone to give that love to. And when that happens, you tend to machine gun the feelings all over the place..... meaning you will dump in your lot with any hole that comes along.

In simple terms, its also called a rebound.

Attached is something I read and kept and has proven to be correct. Hope it helps


Drama vs. Passion
According to Webster's Dictionary, drama is "a state, situation or series of events involving intense conflict or force." Passion, on the other hand, is defined as "a devotion to some activity, object or concept."

Do you live your life in drama or passion? Are you attracting partners who live in drama or passion?

A life filled with drama looks something like this:
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• Everything gets a huge, emotional response.
• The emotional response is often followed by a big action.
• Peace is seldom experienced and often much wished for.
• Life is either really great or very terrible.
• Relationships, work and life in-general feel like a roller coaster.
• There is a general feeling of being drained.

A life filled with passion looks something like this:
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• Emotions run deep and grow in intensity over time.
• Actions are thought out and lead toward the object of passion.
• Peace coexists with elation and excitement.
• Life is good, even when it's filled with ups and downs.
• Relationships, work and life feel balanced.
• There is a general feeling of being energized.

Can you see how living with passion is infinitely better than living with drama? Can you see how much more you can accomplish, experience and love when living with passion?

Sometimes these two states are difficult to distinguish. Both have intense emotions and activity associated with them. Many times people are attracted to potential partners because they are looking for passion, but they miss this distinction and end up with drama. If you are attracting people who are living with drama instead of passion, examine whether you are doing the same thing.

What can you do if you are living with drama right now?

Whenever you feel like reacting to a situation -- whether in your relationship or otherwise -- stop. Take a walk. Breathe. Talk to yourself. Ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is this as important as it seemed a few minutes ago?
2. Is my reaction appropriate for this situation?
3. What am I feeling?
4. What is my biggest concern here?
5. What do I really want out of this situation?
6. How do I need to act in order to get what I want?
7. Is what I want possible?
8. Why do I want this?
9. What are my needs that I need to care for right now?
10. What is the truth that I need to communicate?

It is fairly easy to break the cycle of drama. It takes a deep decision to live your life differently and the willingness to be peaceful no matter what.

Ve good advise, u break thing into maro level...

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by bulldozer101

Always bear in mind - never let your heart rule over your head.

thou its too late to realise this,nevertheless will still bear it in my mind.thk u bro.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by WatLoveAbt

Any thing can happen but alway protect our feeling...
no ppl like to be hurt...
esp emotional...
Take care, brother...

thk u bro.i am feeling better liao,i hope i am sincerely telling the truth.i need to move on,wake up and stop doing all these stupid things i am doing.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by ct75

Haizzz dont say I dont have a soft heart.... and am only acid tongue To THREADSTARTER.....

Sometimes you are not looking for love. You are looking for someone to give that love to. And when that happens, you tend to machine gun the feelings all over the place..... meaning you will dump in your lot with any hole that comes along.

u can read me like a book bro.got chance must meet u in person.i will digest wat u post and learn wat i am missing.thks.

[hunter89]

Bro ct75,

Totally agreed with your post.....it is a good guide.... but alas! We are man with heart, see pretty one when we are lonely or down, our heart will fly their way.... Sometime I nearly fell into this trap, but I'm lucky......

This is a good guide to threadstarter.... hope he will learn his lesson well and it will be his last lesson.

[t123]

Originally Posted by bulldozer101

sorry to hear about your plight, bro. indeed we must always bear in mind that a majority of PRC gals are here to earn as much as they can, afterwhich they will retire and start a small business back home. I know a few of such gals who were previously working in BS & MG.
Always bear in mind - never let your heart rule over your head.

Actually she was good to me like she no $$ she also ask from other customers. Haizz, I told her, if there is a next life, hope that we can be together.

[newbadass]

Originally Posted by hunter89

Totally agreed with your post.....it is a good guide.... but alas! We are man with heart, see pretty one when we are lonely or down, our heart will fly their way....

Lucky my heart is harder than my lan jiao.... which is pretty hard nowadays also

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by hunter89

Bro ct75,

Totally agreed with your post.....it is a good guide.... but alas! We are man with heart, see pretty one when we are lonely or down, our heart will fly their way.... Sometime I nearly fell into this trap, but I'm lucky......

This is a good guide to threadstarter.... hope he will learn his lesson well and it will be his last lesson.

yes i agree its a vert gd guide,i have copied it into my phone,read it when the need arises.i also hope this is my last lesson.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by t123

Actually she was good to me like she no $$ she also ask from other customers. Haizz, I told her, if there is a next life, hope that we can be together.

wish u all the best too.u r a nice man,u will find someone more deserving of ur love.

[Cheri_Popper]

Bro SJG, Although I do not know you very well but from the previous couple of times that we had went out together, I observed that you are both a sentimental and someone who lets his emotions rules over his head!

This is not the first time and I sincerely doubt that it will be the last time that this happens. As one Bro had pointed out, you are looking for love in a wrong place.

I was with you on both Thurs and Fri when we went there with a few other Samsters. On Thurs, your friend was there and you had no chance to sit with your loved one as he is the first person to know her. Your behavior on that day and on Fri (When your friend was not there) were totally different.

On Thurs you were sad and was drinking quite alot and was half drunk, I was wondering what you were trying to prove by your behavior. But on Fri, you will totally opposite of yourself as your friend was not there and your loved one was able to sit with you.

Sorry for being the one to break this news to you. You remember Thurs when your friend left early? I know that you SMS your "target" after he left. After about 20 mins after his departure, I went to the Gents, he was at the counter talking to one of those PR staff. After awhile, I saw him and your "target" leaving the premises hand-in-hand. I did not want to tell you all these as I know that it will hurt you.

On the matter of getting drunk last night, I would like to ask you, what were you trying to prove? That you are a good drinker or that you wanted her to feel guilty that she has hurt you? Do you think by doing so, she will feel sorry and fall for you? Wake up lah Bro. It only show your weakness and make her look down on you even more!

Remember that in a relationship, it takes both hands to clap. She has make it known to you that she is here to make $ and not get involve in any BGR. To put it bluntly, she is telling you to FO as she is not interested!

You must have chemistry with the gal and also some attraction be it physical or mental in order for you ppl to be together. Remember that gal that sat with me during those 2 nights? She did not want to go and sit at other rooms until I have to ask her to, even if she was sitting at other rooms, she is back into our room within 10 mins. Why? Its bcos she has some chemistry with me. I got to bonk her FOC that night.

You are much younger and better looking than me, you will eventually find your Ms Right sooner or later but if you continue to look for it at the wrong place, your chances are slim.

Do not waste time on something that it is not meant to be. If it's fated to be yours, come what may, it will not change the destiny.

As Cheongsters, our aim is to have fun. Fcuk & Forget. Never get emotionally attached to any gals in KTV/HC/NiteClub, etc. The person who is likely to get hurt would be you.

In order to survive all these, you must OUTSMART & OUTWIT them and you will OUT SURVIVE them!!!

I also have my shares of DEFEATS at their hands and was badly burnt both emotionally and financially before. Throught these DEFEATS you will learn and one day you will be VICTORIOUS!!

Good luck Bro and take care. Time will heals all wounds although a scar will remain, let those "battle scars" remind you of all your defeats!

Learn not to get emotional and give your heart away so easily. You will most likely to get hurt especially falling for a KTV gal. Do not believe whatever they said, believe maybe 10% of what they said. Always remember that most of them(95%) are here to make $ and not to get a BF!

[ct75]

Originally Posted by Cheri_Popper

Bro SJG, Although I do not know you very well but from the previous couple of times that we had went out together, I observed that you are both a sentimental and someone who lets his emotions rules over his head!

This is not the first time and I sincerely doubt that it will be the last time that this happens. As one Bro had pointed out, you are looking for love in a wrong place.

I was with you on both Thurs and Fri when we went there with a few other Samsters. On Thurs, your friend was there and you had no chance to sit with your loved one as he is the first person to know her. Your behavior on that day and on Fri (When your friend was not there) were totally different.

On Thurs you were sad and was drinking quite alot and was half drunk, I was wondering what you were trying to prove by your behavior. But on Fri, you will totally opposite of yourself as your friend was not there and your loved one was able to sit with you.

Sorry for being the one to break this news to you. You remember Thurs when your friend left early? I know that you SMS your "target" after he left. After about 20 mins after his departure, I went to the Gents, he was at the counter talking to one of those PR staff. After awhile, I saw him and your "target" leaving the premises hand-in-hand. I did not want to tell you all these as I know that it will hurt you.

On the matter of getting drunk last night, I would like to ask you, what were you trying to prove? That you are a good drinker or that you wanted her to feel guilty that she has hurt you? Do you think by doing so, she will feel sorry and fall for you? Wake up lah Bro. It only show your weakness and make her look down on you even more!

Remember that in a relationship, it takes both hands to clap. She has make it known to you that she is here to make $ and not get involve in any BGR. To put it bluntly, she is telling you to FO as she is not interested!

You must have chemistry with the gal and also some attraction be it physical or mental in order for you ppl to be together. Remember that gal that sat with me during those 2 nights? She did not want to go and sit at other rooms until I have to ask her to, even if she was sitting at other rooms, she is back into our room within 10 mins. Why? Its bcos she has some chemistry with me. I got to bonk her FOC that night.

You are much younger and better looking than me, you will eventually find your Ms Right sooner or later but if you continue to look for it at the wrong place, your chances are slim.

Do not waste time on something that it is not meant to be. If it's fated to be yours, come what may, it will not change the destiny.

As Cheongsters, our aim is to have fun. Fcuk & Forget. Never get emotionally attached to any gals in KTV/HC/NiteClub, etc. The person who is likely to get hurt would be you.

In order to survive all these, you must OUTSMART & OUTWIT them and you will OUT SURVIVE them!!!

I also have my shares of DEFEATS at their hands and was badly burnt both emotionally and financially before. Throught these DEFEATS you will learn and one day you will be VICTORIOUS!!

Good luck Bro and take care. Time will heals all wounds although a scar will remain, let those "battle scars" remind you of all your defeats!

Learn not to get emotional and give your heart away so easily. You will most likely to get hurt especially falling for a KTV gal. Do not believe whatever they said, believe maybe 10% of what they said. Always remember that most of them(95%) are here to make $ and not to get a BF!

Well said..... well said..... coming from someone who saw the incident and all, its really a knock on the nail.

TO THREADSTARTER...... NOW YOU WILL FEEL SHIT, HURT, LOST, DESPITE ALL YOU SAID ABOUT MOVING ON ESPECIALLY NOW YOU HEARD WHAT CHERRI HAS SAID. YOU WILL TRUST ME... COS I WAS ONCE LIKE THAT. BUT I DIED AT THE HANDS OF A SINGAPOREAN GIRL I KNEW AT A CLUB NOT A KTV GIRL. YOU WOULD WANT TO GO DRINK, KILL YOURSELF, FUCK AROUND... AND BASICALLY WALLOW IN SELF PITY. DONT!! DONT COS AS CHERRI SAID IT WILL ONLY MAKE HER AND EVERYONE ELSE LOOK DOWN ON YOU MORE.

BE STRONG, YOU ARE YOUNG, AND TRUST ME YOU DONT KNOW WHAT LIFE WILL BRING. LIFE IS UNPREDICTABLE AND NO ONE CAN PREDICT THE FUTURE. HENCE DONT LOST HEART AND THINK THAT ITS THE END OF THE WORLD COS IT ISN'T. IN MY LIFE I HAVE DATED GIRLS FROM DIFFERENT COUNTRIES SUCH AS JAPAN, AUSTRALIA ETC AND THESE GIRLS COME IN AND OUT OF MY LIFE WHEN I LEAST EXPECT IT. DID I EXPECT ALL THIS WHEN I WAS DOWN AND OUT LIKE YOU? NO, NOT AT ALL BUT THE FUTURE DID BRING THESE GIRLS. WHAT YOU DO KNOW IS YOU DONT WANT TO BE HURT AGAIN HENCE WAKE UP AND DONT WALLOW ANYMORE.

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

well said bro cherri & ct75.thks for everthing again.bro cherri,see u on thurs.

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by ct75

Well said..... well said..... coming from someone who saw the incident and all, its really a knock on the nail..

Pal. do your actually need to CAP all your comments to Bro SJG?

[Rof|maoxz]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

well said bro cherri & ct75.thks for everthing again.bro cherri,see u on thurs.

PM me your HP lay, my sim card was replaced.

[ct75]

Dont need to thank me.... I didnt fuck u and screw you to ask you to thank me....

Haha okay shall not be so acid tongue..... seriously if you meeting Cherri on Thursday and you want to drink it out. Maybe you should, but tell yourself this "TODAY I DRINK, I GET DRUNK, I CRY, I DESPAIR BUT TOMORROW WHEN I WAKE UP WITH A FUCKING HANGOVER, I WILL REMEMBER THIS DAY FOREVER AND TELL MYSELF NEVER AGAIN"

You are just like me when i was young. Haha you can be like me too one.... a very harden fucker..... Remember this treat the women that deserves your attention not those that don't. And you should start with first your mother.... think about it all the affection you showered on girls, start doing some for your mom.... She is after all the one woman in the world who loves you despite all you have done and will still love you.