What will you do if your wife refuse sex with you?

[A1406]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

This is a different scenario cos he can't find a job due to legitimate reason not cos he don't want to. I have been paying majority of the bills cos I earn more than him and he took it for granted and refuse to improve himself. I don't ask him for any money back and my boy's tuition fees are all borne by me as he does not believe in tuition nor insurance. Lots of these issues. I endured till I feel there is no point anymore. Then I stopped the sex naturally cos I don't feel anymore connection with him. I need an emotional attachment for sex. Heh.

Understand your point. As least you can part your money for family sake without demanding it back. Yes if the man dun improve despite your kindness he ought to be shot!

[A1406]

Originally Posted by coolguy71

Hi bros.. dont u think the reason your wife dont want sex from us as she is getting it from somewhere else. She has her fun.. so when we a she is used. Think about it..

At least this is how i feel.. if not alway tired.. so or not.
.lol.

Might be but can never jump the gun unless saw with our own eyes.
But to reject us is same as asking us to eat out as obvious they know we need then we are like "beggar" to ask from them and they purposely dun give. Serve them right if they found out about us eating outside. Better still no need to give them excuse here and there.

[hhlover]

I think all bro here is having the same problem.. married life wit kid = less or no sex life wit wife... last time be4 married or be4 our 2nd child.. sex life wit my wife was wonderful.. we will foreplay, she will bj n i paint her.. then pump her in few position.. or even bj till i cim..
But now sad to say.. she wont reject sex wit me but maybe twice a month.. no bj, jus i paint her to make sure she abit wet be4 pumping her.. n only one positon tat is missionary.. until she come i come.. end game..
Come to think of it.. i rather sometime wank off myself then have sex wit her... worst then commercial sex...

[JacqueMerlin]

Originally Posted by A1406

Hi Bros

I am facing this situation that my wife refuse sex or if she need then approach me. We are on good term but once this issue being brought up it will end up she not happy. She just reject by saying next time lah, tmr lah or tired lah.
Now, what will you guys do? Eat out? Find FB?
sisters, out there can also comment.

She's cheating on you. No decent woman will change like this for no good reason.
Don't believe all the stories she can conjur to convince you she's not cheating. Prepare to look for a good lawyer.

[markzzz]

Read through the postings in this thread. I am also trapped in a sexless and loveless marriage. Hardly talk to the wife. Sad to say maybe we made the wrong choice getting married. We got different views on so many things every once in a while will argue. So these days, I just don't bother to communicate, at leAST avoid chabce for conflict. Would have gotten a divorce but for the child..we married 11 years but 10 years of misery...I think when the kid is older, I will likely initiate a divorce... just wonder at what age would the child be able to understand and not be so emotionally affected

[mikealpha]

Originally Posted by markzzz

Read through the postings in this thread. I am also trapped in a sexless and loveless marriage. Hardly talk to the wife. Sad to say maybe we made the wrong choice getting married. We got different views on so many things every once in a while will argue. So these days, I just don't bother to communicate, at leAST avoid chabce for conflict. Would have gotten a divorce but for the child..we married 11 years but 10 years of misery...I think when the kid is older, I will likely initiate a divorce... just wonder at what age would the child be able to understand and not be so emotionally affected

Sad to hear bro....男人的悲哀！

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by markzzz

Read through the postings in this thread. I am also trapped in a sexless and loveless marriage. Hardly talk to the wife. Sad to say maybe we made the wrong choice getting married. We got different views on so many things every once in a while will argue. So these days, I just don't bother to communicate, at leAST avoid chabce for conflict. Would have gotten a divorce but for the child..we married 11 years but 10 years of misery...I think when the kid is older, I will likely initiate a divorce... just wonder at what age would the child be able to understand and not be so emotionally affected

Originally Posted by mikealpha

Sad to hear bro....男人的悲哀！

Yes, its true..many bros & hubbies are in such sad circumstances...sigh..the stresses & strains of daily living as well as having to take care of the kids & family etc hv taken a big toll on most wifeys wif many cracks slowly appearing one by one over time or sometimes even all together in their marriage, making hubbies literally having to beg for sex wif their wifeys...& as a result leading to some who are unable to control their urges having to eat outside & some even committing sexual crimes....really sad...

so couples must constantly re-invent & spice up their romance for their marriages to work..& to survive & stand the test of time for the sake of both parties...just mho...

[Feronas]

Originally Posted by HelloAngel

Men and women programmed differently. Men needs sex from wife to feel loved. Women needs more than sex to feel loved. Of course, some women feel that the more sex their spouse gives, the more the hb loves them. Then some are happy with material goods from the spouse sans the sex. Perfect scenario would be $$ and sex creates a good balance but seldom. No perfect solution to the problems each couple face and ultimately it's up to you to either remain stuck in an unhappy marriage or attempt to improve it. no matter what, do what you want as long as you are willing to face the music should shit happens.

This sis raised a gd topic i wanna expand on for bros and sis out there. There are studies on the connection bet men and women. 5 love languages. Physical touch. Quality time together. Performing acts of Service for your partner. Gift giving. Words of affirmation. Theory is that we generally give love the way we want to recieve it. Hence the best partners are those whom share the same love languages i.e. soul mates. If u are looking for a soul mate, make sure your love languages synchronize. It is also noteworthy to mention that a person's true love language can only be discovered after living with and going through some form of hardship together. Marriages that require alot of compromise occur when both have dissimilar love languages. Like in my case, mine was physical and quality time, hers was gifts, acts of service and tons of affirmation. In such circumstances, communication & "trading" is required to sustain the love in the relationship (e.g. i get physical touch and kid quality time with my parents when i give her gifts). But in cases where "trading" cant even occur for whatever reason (like she prioritise other things like career, etc) or is not sustainable (cannot be buy prada bag every week so that kid can see my parents right...), it is finished, just like how it ended for mine. Food for thought bros and sis.

[coolguy71]

What does God have in mind? Here are two passages from Scripture:

Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them (Colossians 3:18-19).

 

Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body(Ephesians 5:22-30).

Got this on a website...haha.

So wife who deny husband of their needs.. will need to answer for their own remptation. ..

[williamtkk]

Originally Posted by coolguy71

Here are two passages from Scripture:

Wives, be subject to your husbands, ........(Colossians 3:18).

 

Please send the above message to AWARE and those feminist movements. Many thanks

[ah rat]

Originally Posted by ILikeToMoveIt

Yes, bro. Of course I have as per your request

Bro, where is yr pixs of yr wife neh neh & pussy

[lancerlution2]

Originally Posted by JacqueMerlin

She's cheating on you. No decent woman will change like this for no good reason.
Don't believe all the stories she can conjur to convince you she's not cheating. Prepare to look for a good lawyer.

Nonsense she's not cheating on u (not all women will cheat bcoz u r not getting good sex) is just that both of u have too many things to do and led to being tired. Cannot expect sex to be like b4 bro we just have to keep the flame alive that's all. Cheers

[ILikeToMoveIt]

Originally Posted by ah rat

Bro, where is yr pixs of yr wife neh neh & pussy

I can share it with you thru wechat.

[angurvadal]

和她说，家里煮不煮没关系。 你不煮， 我打抱。

[larue]

Originally Posted by lancerlution2

Nonsense she's not cheating on u (not all women will cheat bcoz u r not getting good sex) is just that both of u have too many things to do and led to being tired. Cannot expect sex to be like b4 bro we just have to keep the flame alive that's all. Cheers

He's saying that not because TS's wife doesn't want to have sex with him, it's the way she does it.