Why do you all cheat?

[cornporn]

Originally Posted by Jasee

I have a friend who was in this similar situation. She went for a divorce, now she’s even happier than before.. I guess it’s the difficult choices you have to make at the start, which might seem impossible to do, but the outcome can be a blessing.

Most of the times cheating will not stop. Unless the other party really wants you, and knows you will not stay if it happens again.

A little manipulative, but focus on your money. When you can afford to give a woman a good life without her working, die, she's all yours. She dont want to lose that life.

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by obeyyodude

What you say is true and I know, I am essentially unhappy that I chose that path. All I want to do now is to improve my career and make lots of money haha

If you are so unhappy about the marriage, you should file for divorce now.. Not later. The earlier you do it, the better you get your life back, and the less you need to share. Assuming you makes lots of money, you will need to be sharing with her if you get the divorce later.

Also since you are both still young, you have a better chance of seeking your own happiness.

[Lordofkorat]

Originally Posted by BushTracker

If you are so unhappy about the marriage, you should file for divorce now.. Not later. The earlier you do it, the better you get your life back, and the less you need to share. Assuming you makes lots of money, you will need to be sharing with her if you get the divorce later.

Also since you are both still young, you have a better chance of seeking your own happiness.

yes i agree with this. but before jumping to divorce need to see if it can be worked out.

[obeyyodude]

Originally Posted by BushTracker

If you are so unhappy about the marriage, you should file for divorce now.. Not later. The earlier you do it, the better you get your life back, and the less you need to share. Assuming you makes lots of money, you will need to be sharing with her if you get the divorce later.

Also since you are both still young, you have a better chance of seeking your own happiness.

Actually she has always earned more than me, plus no kids (we both don't want). We each use our own money from our own personal accounts for personal spending but have joint account for utilities and conservancy fees + joint expenses like groceries. Flat also is co-ownership. Hopefully when the time comes I will not be required to pay any sort of maintenance.

[manymanee]

Originally Posted by Lordofkorat

yes i agree with this. but before jumping to divorce need to see if it can be worked out.

yea, if both parties willing to work things out and improve, then no need divorce. but if hse really cant be bothered then just divorce dont want time liao

[BushTracker]

Originally Posted by obeyyodude

Actually she has always earned more than me, plus no kids (we both don't want). We each use our own money from our own personal accounts for personal spending but have joint account for utilities and conservancy fees + joint expenses like groceries. Flat also is co-ownership. Hopefully when the time comes I will not be required to pay any sort of maintenance.

If her salary is higher than yours, then probably do not need to pay her.

[dessertboy]

Originally Posted by obeyyodude

Actually she has always earned more than me, plus no kids (we both don't want). We each use our own money from our own personal accounts for personal spending but have joint account for utilities and conservancy fees + joint expenses like groceries. Flat also is co-ownership. Hopefully when the time comes I will not be required to pay any sort of maintenance.

if during the marriage she was in no way dependant on you and she has no proof of affair outside, i think do not need to pay

[AUDIFANSG]

When ur wife/gf refuse sex for a myriad of reasons and don have desire for sex for weeks/months, are they trying to send the signal tat it is ok for u to eat outside? Or are they completely oblivious to the fact tat most guys are horny 24-7 and will fk almost anything with a v. If a guy isnt getting it from wife/gf, then he must be getting it somewhere else......

[JiraJira]

Originally Posted by AUDIFANSG

When ur wife/gf refuse sex for a myriad of reasons and don have desire for sex for weeks/months, are they trying to send the signal tat it is ok for u to eat outside? Or are they completely oblivious to the fact tat most guys are horny 24-7 and will fk almost anything with a v. If a guy isnt getting it from wife/gf, then he must be getting it somewhere else......

This i agree. Then the man becomes the bad guy for satisfying a need. Either that or go become monk.

[curtix]

bro as long at the end of the day you return home and be a good man you are fine

[Shadow_warrior]

Although it is not something discuss much, but why is there always an assumption that the man is cheating?

it can always be the woman too.

Title was- why do you all cheat? You can mean either party

I know enough women that are cheating on their hard working husbands. I know men who are cheating with married women.

End of the day, life is hard and people change. We will do what we do, and then live to see the consequences.

[sgjoey]

Originally Posted by BatamBro

I'm in an healthy relationship but I still have fwb and visit the massage parlours to have my handjob. lol. I do question myself why am I being such a demon and want to just suicide for being such a selfish person.

anyone in the same shoes? healthy relationship but have fwb and visit massage parlours?

Best reference for the topic - SEX AT DAWN by Ryan & Jetta. Monogamy may be great for some. But not for most. Because it may be part of human nature for men, as well as for women, to long for sexual variety. Not all cultures are monogamous. Monogamy itself is only about ten thousand years old and came about with the concept of land ownership, and subsequently, of exclusivity to our marriage partners as well. The fact that cheating is so common, that divorce rates are relatively high, that the sex industry, including porn, is ubiquitous in most places - these are all red flags that are suggestive that monogamy and humans are not a good fit.

[gankokyou]

Originally Posted by BushTracker

If her salary is higher than yours, then probably do not need to pay her.

Hard to say, you'll never know with those bastard lawyers around

[freshstartm]

I haven't cheated...yet but...
most guys will probably cheat, if given the opportunity. it's wired in our dna to seek out new, younger sexual partners. That said, pretty sure my father never cheated.

But that's because he never had the opportunity to do so as a low paid employee working long hours slaving away...but if he had the money and time, he probably would have...especially since my mother was a busy, workaholic career woman

[helplesslyham]

physical touches and sex becomes a tool of blackmail and ransom.