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[NotMyRealName]

Originally Posted by 12121212

TS...pls come back..you are providing good info

Hi 12121212, not much happening these days due to holidays and energy ($ & body) low.

Just an update, one of my previous GF, a singer from hunan, she is back now in Singapore last week on singer pass. I see if I go to her work place or bump into her at the usual ktv places. When she gone back, I break with her the instant she touched down and got a sim card to sms me her china phone number, I citing that I won't go to hunan to look for her and its best to break while having good memories. She was bitter but she has a malaysian bf when she gone to Malaysia to work as a singer until two months ago when she go back to Hunan.

Anyway, I broke off with the fujian student baoyee (she is here on student pass and works part time as a waitress) because after two months plus, not much GFE feelings and she hardly message me (which is a condition that I lay down since the beginning that she has to message me everyday) in between the meet-ups.

Now, only with a singer that will go back to chengdu in end March.

Anyway, all the best in your baoying experiences and hopefully sharing by other bros.

[NotMyRealName]

My singer gf try to make me jealous when I go to her work place, she drink and play games at two other tables, but only one table hang her $50 flower. She sits with me less than 1/4 the time she sits at each of the other two table. When she comes by my table, she said in a drunken tone that she is glad to have met me during her six month stint in SG, and she wishes that I take care of her for her entire life, I replied that I don't want to promise what I cannot fulfill and I don't want to lie. She sounded a bit shocked that I didn't sweet talk to her.

Anyway, I play it cool, telling her soothingly that she should drink less, not good for her etc etc. And I told her I've got to leave by 12 midnight and she replied in a displeased tone why not I leave right away. I kept my cool and drink with a friend (guy) whom I brought to her work place for the first time and said that I've to accompany my friend here for a while. Her singer friend come by and whisper to me that my gf is drunk and need me to take care of her. I said if she is drinking at the other table, I also cannot just drag her from those table, what will those guys think.

Last night, I didn't hang any flower on her.

Anyway by the time I leave at 11:25pm, she suddenly accompany to outside the ktv door and hug me and cried on my shoulders and eyes red we said good bye.

I think either party is playing the mind game.

[NotMyRealName]

Cooling off period, be it for a purchase or for a r/s (fake or real), is a good thing from the buyer perspective.

I have experienced that in a sudden rush of strong feelings for a gal, that despite the rapidly thinning wallet, that without much prompting or for sound-too-bad-to-be-true-if-I-question-myself-or-her (mom sick, brother need school fees, family want to move house because cannot stand the brother and his wife, want to rent a better place etc etc). Half the time it is true but the extent was exaggerated 2x/3x/10x.

So, cool off, go to another KTV joint, pick a couple of gals that looks good to my eyes, and once the same sob stories flows, then I wake up. Hahaha.

So don't forget the forest.

[Rain-Men]

Totally agree bro..sometimes need to walk away..chill out before coming back. Can literally "wake up your own idea"! Well...I just "woke up" recently also...

[fishlover]

Thank you TS and other Bros for such an infomative and educational thread!

[12121212]

Originally Posted by fishlover

Thank you TS and other Bros for such an infomative and educational thread!

yupz..it will be good if TS share more of his stories...

[eeemen]

Interesting read, and sharing of information. Thanks bro TS, and all the best in your search, , cheers, ..........

[NotMyRealName]

Thanks for all the feedback, sharing, and encouragements.

[NotMyRealName]

One of my previous singer gf, after going back for a nearly two years, she became engaged in August last year, and then two days ago got married (big pregnant tummy).

She was cute, bubbly, and of a slightly chubby face, body and bottom that are killer attractive to me. sigh.

Caveat: not all her info I have verified, but her education background is quite correct because I met her good friends from her uni hostel who are all from her faculty. She has a 3 years accountancy degree (专科）from Fuzhou University but she cannot get a job that utilises her skill. She worked as a book keeper in a small factory on low 1400rmb monthly pay. So less than a year, she quits. She was living with her then BF whom after 2 plus years they split, she citing his immaturity and spendthrift habits (actually, she also heavy spender).

Then she help out in her family small mushroom farm. Then her father tried to boost income by bulk buying of feedstock/fertiliser but the move backfired with majority of stock unsold and oweing relatives and bank loans. So she came to SG to work as singer to help repay.

I was then smittened, eyes blurred by my liking her physical attributes while she is quite lazy in nature, spends a lot, and we carried on the relationship after she gone back in March 2011, until November 2011 when she keeps changing her mind to work as 美甲师 in Singapore or open a 美甲shop in China and she took on an English course that cost 8888 rmb for 3 months and yet she abandon her idea of coming to singapore to work as 美甲师 .

I woke up from giving to her wilful desires and I sensed her dwindling feelings for me by September 2011. After a visit in end October 2011 to Fuzhou to see her, I woke up and knows she is not for me.

When she was engaged in August last year, I was feeling a little bit sad, but also a bit glad that the feeling has died down so much. I don't wish her ill and I had good time during the initial period when I really liked her. I and her, plus her sister and her good friend (1 guy 3 gals) had toured Xiamen, HangZhou, and Fuzhou. In Fuzhou, she introduced me to four of her best friends. The mid 80后 and younger gals are open and are fun to be with if you can engage with them. It's just that topics that are of interest to them are of little or no interest to me, such as entertainment scene, the TV/movie stars, their daily grind.

Just my rumblings.

My motto: Got to have fun today and not postpone till tomorrow!

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by NotMyRealName

When I saw her, she is already in the fourth month of her singer pass permit, and she said that she only pushed door during the first month, and subsequent two months she didn't dare to because she has put on weight and her confidence was low. But no choice, she couldn't meet her target in her lounge and she has to pay fine, so she starts to push door again.

What does push door mean?

[NotMyRealName]

Originally Posted by Brainstorm

What does push door mean?

butterfly, 跑台。

[AvgJoe]

Interesting read and good information sharing. Like the way you pen it, simple and straightforward experience sharing from your own point of view.

Each and everyone plays the game differently, with the same goal in mind. Good luck and continue sharing your experience!

[12121212]

Originally Posted by AvgJoe

Interesting read and good information sharing. Like the way you pen it, simple and straightforward experience sharing from your own point of view.

Each and everyone plays the game differently, with the same goal in mind. Good luck and continue sharing your experience!

Yup..totally agree...

[NotMyRealName]

Thanks guys for your kind remarks.

My singer gf has now asked me, on two different occasions, to make love.

Call me stupid but I haven't yet. I told her that I wanted to hold it off until she gone back and I visit her in China. I cited that my past record of forgetting about the girl or the feelings grown weak over the distance and time and I wanted to reserve something for the future meet up. Each time she ended up teary eyes and a bit uncomfortable.

I know most guys will think and will say I'm stupid. It is the first time I've hold off the sex and refused the girl. I'm playing this the first time. Actually, I'm playing the test-myself plus my sex drive has gone down recently, but I'll probably make love to her the next time (while here in SG) we got close again.

I am a very busy working man, and girls are aplenty, and I've loved no girl. I will classify the strongest feelings I've ever had as "like the girl very much" but it caused no serious damage, yet so far.

Some girls upon me telling them that I've have had girl friends had asked me if I miss them, I told them a bit but I've got over them quickly. They have all said (I think most girls except the very battle-worn and iron-hearted ones are romantics in their mind) that it is because I haven't met the ONE. I doubt so.

And nowadays I practice the go to another place to look at pleasant and pretty gals to ween me off the girl-I-like-atthe-moment feeling.

I'll pick this up after a few days or development.

[LovePotion]

wow u r the real man