do u think it is very hard to quit commerical sex - Page 8

JIU XING · #**106** 06-09-2009, 12:14 PM

very very hard to quit.. only when no $$$ liao then can..

goofybaby69 · #**107** 06-09-2009, 02:07 PM

I would say quiting commercial sex is easier than quiting sex all together.
Quit commercial sex is easier when u have a beautifully girlfriend or wife - who u can have sex with whenever u feel the urge. That way you can save money and not feel guilty too.
The amount you spent a FL $120-$150, just imagine tt same amount u can spend pampering ur gf or wife on a nice dinner date or a nice dress, i am sure she will give u great sex each time u pampered her.

Spanner · #**108** 06-09-2009, 07:31 PM

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Originally Posted by peanut123

Bro Spanner, I applaud your determination, but your situation is different.

You are a married man with wife and children. Cheating on your wife is wrong, because you not only betray her trust in you, you also endanger her health and well-being, and that of your children with your WL-bonking ways. A married man's actions affects many parties who have no choice in the matter.

Your change in habits is nothing more than just to compensate for the wrong you have done your family for the past years. To put it bluntly, you felt guilty of being an assh*le. So of course you had the motivation to change.

But many bros here are not like that. Many bros here, including myself, are single, carefree guys. So the motivation for us to stop is almost zero. We have no one to be faithful to. We have no one to be responsible for. Without these guilt-traps, its much harder to stop.

Bro peanut,

To a certain extend, u r right. But the faithfulness and responsibilies is not only for my family but also for God and myself......

soundworks · #**109** 06-09-2009, 07:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Spanner

Bro peanut,

To a certain extend, u r right. But the faithfulness and responsibilies is not only for my family but also for God and myself......

For me,commerical sex like kinda of hobby.....unless i find myself a new hobby else i guess i will still indulge in it.

rohan · #**110** 06-09-2009, 08:17 PM

From my view each person got their own reason to start, quit or continue.
Only we ourselves determine the "reason/s" behind our own action.
Our motivation comes from our thinking and it changes, thats y some bros may think they need to start, quit or continue.

Just my 2 cents view.

SadLoser · #**111** 07-09-2009, 12:46 AM

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Originally Posted by peanut123

You are a married man with wife and children. Cheating on your wife is wrong, because you not only betray her trust in you, you also endanger her health and well-being, and that of your children with your WL-bonking ways. A married man's actions affects many parties who have no choice in the matter.

But many bros here are not like that. Many bros here, including myself, are single, carefree guys. So the motivation for us to stop is almost zero. We have no one to be faithful to. We have no one to be responsible for. Without these guilt-traps, its much harder to stop.

Agreed..

I have pondered many times before on what it takes for me to quit permanently. Maybe when I'm settled down and married with children?

But as a single, carefree guy now, the temptation to go back is always there ... there is no one for me to care for and probably also no one who cares for me

aimwf · #**112** 07-09-2009, 02:21 AM

me abt once a week......cannot quit, addicted.

falconboy · #**113** 07-09-2009, 09:03 AM

Abstaining for a while is possible. But to quit for good is difficult.

dormant · #**114** 07-09-2009, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by falconboy

Abstaining for a while is possible. But to quit for good is difficult.

I agree. It is very difficult. But it is still worth trying. Can save some money.

aakumu2 · #**115** 07-09-2009, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by dormant

I agree. It is very difficult. But it is still worth trying. Can save some money.

Hi bro,
If money is the only reason for quitting than you should have started in the first place.
We are looking for a good reason to quite not because we could not afford it.

My humble two cents.

loneyheart · #**116** 07-09-2009, 12:45 PM

Well sometime we do it not total due to only lust.......

Most of all bros here we do have certain degree of LOST N LONELINESS in our HEART

Gerald · #**117** 08-09-2009, 12:15 AM

My friend became a christian and quit. I found out later that he became a christian after he can no longer achieve an erection.

Oralcraz · #**118** 08-09-2009, 09:38 AM

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Originally Posted by peanut123

Bro Spanner, I applaud your determination, but your situation is different.
You are a married man with wife and children. Cheating on your wife is wrong, because you not only betray her trust in you, you also endanger her health and well-being, and that of your children with your WL-bonking ways. A married man's actions affects many parties who have no choice in the matter.
Your change in habits is nothing more than just to compensate for the wrong you have done your family for the past years. To put it bluntly, you felt guilty of being an assh*le. So of course you had the motivation to change.
But many bros here are not like that. Many bros here, including myself, are single, carefree guys. So the motivation for us to stop is almost zero. We have no one to be faithful to. We have no one to be responsible for. Without these guilt-traps, its much harder to stop.

Well bro peanut, I can understand your point of view from a single but as a married person myself, I can only agree with you partially. Why? Of course as single (no gf), the only way to satisfy the sexual needs is through commercial (self masturbation not included). If we are attached (married/gf), yes, I agree with you, we should try, or if possible must keep a decent, healthy sex life. However, ..... my friend, 99% is not that perfect as we see it. During my younger days, had a wonderful gf once. We enjoy sex almost everyday for 5 good yrs. I did not "outsource" ..... no need. Now, married (with another lady) for 19yrs already. After 2 yrs of marriage, had the worse sex life until now ..... one month once or not even. My OC tells me in a straight forward manner ... "I'm not interested in sex anymore, if you want you go out and find".

So, bro, how then? Now a days, I don't even feel like having sexual intercourse.

To conclude, I would say this, for singles, I believe the freedom is there and the choice is individual. For the married, no matter what, family and commitment comes first. If, there is a need to release and de-stress or even when "entertainment", don't involve KC and always play safe. Good luck.

bochapsing · #**119** 08-09-2009, 12:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Oralcraz

To conclude, I would say this, for singles, I believe the freedom is there and the choice is individual. For the married, no matter what, family and commitment comes first. If, there is a need to release and de-stress or even when "entertainment", don't involve KC and always play safe. Good luck.

i've to agree with bro oralcraz....

every individual cheongster has his own reason of cheonging..
but one thing tat can be sure is tat to quit totally is very difficult after u've started...