Sexually deprived and neglected

[conman]

Originally Posted by buhl

Totally agree with u bro, been thru that n now am single again, only diff is got to pay for my folly till kid turns 21yo

Many of my friends feel like us too. Once they have children, the husbands are often neglected. Many idealistic single idiots will not know this cos I was one of them. Now I realized why men cheat.

[wangal]

Originally Posted by conman

Many of my friends feel like us too. Once they have children, the husbands are often neglected. Many idealistic single idiots will not know this cos I was one of them. Now I realized why men cheat.

I used to think too, tat man go out to eat is call cheat. But having been in the same shoe as TS, I feel tat it is more correct to say tat we are looking for alternative, so that we can still be a loving husband and father at home.

[KiSiaoD]

Hey fellas... I totally know and understand how you guys feel... that is the sick part of today's society, one man one women. Women end sex for many reasons but never want to let man enjoy it. I do not give a damm about that.. I just go out and have my fun..She love kids I support her. I want sex, she does not support me... but never mind, I still support her loving of kids and I support myself by having fun out there....

[DreamOfLust]

Originally Posted by KiSiaoD

Hey fellas... I totally know and understand how you guys feel... that is the sick part of today's society, one man one women. Women end sex for many reasons but never want to let man enjoy it. I do not give a damm about that.. I just go out and have my fun..She love kids I support her. I want sex, she does not support me... but never mind, I still support her loving of kids and I support myself by having fun out there....

that means you support both her and yourself...


sad to say your wife is selfish =(

[Euphoriaaa]

Originally Posted by conman

Ever since my wife gave birth, I can hardly touch her. Only had sex 3 times in 4 months. We quarrel almost everyday cos of the baby. Even I wanna get intimate, she will tell me she is tired. I feel so sick and tired. How I wish I was single!

The FLs are here to help you, bro (:

[conman]

One of my friend's wife just got pregnant today and he ask me about sex lid during and post pregnancy cos he heard alot of negativity from his other friends, I merely told him to consult his gynae. Haiz....

[buhl]

Originally Posted by conman

Many of my friends feel like us too. Once they have children, the husbands are often neglected. Many idealistic single idiots will not know this cos I was one of them. Now I realized why men cheat.

Hmmmm the f-ed up part for me was I wasn't even cheating... 6yrs is a pretty long time to finally know the truth, but the up side of it is...life finally started

[bearking]

Sorry guys, I'm not trying to be a cold blanket.. but that what most guys think. Yes, women may reject sex after having baby. From my point of view and as a woman, having a new born and a household to manage or even a career to handle as well, women is not have a good time. Most women does not have the luxury to lay at home and have an extra hands for help. Just being pregnant for carry your baby to full term exhausted women's strength and energy, carrying extra weighs, working etc...

I know and understand what guys want. But put yourself in ur wife's shoes ...will u be able to have sex after waking up almost every 2 hours of milk feeding?

Sometimes, what women want to some help, love, concern and take charge of her. If u want sex,take some responsiblity away from us. We will be glad and perhaps that will sparkle the flame of sex. Compliment ur wife as pregnant causes us to lose confident in our body shape.

Try to create some relax ambience instead of looking for wrong solution ... women during this period are very sensitive.

Just my 2 cent...

[n30n]

Biologically speaking, hormones drive up the sex for procreation.
After having children, the hormones balance will change, along with other body changes that drives mothers to focus on the child survival. It's part of nature.
Just like sex produces hormones to create the feeling of bonding for starting a family.

But this lifestyle can be slowly conditioned for a change.
If it's of some months, it can be understood as undergoing a period of change. But for prolong cases, i guess the sexless lifestyle has become a habit, and habits are hard to change. So it'll take more effort to make changes to lifestyle.

[conman]

Originally Posted by bearking

Sorry guys, I'm not trying to be a cold blanket.. but that what most guys think. Yes, women may reject sex after having baby. From my point of view and as a woman, having a new born and a household to manage or even a career to handle as well, women is not have a good time. Most women does not have the luxury to lay at home and have an extra hands for help. Just being pregnant for carry your baby to full term exhausted women's strength and energy, carrying extra weighs, working etc...

I know and understand what guys want. But put yourself in ur wife's shoes ...will u be able to have sex after waking up almost every 2 hours of milk feeding?

Sometimes, what women want to some help, love, concern and take charge of her. If u want sex,take some responsiblity away from us. We will be glad and perhaps that will sparkle the flame of sex. Compliment ur wife as pregnant causes us to lose confident in our body shape.

Try to create some relax ambience instead of looking for wrong solution ... women during this period are very sensitive.

Just my 2 cent...

Baby is not with us but with my mom now so that she can rest well. We only look after baby during weekend and I help with the 4 hourly feed too. She is simply not keen with no intention to please. I really tried my best but it's ok, I will adapt.

[r_tiger]

this is life... get use to it. married for 10+ years. after kids arrive no more making love. as a good hubby i waited and waited for her to recover. and i am still waiting... from making love 2 ~ 3 time a wk to 1 in a few month... i feel for u bro...
ps. i do help out with the child. i feed them milk. change the diaper. i even clean the house before the maid came.

[nightfly1966]

Originally Posted by sky_liner2

This could be Post-Natal Blues bro.......do some study on it, mostly men have to give in and accomodate with wives.

Yup...I 2nd tat!