How to get my targeted fuck buddy

[indexes401]

Originally Posted by Medusa

its ok bro..

hmmm...this trick seems workable but my ex dont drink zzzzz...and also i dont really see him now...thats the headache part...i want to propose whenever i see him on msn but i always hold back cos i didnt want him to back off....rather..i dont him to have any excuse to reject...i want to fight a "war" which im comfortable of and winning chances is high instead of preparing to be reject...hmmm...seems like i really have to plan wisely..a fool proof way to pop the question..

anyway thks bros who have answer me...any further advice will be deeply appreciated too

Sis Medusa

Telling your ex through MSN is a no no. It will only give him a chance to react by rejecting you.
I am not sure if this works, if you have the chance to see him, try to build up the chemistry between the both of you first. Then create some chance to be more physical, like him touching your elbows or tickling you and you hitting his shoulders or something.

Go on to the beach or somewhere with less people more often. try to be more touchy, then when you feel the frequency between the 2 of you is right, do a slow initiation by kissing him and let things take its natural course from there.

I guess this approach is more subtle and for the very least you don't have to pop the question directly to him.

Just my two cents worth. Hope it helps.

[nstern]

Been lurking for a long time but i think i can contribute a bit here.

Targeting a FB over MSN doesn't work all the time. I advise you to go the clubbing route or perhaps 'late night drive' route. My own experience, targetting an FB over MSN, is that the person may say yes, no strings attached, would like to try sex here and would like to fulfill fantasies there, when it comes to the actual thing may still back out.

Was talking to a target over MSN and she was sooo garang, everything also want to try. Agreed to be FBs, laid out the rules and everything. But when the time came, she backed out at the last minute, at my doorstep. sooo, personally i think no matter what, physical, face to face methods are better.

my 2 cents worth la, not saying it won't work, but don't count on it.

[w1erdguy]

Originally Posted by cherrytrix

Hey TS, I'm a girl too and I hooked my FBs of choice but chatting a lot with them online... These guys are people I met in real life, don't get me wrong, I didn't meet them online per se. Some guys are shy in person but they come out of their shells once a convo starts via MSN...

Usually I'll warm up to them while we chat and if I feel sure that he's interested, I'd drop a hint by saying that I imagined myself sleeping with them. If I'm feeling very coy, I'd say that I dreamt of him on top of me the night before... Gotta see their reaction but so far it's been a 100% success rate for me.

i wish all my girl friends are like you, not the bgr gf, just normal friends

[bananapie]

wow interesting.. pitch tent liao

[西楚霸王]

Guess most guys like to play it safe. As the old saying goes no such thing as a free lunch. Plus penalty for sexual offense in Singapore is no joke. Backside can tear and assholes raped.

[Medusa]

thks guys for the response..i guess i wont pop the question in the near future to him...i felt the chillness so i dont think im sending myself to the route of no return lolz...

having a no-string attached relationship can be fun provided u play the game well...but often it went the wrong way...hmmm..i guess i can only continue searching...there's nothing much i can do...maybe if i get tired of searching..i'll just stop

[Desper]

i'm sure there are alot of buddies here that's willing to be your FB..

[Timberwolf739]

show us your facebook or pics and you might get what you want...

the final decision is yours!!!

[mandy]

hello, im new here and found this forum very interesting. Here is my humble post in response to the topic.. By the way, I am a girl too

Recently I hooked a new FB but it took some time.. Not that I actually made alot of effort because I am a girl afterall, so it's usually better if the guy shows hints as well.. Hmm, he is my poly schoolmate and we only knew each other as acquaintances. Then beginning of this year, I became single so he came talking to me in Facebook. I didnt like him immediately but thought he was quite cute as he actually did abit of flirting with me on MSN. When I actually responded positively, he went a little MIA.. So i thought, he was just confused and maybe it's just guys.. Flirt around when he has the time.. At least that's what I think.. haha..

Then along the months, we did exchange MSN messages but nothing major.. Suddenly 2 weeks ago, he asked me out and we went on a date. He wanted to be like no-strings-attached boyfriend but I guess he really wasnt sure again because he is afraid of commitments even as a so-called "part-time boyfriend".. I think this chap must be really confused.. haha.. Then nothing happened.. Although we would still exchange flirty MSN messages and last Friday, he actually got quite horny.. He hinted me that he wanted more of me.. I told him, actually I don't think part-time boyfriends would work in any way.. because an FB will be good enough for now.. He asked me if i am sure of what I said.. Hee.. Then he came to pick me up near midnite and we went for our 1st rendezvous together...

I was thinking, it took him so long to decide that we can actually be FBs... hmm... But come to think of it, I wonder what do you guys really see an FB as? Hmm... like normally isit only when you really really need it then you will meet the FB just for sex? Or.. some of you actually do go on short dates with the FB and then the sex after..? I'm just curious..

[cherrytrix]

Originally Posted by nstern

Targeting a FB over MSN doesn't work all the time. I advise you to go the clubbing route or perhaps 'late night drive' route. My own experience, targetting an FB over MSN, is that the person may say yes, no strings attached, would like to try sex here and would like to fulfill fantasies there, when it comes to the actual thing may still back out.

Hmm yah I won't disagree with this... Sometimes it feels "safer" to experiment via MSN and what the guy is typing may really turn you on... But sometimes face to face, there's just no chemistry! It can either hit or miss, depends on the situation also...

[mandy]

Originally Posted by cherrytrix

Hmm yah I won't disagree with this... Sometimes it feels "safer" to experiment via MSN and what the guy is typing may really turn you on... But sometimes face to face, there's just no chemistry! It can either hit or miss, depends on the situation also...

Hey! I agree that it's better to experiment over MSN and in fact that happens to me lor! He got horny and I got turned on also, so we hit each other's right spots and had a great rendezvous together..Hehe.. But I do agree that sometimes it really depends on the situation as well..........

[see see only]

Originally Posted by mandy

I was thinking, it took him so long to decide that we can actually be FBs... hmm... But come to think of it, I wonder what do you guys really see an FB as? Hmm... like normally isit only when you really really need it then you will meet the FB just for sex? Or.. some of you actually do go on short dates with the FB and then the sex after..? I'm just curious..

FB should be more straight forward - straight to the point maybe can da bao lunch (settle 2 things at one shot) as well, once done can go back to work (forgot me is jobless)

Or straight after work (forgot again me is jobless) then can go home catch TVB show from ch 55

Finally, strictly speaking - all is ok - end of the day objective must be met (my piece of thinking)

[nstern]

Originally Posted by see see only

FB should be more straight forward - straight to the point maybe can da bao lunch (settle 2 things at one shot) as well, once done can go back to work (forgot me is jobless)

Or straight after work (forgot again me is jobless) then can go home catch TVB show from ch 55

Finally, strictly speaking - all is ok - end of the day objective must be met (my piece of thinking)

i agree. straight to the point. involve too much of other things would only mean one party might get serious and of course we don't want that do we? of course it doesn't mean not being casual friends lah. But nothing beyond that.

I had an acquaintance whom i had movies and dinner with and we started making out after a few outings (no sex yet). I made it very clear that i was just in for the physical and she was fine with it. Until she realised i was getting attached to a girl soon and she kept asking why she was not considered. So rules have to be laid lah, at least for my case loh.

[boliao8989]

Hi Mandy, FBs as the name suggests are meant for a good time together, a redevous any time of the day when both are free and have certain needs. FBs are usually friends who knows the rules of the relationship but that does not mean they cannot go on dates such as meals, movies etc. Though I'm w/o an FB now, but I do share things with my FB as sometimes its easier to talk to FBs. So FBs relationship is great. If you have any other indepth questions you can PM me if need be. Cheers!

[mandy]

Thanks bros for your kind advice

To see see only: haha... your "forgot again me is jobless" is very funny... anyway yes you are right. End of the day objective must be met. At least i think this is what most guys think when it comes to FB ya?

To nstern: i think what you did was correct, when it comes to clarifying the intention right at the beginning. And i can understand why the girl actually asked why it's not her but someone else as your official gf.. Yes, girls always hope for too much sometimes... sad to say... see the contradiction..? "always" and "sometimes"..

To boliao8989: yes I have to agree with you that sometimes it's easier to talk to FBs.. Just like me and the current FB, we actually shared some of our separate love/relationship problems... And when we happen to be in the same situation, we seem to be able to understand and console each other better.. It just feels like physically closer friends.. haha...