No longer interested in OC - Page 5

bigass · #61 18-09-2007, 01:03 PM

well thats y sex therapies and baby sitters are making good money whrby couples will make an effort to see tru the problems. sometime we men can nv understand how they feel and what they want, vice versa. its all in the mentality. but suiting each other's need can be solve if both would give in and talk abt it and that's whr differences can be seen and solved.

well perhaps saying is easy and doing is difficult. i know this theories too but then, will you wanna do sth better to yr marriage than complaining or seeking a good release out there.

yycc · #62 18-09-2007, 01:08 PM

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Originally Posted by sensit32

yr CO willing to bear yr kids figure change all bcos for U.if u watch how women giving birth u wil think twice how much yr CO done for u.

i agree with u cos the pain going through during giving birth as a man u would
be able to go through as u would not have a chance. above . Above 50% woman mostly will lose interest in sex after birth for the first few years cos it a painful experience for them during giving birth that time and it take time for them to recover. Have u ever think is it fair to yr oc or not.

WillamSexsphere · #63 19-09-2007, 12:44 AM

ThreadStarter, You are not the only one to feel this way. Most men at certain times will feel as you do. It is only normal.

Each day you face the same person, morning till night 24/7. Humans will only get bored with routine. More so if there are problems are home, or when the house is not a home. Over time, things get taken granted - the paycheck to pay bills, the weekends to take the kids out, visiting of parents, the freshly laundered clothes you wear, clean sheets, hot warm food, etc...

She is always there.

But when she is gone, either thru separation or divorced, the pain comes. You will miss her. Initially you will be overjoyed regaining your bachelorhood, celebrating it with your buddies, painting the town red, screwing every WL you fancy, one every nite...but emptiness will hit you in time.

Your house becomes only four walls in the depth of loneliness. Your WLs and FBs brings more pain and emptiness than joy, for they are not exclusive to you, and have others. Attracted to you by what you have, and not what you are.

In the quiet and solitude of night you will scream and cry in pain from the heart. Man is not meant to be alone and not many can stand the entrapment of four walls under the veil of darkness every single night till our number comes up to return to the soil.

You loved your OC enough to marry her and stayed together for years. Time can never be erased by Time. Mathematically, it only adds further misery for the memories will always haunt and linger in your mind, for the lady who loved you loved you for what you are, took care of you and shared a life with you. The quarels and hurts becomes forgotten as they are inconsequential to the whole of a shared life thru woes and joys of life. Not many other women can replace the time and depth of love you feel for her.

I encourage you, as a married man, to quietly, without hurting her, to find solace in WLs, FLs, or FBs. The initial thrill will always be there, but if you are sane and intelligent, in time you will realize those kind of women only bring emptiness, then and only then will you appreciate the woman who love you for what you truly are and not for what you have, which can only build up over time and is precious, if you both work hard to prepare to grow old together.

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Niceman · #64 19-09-2007, 01:12 AM

Agreed with bro above.

My OC always said that I treated her as sex machine. Ask ourselves, did we? Yes we did !

Try make her feel importance and satisfy her needs before our own. Things will improve shortly.

We all have our needs and stronger urge than them, unlike most female, after given birth.

#65 19-09-2007, 06:43 AM

Tried twice pastfew days with OC, but couldn't cum n didi went limp.

MG69 · #66 19-09-2007, 07:28 AM

i definitely agree with bro william.

but not so with bro nice though. i think sex with OC is not treating her like a sex machine unless u really just go in mount her bonk and turn around to sleep.

i guess for majority of us, we do make great efforts to have foreplay and enjoy the process as a making love.

my 2cents!

Freman · #67 19-09-2007, 11:50 AM

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Originally Posted by MG69

i definitely agree with bro william.

but not so with bro nice though. i think sex with OC is not treating her like a sex machine unless u really just go in mount her bonk and turn around to sleep.

i guess for majority of us, we do make great efforts to have foreplay and enjoy the process as a making love.

my 2cents!

then ?

treat others like sex machine instead....

hahah.....

#68 19-09-2007, 12:32 PM

We still try to create some sparks within us.

But at times still like to go outside for some new food!

#69 19-09-2007, 04:29 PM

My OC still looks good for her age, but she has no interest. I only get to bonk 2 times a year or so. Sigh.

#70 19-09-2007, 04:36 PM

Very natural for bros married for 10 yrs or so to get tired of OCs I think .... no change in style, all style also chu liao, donno how to add spark ...

bergkamp2 · #71 19-09-2007, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by mig25

My OC still looks good for her age, but she has no interest. I only get to bonk 2 times a year or so. Sigh.

sure or not, 2 times a yr??? how can u take it? eat out or PCC...

wuxiboyz · #72 19-09-2007, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Severus

Very natural for bros married for 10 yrs or so to get tired of OCs I think .... no change in style, all style also chu liao, donno how to add spark ...

i believe this is part and parcel of marriage life..
maybe thats where cosplay and such do play a big part.

SexCult · #73 19-09-2007, 05:55 PM

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Originally Posted by wuxiboyz

i believe this is part and parcel of marriage life..
maybe thats where cosplay and such do play a big part.

Agree wif you bro, but I agree also that as time goes by, it gets increasingly harder to add spark into love making .... and if you come out with some funny ideas, your OC may think that you learn it from 'somewhere'

WillamSexsphere · #74 20-09-2007, 02:02 AM

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Originally Posted by mig25

My OC still looks good for her age, but she has no interest. I only get to bonk 2 times a year or so. Sigh.

If the marital problem is just sex and boredom, then no worries. It can be easily solve than other problems.

The secret to a woman's heart is romance. Try to remember your courting days, the passionate times when you would steal some moments to be alone with her and indulge passions that only the 2 of you understood and care not anyone else or anything, just the 2 of you sharing a precious moment together.

Use this memory and rekindle the spark that lies deep within her heart - use romance, for she is not a fucking machine. She is a human and have emotions and feelings. Touch her thru her feelings with words or gestures and things will fall in place for a passionate ride.

However, if you fail, dont give up. Try again and again at other times. The mood must be right or at least half right.

The alternative of not trying or giving up too soon is to be left on a deserted wasteland of emptiness and loneliness, no matter how many WLs you fuck behind her back.

Best of luck. Cheers!

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pokeman71 · #75 20-09-2007, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by MG69

i am not sure if anyone has the same problem i am facing.

after the second child, wifey body is all gone pretty out of shape. now no longer have the urge to have sex with her anymore.......

other than that, you always see wifey scold the kids machiam like a bi*ch even more turn off

but her bbbj is still very good so now i only like that from her.......

any bro have the same prob?

Bro, any improvement between you and OC. Got make love recently.