Falling in love...once again

[Randi_Candi]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

If its lust,i would had just pay for a FJ & get over with it but thats not the case.While i am writing this,she & I had gone our separate ways,i try to avoid that joint which she is in.Seldom contact liao and i also trying hard to forget her by going to another joint.Thats where my thread title comes in hand,i found another 1,very similar to how i felt few mths back.Knwing this is gonna be a repeat telecast of wats going to happen,this time round,i tell myself not to let myself go into this shit for the 2nd time,once bitten twice shy is wat i tell myself.But once again to my disappointment and the bros who were with me all these while,i failed again..perhaps i am not fit to be a cheongster.almost wanted to retire but failed..haiz..

Yo....the pitfalls of life n in cheong scenes
Its easier said than done.....but always do remember a few things, which I had heard fm some frens :

1) logical thkg, tell urself time n again not 2 give in to boredom or need 2 feel love
2) Preventive - Telling the other party tat u cant commit anything n u r out for fun, tis will block them mentally
3) Find some other activities 2 get out of this life cycle

Dun feel dishearten........always remember tat tuff times dun last, tuff guys do......

Chill out, its TGIF booze day

[t123]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

maybe i shld stop,at least for a while.thks for the precious advice bro.comforting to knw there are so many bros out there who cares.

come on, I am also 过来人. Its ok, my friend who intro me to GL also never advice me the pitfalls of cheonging. I went thru everything by myself. Take a breather, sayang your kidneys.

[daryl76]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

i think this way too,maybe i shldnt cheong,then wont hv all this trouble

cheer up bro... i know its difficult, cos most of the time we see alot of chio meimei when we cheong... when we go KTV, oso see the gals until eyes big big... just dun get too serious la, not saying tat working gals are not good... i have 2 buddies who had wives who were KTV hostess, just tat, it can be quite rare to see cases like this....

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by daryl76

i have 2 buddies who had wives who were KTV hostess, just tat, it can be quite rare to see cases like this....

maybe i am hoping i can be one of the rare ones each time i go into 1 relationship?

[Optimus_Prime]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

Few mths back,went to this KTV joint and met her.Fell deeply in love ......my emotions gets the better of me & this leads to liking her more & more.......Thats where my thread title comes in hand,i found another 1,very similar to how i felt few mths back.Knwing this is gonna be a repeat telecast of wats going to happen,this time round,i tell myself not to let myself go into this shit for the 2nd time.......i failed again.. perhaps i am not fit to be a cheongster

Just saw this thread today.

Well bro all I can say FAILURE as a cheongster does not equal FAILURE as a (gentle)man.

We are all human beings. Flesh and blood. To fall for someone is natural... despite where they work. To me, there is nothing wrong with being attracted to the girl, it just so happens that this new girl has the qualities that you are attracted to. (You are not gonna change the thingz that ATTRACT you overnite !!)

So the only problem I see is the nature of her job - KTV Hostess. Well to me, so long as it is mutually consential (MOST IMP!!)... then a realtionship can still work....

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

maybe i am hoping i can be one of the rare ones each time i go into 1 relationship?

but it will be hard if you are the jealous sort cause your gal will def be rabba-ed, fondled, sianzed and bonk by all sorts of men as long as she works in KTV. Not many ppl can get over this... And if you succeed in woo-ing and getting her out of the trade... then Her PAST must stay in her past. Never ever to be brought up again. Can you ??


As I said... u will need to ascertain if the gal wants this (relationship) too... if not... then it will 1-sided... then it's better to look elsewhere. So this shld be your no. 1 task now.

Of cus I am assuming that you as a seasoned cheongster... ur type of gal is not those sweet-talking type of gals... but those more straight forward type. If so, if they not really want a relationship... they will say it to your face one !!

So for now I can only say HANG TOUGH (from someone who has been in the same boat before...and still recovering )


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[SamiHyypia]

bro op so wise.... ;p

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Bro Optimus_Prime,ur words did knock some sense out of me and u analysed it very well.Will take a look at ur post for a few more times and digest fully wat u r trying to bring across.U r definitely one of the many bros i wanna meet in person.

[Optimus_Prime]

Originally Posted by SamiHyypia

bro op so wise.... ;p

U always SUANz me ah... xiao bu dian hor !!

Sat ... no need accompany PC mei... u lucky....*dying of jealousy from Sammi's gd gf*....heehee

go write your story lah... still waiting for ur continuation..


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[Optimus_Prime]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

Bro Optimus_Prime,ur words did knock some sense out of me and u analysed it very well.Will take a look at ur post for a few more times and digest fully wat u r trying to bring across.U r definitely one of the many bros i wanna meet in person.

Dun say that lei.... U more "lao jiao" in cheonging than me (KTV scene..me only newbie).... just I am a person who wears his heart on his sleeve.... so easier to identify with what you say.

(heehee.. ask my League bros how many WL relationships I kenna liao...sighhzzz... no happy ending but so far no fleecing too lah...)

I oso kenna counselled many times before by our League's Horny Chief Zack Tan and also that Silly samurai Groo too... they helped me put everything in perspective. So now I only "PAYING IT FORWARD"


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[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

me no laojiao lar,laojiao wont kana until like that liao,u too humble liao.hehe..anyway thks for coming forward and share ur piece of mind.

[jdi813]

yeah heard u tio again ... just hope this time round it turns out better either way la ... u take better care of urself this time round

[Shuang_Jie_Gun]

Originally Posted by jdi813

yeah heard u tio again ... just hope this time round it turns out better either way la ... u take better care of urself this time round

u heard frm who ar?news travel so fast?? dont worry bro,must learn to be a bit stronger & smarter liao.thk u so much for ur concern

[hunter89]

Originally Posted by Shuang_Jie_Gun

u heard frm who ar?news travel so fast?? dont worry bro,must learn to be a bit stronger & smarter liao.thk u so much for ur concern

Bro.... after so long, this thread is still active??? Haizz.....

What Bro OP is trying to say is that, everyman has a weakness and has a heart. When they are lonely, they will be easily moved by any gal and thus fall in love with them easily.... Leave aside the loneliness.... Even a married man (e.g. like me) after quarreling with wife, and cold war with her, I will go for a drink with frens. If there is a gal who show some affection and concern for me, I will get easily touched and feeling might get developed.

So what you are a old bird??? Man is still man... they will succumb to feeling.

[Optimus_Prime]

Originally Posted by hunter89

Bro.... after so long, this thread is still active??? Haizz.....

What Bro OP is trying to say is that, everyman has a weakness and has a heart. When they are lonely, they will be easily moved by any gal and thus fall in love with them easily.... Leave aside the loneliness.... Even a married man (e.g. like me) after quarreling with wife, and cold war with her, I will go for a drink with frens. If there is a gal who show some affection and concern for me, I will get easily touched and feeling might get developed.

So what you are a old bird??? Man is still man... they will succumb to feeling.

Well said !!
Man is man... unless u have NO FEELINGS watsoever... or else dun beat yourself over it.

I rather bro Shuang Jie Kun be a person who have a heart than a heartless cheongster. (of cus narrow line exist between being a caring cheongster to being a carrot head)


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[t123]

I hope that the shuang jie gun will be better. A eventful weekend for me had passed, spent $300 in a pinoy pub (meaning I was a carrot head) and licking a broken heart. Optimus Prime, sometimes I really wish to be Megatron, change myself to a gun and shoot anyone that pisses me. I just want to wish the Bro Shuang a better day and a better week ahead.