How to end a FB relationship cordially

[radax]

I'm on the guy side.
Ended a 1yr+ companionship before Christmas last year because she started a romantic relationship. She just texted me one day and told me the news. I wished her the best from the bottom of my heart and let her move on with her life.

The memories were nice and I felt sad for a while as she kinda was the person I could chat with every week when we met up after a tough week at work. (We had a common interest)

But we are mature adults and she deserve love and to get married, have kids, etc. I don't know how her relationship is going but somehow I know she's happy and that's good enough for me.

[BackstageBambi]

Originally Posted by siri

I agreed totally on this. there's just some feelings involved but it's not like love..? I believe it's an attachment. or like an addiction.

Not love definitely but like an addiction to the whole scenario of the sexual escapade with that person. The senses, memories, where we fuck, how he makes noises, his breathing, his climax, everything.

[BackstageBambi]

Originally Posted by radax

I'm on the guy side.
Ended a 1yr+ companionship before Christmas last year because she started a romantic relationship. She just texted me one day and told me the news. I wished her the best from the bottom of my heart and let her move on with her life.

The memories were nice and I felt sad for a while as she kinda was the person I could chat with every week when we met up after a tough week at work. (We had a common interest)

But we are mature adults and she deserve love and to get married, have kids, etc. I don't know how her relationship is going but somehow I know she's happy and that's good enough for me.

Oh that’s sad but she’s found someone stable for a proper relationship I guess, that’s where one has to move on, like it or not. You’ll find someone new soon too.

[Btbh]

I’ve had tons of fbs and still do now so this is from experience. Just let it end naturally - text less and meet up less. If you keep saying you’re busy or you’ll let him know when you’re free - he will get what it actually means eventually.

[siri]

Originally Posted by BackstageBambi

Not love definitely but like an addiction to the whole scenario of the sexual escapade with that person. The senses, memories, where we fuck, how he makes noises, his breathing, his climax, everything.

yes. this. that whole experience with this person.

[Cochran]

Originally Posted by Btbh

Just let it end naturally - text less and meet up less.

This is actually the best answer i feel too

[cherrylover]

Originally Posted by BackstageBambi

Hey all, thanks to those who have left comments.

Well the main issue is that this current fb is starting to have some etiquette issues. He’ll text to ask if I’m available, but if I can’t make it and I request to reschedule, he doesn’t reply after. He just leaves me hanging without even replying. I am starting to find this really rude of him. I believe there should be a basic level of courtesy right? At least reply and not ghost me on text. So it’s an issue of etiquette.

Just tell your FB that you wishes to end it. No need give a reason actually or Just say would like to take a break. It is kinda obvious your fb takes you for granted. just move from him ba. all are adults, should know how to let go lo

[MonzterAntz]

Ended both my FB when I got posted to HK.

FB1
Visited me in HK and found out that I was fucking 2 HK gals. She just walked out of my apartment while I was still sleeping. A few days she sent me an email and ended our 5 yrs FB relationship.

FB2
Stop contacting me and blocked me on all chat apps and social media for whatever reasons I don't know of

[Cheesebeast]

My FB endings:

1) Preschool teacher
Lasted about 2.5 years. Honoured our agreement throughout the ordeal. She found a boyfriend and wanted to take things seriously so gave about a month's notice. Got married to him about 2 years later. Wished her the best of luck and even attended her wedding with my then girlfriend.

2) Nurse at SGH
Lasted almost 2 years. She broke our agreement when her feelings got involved. Went off the pill and purposely got herself pregnant. Back then i was alrd attached my girlfriend from (1). Ended things with her before she can do anything more stupid. Kinda sad cause she was superb in bed, none of my girlfriends matched her skills haha.

[candeo_88]

If it ends "professionally", "gracefully" and "respectfully", there is always a chance to get back together albeit not permanently...happened to me a couple of times previously...show her what a true gentleman you are...

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by candeo_88

If it ends "professionally", "gracefully" and "respectfully", there is always a chance to get back together albeit not permanently...happened to me a couple of times previously...show her what a true gentleman you are...

the thing is bro, if there is a chance to get back together, why end it at all? Continue the good thing

But what is a FB relationship and when we want it to continue, doesn't that say we want more, and its no longer just sex, but emotions, and wanting more.

That's the whole issue to me. True FBs can just say, bye, and not expect each other to call, text, message and its fine. It means friends with benefits. But how many in these relationships can? Even in friends we have expectations, and if it was a good friend we expect more.

I liken proper FBs to ONS, there should be no tomorrow, no expectation, no personal details, and its for now, today and that's all.

Unfortunately, its never two ways, either they want more, or I wanted more. and it became messy.

For those that I could walk away after being hot and heavy for a while and not being burnt, besides ONS, are few.

Perhaps we should just call it a booty call, and understand its just for sex. That term suits the activity better

[Laopizhui]

i got a FWB for 5 years, she ask me if i ever wanted her for life partner.

i think a lot on this, then i told her she isnt the type we can really communicate , there are also other factors that we dont match

so she still wants to have sex with me, as she told me as a BBW no guys wanted her.

so came her parents pressure her to get a bg/partner
she told me she is actively looking for bf in social apps. ask me can i take it if she one day end the FWB for good

i told her, there is no need to ask, lets just end it right now. told her to forus to get a bf and get married

now she is of cos married. i am happy for her truly.

we are now more like friends, meet up for meals and chit chat, offer her some marriage advice n she offer me how to really cook meals

i cant love her as a gf, but i do love her as a good friend, now girls are more complicated. really, and i dont have the six packs charm power anymore

no FB or FWB for many years, thats it for me

[Jasee]

Originally Posted by BackstageBambi

Nah. Not life partner material. It’s purely FwB. But as a female, normally we are the ones who develop some form of illogical attachment even though I know very well it’s really not romance or love. Just ‘something’ there.

Absolutely agree with you on this. Somehow I’m in a rather similar situation as you are

Problem with me is.. I want to end it, but I don’t want to end it. Fickle minded. In my mind I kept thinking, how do you continue to be friends with a FB whom you had a soft spot for, and see them happily married or with partners. I would feel sad that I didn’t have a spot in his life.

[sbwow]

Originally Posted by Jasee

Absolutely agree with you on this. Somehow I’m in a rather similar situation as you are

Problem with me is.. I want to end it, but I don’t want to end it. Fickle minded. In my mind I kept thinking, how do you continue to be friends with a FB whom you had a soft spot for, and see them happily married or with partners. I would feel sad that I didn’t have a spot in his life.

Don't fret over it.
One thing is for sure, you will always have been a fuck buddy spot in his life. HAHAHA.

[DanielChan]

Just tell nicely