Falling in love with a Thai prostitute in Geylang.. Advice needed..

[Bebeque]

Originally Posted by singathai

Actually, her intention was very simple. She only wanted me to visit her once in a while. She always pays me back whatever amount of money I pay to her boss. She will text/call me daily before and after her working hours. She doesn't want me to break up with my girlfriend at all. All she wants is having a part of me in her life. I don't know how stupid and foolish this can sound to you guys, but that's what she showed me. It was me being that stupid fucker you guys think I am lol. I told her about taking care of her and stuff. She was really happy that I have the intention of doing that but she wasn't ready for it. She told me we wouldn't be able to support her and her family and come back to Singapore for quite a while if she breaks her bond. And she told me she only knew me for less than 2 months. She's afraid I might leave her and she'll end up jobless and nowhere to go. So now, my plan is to just stay over her place once a week and see how things goes. I probably can't do anything to break her bond and make it possible for her to stay with me since I don't earn enough. Anyway, thank you all bros out there that have given me your sincere comments and advices. I'll update again.

From how you described her, she seems so simple and has a heart of gold "...She doesn't want me to break up with my girlfriend at all...."

It also appears that she takes you as a financial backup "... She's afraid I might leave her and she'll end up jobless and nowhere to go..."

As admirable as these qualities are for both of you, many bros have advised you to be careful and don't be a "... stupid fucker...".

You are young, you have been cautioned and yet want to go through the baptism of fire of being snookered, heart, body and wallet.

Do what you want to do as this is your life. Hopefully, you will go through this episode not entirely broken in body, soul and wallet.

Don't be offended by what bros commented. We just want to share our views as probably we have had been there, done that, even before you were not born!!!

Just take care and good luck.

[collin_23]

Since she still going work here for 2 yrs , come back again in 2 yrs , now talk what also no use . Got time go read up the relationship stuff in here .

99 times out of 100 , the relationship will fail for relationship with WLs . The remaining one is a Gem ,usually when the girl just enter the trade not long ago , no family burden , no child , speak english or chinese , can cook can take care house , hardworking , good in bed , understanding , not money conscious .

Also provided the guy is handome , speak thai , understanding , RICH , got time for her , have car , have house .

10 yrs ago 1 thai girl ask me what is love , that time I still young I cannot answer her . Recently another girl ask me ' love is ..' ? Love is to know that the person u love is happy always , doing all u can to make sure she is comfortable and happy . If one is unable to stay in thai , your chances r almost nil for the relationship to work , even for me now , every 2 -3 months I will fly thai , I don't dare get a gf ..

[Greatking]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

"Advice" is a non countable noun; you do not add an "s" to make it plural.

"Advice" is like "Rice". You say... "Please pass me the Rice." You don't say "Please pass me the rices" because "Rice", like "Advice", is a non countable noun.

There are many other examples. To test your knowledge of non countable nouns, go to English Language Quiz - Countable or Non-countable Nouns (I-TESL-J) and take the test.

Thank you.

[seekers]

Double posting...

[seekers]

Brother, I have been reading since day one of ur posting... As u said u r not high educate as I dun think so, but i think most of the Bro also know what r u working as lioa, as I advise u better, make the right choice...

GO UR HEAD, OR GO AHEAD... GoD Bless You... All the best to u, Bro... Think wisely, as we grow older but not foolishly...

Originally Posted by singathai

I'm a regular in the rsaf lol. I have a family too unfortunately.

Originally Posted by singathai

I sincerely thank all of you bros out there who have given me your piece of advice. Yes I will definitely be more careful when I'm with her. I'm starting to think better already. Anyway, just to clarify with you guys. Firstly, I've told her my actual income. Its definitely not a 5 digit pay like what they earn(if that's really the amount they earn monthly). Just imagine the salary of a regular serviceman in his early 20s(with diploma education only). She told me in my face its definitely not enough to take care of her and her family. I agreed with her. I told her I can find ways to get her to work and stay in singapore but the salary would be less than 2k. She is now considering this way that I've mentioned. And secondly, I don't think with my bottom brain lol. I'm not a person with very high sex drive. And her skills in bed and her other services aren't the best I've experienced. Its just something more than this transaction guys get from prostitutes. I don't know, maybe she's using some spell on me like what one of the bro mentioned earlier on. But why sould she do that? I've made it clear to her I'm a poor fuck lol. For looks? Okay not that I want to say this, but I'm actually above average looking. I don't know what a matured woman(in her late 20s) can look for in me. I'm sure she needs money more than looks. So I don't know what's the point of putting a spell on me. Pardon me for my assumptions bros. Once again, I appreciate all comments all bros out there that have commented in this thread.

Originally Posted by singathai

Okay lah!! Haha my england C6 for O lvls okay..

[shiokpleasure]

路遥知马力，日久见人心

[pojstemp]

bro singathai, we know u in love now for right or wrong reasons. Our other bros can see fm outside clearer than u. You, like many of us have a weakness for women. May I suggest to you.? Go Golden Mile, ktv or thai disco, if possible all outlets there and see for yourself the Thai culture. Maybe, u find a gem there.

[stillgottheblue]

No one answered your enquiries directly. So I'll rebut you while answering

1) The Working Lady has to attend to 150-200 customers to pay her agent fees when she began working in the house
You mentioned she just arrived. So you will have to pay for all her "losses" to her agent and the local house owner.


2) She is allowed to work a maximum of 2 years, in the midst of her contract, she can request to return
Yes, she can throw in the towel and go back home as you wished. Her family will grilled her, "where is my $$$?"

3) When she returns, she will be barred from entering Singapore for the next 2 years
You are a regular, and she will be barred for 2 years from entering Singapore. Most of your communications will be in the form of skype/whatsapp/phone or visits when you are clearing your leave. Can you can break your military contract and choose stay in Thailand?

Even if you get to marry her after 2 years, she may or may not get PR status. It all depends on case to case basis on the relevant agencies. So you have to pay more for everything she uses... e.g., housing/medical, etc... no subsidiary rates. Without PR and given her history as a Working Lady and education, it will be very hard to get a work permit.

5) She had a child and needy family commitment
She told you your salary cannot meet her needs, how are you going to increase your income. Can you get along with her child and family?

You known her for only 1 months or less. What makes you think you have understood her enough? Some couples married a life-time and yet don't really understand each other.

Many of these ladies in GL had iPhone, iPad, laptop. They carry designer bags and use branded cosmetics and designer perfumes. They like to purchase gold accessories frequently. Can you afford her all these luxury?

Have fun and forget... and don't do raw you don't know if anyone before you has got any "problems". The house will be penalised by AV when they found sperm inside the girls during their regular check-up.

[Greatking]

Originally Posted by pojstemp

bro singathai, we know u in love now for right or wrong reasons. Our other bros can see fm outside clearer than u. You, like many of us have a weakness for women. May I suggest to you.? Go Golden Mile, ktv or thai disco, if possible all outlets there and see for yourself the Thai culture. Maybe, u find a gem there.

If its a must for you to look for a Thai-girlfriend.

Online cupid websites
Thai Community here
Request for posting to kacharburi or Singapore embassy there (if you are lucky)

Pardon me if I'm wrong, but from my understanding, girls that are into these lines like KTVs or sex workers, wouldn't hope their husband or future husbands to know they did these before, if they have the choice to choose.

There will always be a psychological barrier. Because, girls who wanted to live back a decent life wouldn't want their love ones to know about this black mark. It will also be difficult for you, you will never stop being suspicious over the slightest thing and quarrel often over sensitive issues.

Why make your life difficult? It might seem difficult to get over a r/s, but most buddies here knows that its not that difficult and on contrast, its pretty easy. Just let time take its cause.

In those cupid websites, not difficult for you to find someone whose decent and/is decent now. If you manage to find someone online who used to be a sex worker (of cos, thru mean of finding out other than she tells you automatically), she's probably someone who wants a decent live back. These are the girls that you can go for.

Anyway, juz my small input. All the best, bro

[yunnamhaircare]

Bro, you can view my thread below. I actually encourage relationships with FLs.
http://thesbf.shop/showthread....184&highlight=

But I find that you are really childish and too inmatured to handle marriage with any girl, not only FLs. Your level of thinking, maturity, and rationality is really too low to manage a family. I will actually pity that FL (not you) if you marry her.

[Nonteerak2553]

Originally Posted by pojstemp

May I suggest to you.? Go Golden Mile, ktv or thai disco, if possible all outlets there and see for yourself the Thai culture. Maybe, u find a gem there.

Those places you mentioned are no different to G lane. All are money minded. Once you dry, they will find other man for money. To learn real Thai culture, come Thailand, and stay for months, make friends, and remember before falling in love with the ladies here, best to find out about her background, or else she could be someone's wife, then you inviting trouble.


In English language we always say, "no money no honey", in pasa Thai we would say, " mai mee ngern mai mee kwarm rak" these phrase standard for WLs.

[pojstemp]

I think we bros here dont want to doubt you too much.
Pls give yrself chances to socialise in other entertainment battlefield.
Did u try other thai dishes, fruits, drinks, clothes, etc ?
Go, give yourself a chance to appreciate.
I hv seen 2 of my frens divorced after 2 mths of whirlwind relationships
with them; and they regretted not heeding my advices.

[nacal]

Originally Posted by shiokpleasure

路遥知马力，日久见人心

i second that.

And er.. Bro whatever don kill you, makes you stronger. Just don commit suicide.

[Greatking]

Originally Posted by pojstemp

I think we bros here dont want to doubt you too much.
Pls give yrself chances to socialise in other entertainment battlefield.
Did u try other thai dishes, fruits, drinks, clothes, etc ?
Go, give yourself a chance to appreciate.
I hv seen 2 of my frens divorced after 2 mths of whirlwind relationships
with them; and they regretted not heeding my advices.

He shouldn't be trying anymore.....

[pojstemp]

singathai, I think she try to impress u, having caught a bird who dont know what is "catalput" . On the other hand, u are just infatuated.