Rejected until buay tahan

[angurvadal]

Dear TS,

u are 25, veri young. do not be too focus on women. Concentrate on yr career, make it good. trust me, by then the women flock to u. and when u are in a relationship or starting one, dun give too much too early, women are attached to power & confidence.

last but not least, man are like wine, we get better with age. never lose hope

[jwzx]

totally agree bro, hang in there! you never know what tomorrow brings..

[Filza]

Yes, money and woman doesnot come together at the beginning. Remember woman will betray you but not money. Woman are investment that involve high risk and low returns, so invest wisely.

[Dhornyboy]

i truly agree with some of our brothers here.

1- women will come flocking when you have money.
2- women might betray u but money wouldnt.
3- men loses more than women nowadays.. we lugi.. why? cos we court them.. we dont pay bills they say we not gentlemen. we pay too much, then we have new nickname "carrot, robert or kai zi" whatever.. just when you think you have bedded her.. u conquered her.. lol she must be laughing inside.. this boy is mine!! under my spell now..

anyway.. what i am saying is.. bitches are everywhere.. there are good women.. but good women are not always appealing.. they might say bad stuff.. they are conservative on bed... they nag and nag.. just like mother.. you know? when the time comes, surely there will be one woman whom is worthy of your love but until them.. fuck it.. playing hard to get is the shittest thing i have come across in my entire life..

[davin_123]

Bro edward. If u are looking for FL to de-cum then go ahead. But if u are looking for FL to search for the feelings u have with the crushes u had, i think u are so wrong. I know how u feel, i also feel that girls are hard to come and chase after. After engaged in FL i found out that feelings is totally different. Yes i have a gf before so i can tell the differents.

Sort out your feelings.

[zhot]

TS. I can really understand how you feel. When it comes to girls, I'm always out of luck. I have been into a few relationship. But then again, sometimes I will wonder if I ever love them at all. Or was it I'm just too lonely that's y I want to look for a gf.

What I'm saying here is, are you looking for a gf because you are afraid/don't like being lonely? Or you want free sex (no offends here, just wanna point out all possibilities)? Or do you really wanna find a girl that loves you and you loves her back (usually people call this "true love" or "fated").

When it comes to "true love", I always believe that you can't actually find it. You have to wait for the chances to come to you. But that doesn't mean sitting at home and waiting. You have to increase the chances by going out more often, or like some bros here have recommended, join those hobby club, go to church or whatsoever.

When the chance finally comes, then make sure you grab hold of it.

Lastly, always be confident when around girls. Even if you are not, try to act like you are! I have many female friends who tell me they prefer guys with confident than to those that is emo and doesn't have any self confident at all. But beware, over-confident aka cocky and confident is like a thin line. Make sure you don't cross to the wrong side.

Cheers bro.

[hengkia]

Originally Posted by edwardlim

wow thanx alot guys! i certainly learnt many pointers and my mood definitely changed for the better now!

yes i wanted to go FL to de-stress. but scared of getting HIV. very noob here sorry but i come from a conservative family.

now my main problem is whether i should give up the gal or continue chasing her... Headache... I'm not even sure of my own feelings towards her after what happened..

hmm i dont really post here much.
But here, i can do 3 things for you.

1. This is a writer that you will find interesting with lots of tips on love.
Ai_Qin
Notice that the last article is year 2009 hehe, guess there is only that much one can write about love. BTW i do not use that as reference.

2. The next is a theory of mine based on probability.
looking at Singapore Demographics Profile 2011, there are 1,874,985 females thats aged 15-65. So if you are not picky, u got 1.8mil plus of chances.

Okie so you dont wanna get canned for those 15-16 yr olds and milfs/grannies arent your type. Lets give them all equal numbers for easy calculation. So each age group will be 36764 women.

What is your eligibility age for a GF? 20-25? that makes it (36764 x 6) 220590 chances. then again not all are beautiful or attractive to you right? what do you think the percent would be from these 220590 that you would be attracted to? hmm lets say u are not very demanding and normal will do, lets do 50%. so you have 110295 chances.

Of these 110295 chances, how many do you think are attached? half? 50/50 chances right? its either attached, lesbian or SPGs and likes angmoh cock.

So left with 55147 chances now. sounds like decent chance? but here is where it gets tricky ... for SG girls very young they already learnt about the 5Cs so for simple calculation, lets divide the girls equally into the 5Cs empathize.

So thats 11029 chances for each C that you have. if you got no Cs, u got no Bees.

So how do you increase your chances then, if you go no Cs? remember theres 1.8 mil women out there, only 55147 chances are in your choice then you are limiting your options, then again dont be taking those 40-65yrs olds of cos.

Also time is a wonderful tool, if you wait 10 yrs, the 15-16 yr olds will be 25-26 and ripe for plucking lol. Thus when you are 35, if you refer to my probability rule, your chances will automatically increase

But looking at your stable job and blah blah, i think you should not be looking at these 55147 chances, try the other 110295, u might be surprise what gems you can find there. Only if you are serious about getting a gf to get married with.

Because if getting a gf is just to have sex with (since you mentioned being frustrated and want to go get a FL), you are already on the wrong foot here.

3. I can only share with you an advice and some experiences

My best advice: a man is like fine wine, only improves with age. if you arent improving, u deserve to be single.

My experience, the girls that you once considered school flower, air stewardess, models etc ...they will lose it come 30yrs old (just go check out tagged, a search for the 30-40 yrs olds really differs from search of 20-29).

Worst if these pretty girls gets divorced and thrown back into the market thinking that they can still compete with the 20s hot and sexy young bodies, they got a whole ball game waiting for them that will slap them right smack in the face. Before you know it they will be graping for any floating log, if there are no logs ...... thats when sbf helps by letting them post in orgies/swingers threads looking for FB

Hope this helps you if all else fails, just remember that theres always the overseas market. Imported are sometimes much better than Local products.

[RealEstateGuy]

Originally Posted by edwardlim

Very disappointed and sad. I'm already 25 and yet no gf til now. got rejected twice, missed out on confession once..

Did everything i could, consult so many people tat i can think of. end up just fail n fail.. I'm average looking, tall, got stable job, humorous. But gals just keep telling me that we should remain as good friend.. very emo...

i'm so pissed that i just feel like going around engaging FL service n give up on relationship already.

Brother seems like you got good stats quantitatively (job etc.). So you see brothers you would consider less desireable than you and wonder why. It's the intangible alpha factor which you need to develop. Do that and you will have a full calendar of dates and women trying to tie the knot and also bed you ASAP. Can't give you all tips as would be too many to document here but one is make yourself more in demand by being less accomodating. Make the women wonder why you reject them. Don't be so persistant for a date nor a relationship. Let them come to you by creating scarcity. Other is be more assertive. The average SG male is submissive in nature always accomodating women to the point of losing his man card. I'm not saying being a jerk is the thing to do. Instead always act a gentleman but make women want to have the privilege of joining you. For example say I'm having dinner at such place and if you would like to join me, imply other women are salivating to go out with you etc. Do this instead of calling her 20 times like psycho asking her out. Remember, you are alpha male and if they want a shot at you they have to jump at it because you have tons of other women just ready to take their clothes off the same night after dinner for you. Even the most stuck up bitch you know will be intrigued and feel ignored by you and wonder why she can't get a chance to be with you. This works for the homliest shyest woman in SG to the sexiest woman you currently deem a reach. A seceret is a lot of the finest women actually get few dates because men are intimidated by thier looks or so desperete its off-putting and repungent for her to go out with them. Take my tips and report back here on your progresss.

[edwardlim]

Originally Posted by zhot

TS. I can really understand how you feel. When it comes to girls, I'm always out of luck. I have been into a few relationship. But then again, sometimes I will wonder if I ever love them at all. Or was it I'm just too lonely that's y I want to look for a gf.

What I'm saying here is, are you looking for a gf because you are afraid/don't like being lonely? Or you want free sex (no offends here, just wanna point out all possibilities)? Or do you really wanna find a girl that loves you and you loves her back (usually people call this "true love" or "fated").

When it comes to "true love", I always believe that you can't actually find it. You have to wait for the chances to come to you. But that doesn't mean sitting at home and waiting. You have to increase the chances by going out more often, or like some bros here have recommended, join those hobby club, go to church or whatsoever.

When the chance finally comes, then make sure you grab hold of it.

Lastly, always be confident when around girls. Even if you are not, try to act like you are! I have many female friends who tell me they prefer guys with confident than to those that is emo and doesn't have any self confident at all. But beware, over-confident aka cocky and confident is like a thin line. Make sure you don't cross to the wrong side.

Cheers bro.

thanx alot. I believe i wanted one because i long to be emotionally attached to one of opposite sex, one which i can share all my inner feelings n receive consolation in times of despair.. I'm definitely not looking for sex.

Yes looking FL for de-cum..

Ya i've been going out for meals with many single girls, but i just can't take it to the next level with any of them.. haiz...

[edwardlim]

Originally Posted by RealEstateGuy

Brother seems like you got good stats quantitatively (job etc.). So you see brothers you would consider less desireable than you and wonder why. It's the intangible alpha factor which you need to develop. Do that and you will have a full calendar of dates and women trying to tie the knot and also bed you ASAP. Can't give you all tips as would be too many to document here but one is make yourself more in demand by being less accomodating. Make the women wonder why you reject them. Don't be so persistant for a date nor a relationship. Let them come to you by creating scarcity. Other is be more assertive. The average SG male is submissive in nature always accomodating women to the point of losing his man card. I'm not saying being a jerk is the thing to do. Instead always act a gentleman but make women want to have the privilege of joining you. For example say I'm having dinner at such place and if you would like to join me, imply other women are salivating to go out with you etc. Do this instead of calling her 20 times like psycho asking her out. Remember, you are alpha male and if they want a shot at you they have to jump at it because you have tons of other women just ready to take their clothes off the same night after dinner for you. Even the most stuck up bitch you know will be intrigued and feel ignored by you and wonder why she can't get a chance to be with you. This works for the homliest shyest woman in SG to the sexiest woman you currently deem a reach. A seceret is a lot of the finest women actually get few dates because men are intimidated by thier looks or so desperete its off-putting and repungent for her to go out with them. Take my tips and report back here on your progresss.

hahaha i tried your method.. but my friend told me the girl will get turned off and get insecure cos i got TOO MANY close female friends.. tat would spell trouble for me

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by edwardlim

Ya i've been going out for meals with many single girls, but i just can't take it to the next level with any of them.. haiz...

that means you'll been friend-zoned too easily...even thought of hanging out with foregin girls instead ?
if you keep on fishing in the same pond/river/lake/sea with no results, isn't it high time to switch to a different configuration ?

[edwardlim]

btw, can everyone here help me UP my points? haha..

YES THAT's the problem! everyone is treating me as a good friend only. But i wanted more! especially from that particular girl..

hey i need more help now.. she has gone for exchange in Beijing, and somehow i'm going over there for short holiday for parents.. thinking of going over to find her chit chat maybe during night time, cos i'm joining tour.. what should i do? haha.

[JuzAHornyGuy]

Since you want a decent relationship not for sex then from my experience. If you take tooo long to make your move then the girl will classify you as a "brother" a "sister" or a "friend". I used to be a nice, humorous, gentlemanly guy. Which is BORING! Don't ask me why but girls prefer bad boys who they can tame. So you have to be spontaneous and compulsive and be a guy..

Yes you can be nice at times but not all the time, you have to have a mind of your own. When talking with them you have to lead the conversation as well and make them listen to you. Usually on your first date with a girl she already sees you and decides whether or not you are boy friend material or friend material. Since you said you are average looking, 25 and good a good job. Money, looks and age can't be what you are lacking.

Or maybe you set your hopes to high or you target the wrong kind of girls? Like for me i like ah lians but i only attract more english speaking kind of girls and girls who are normally older than me. Last time i always search for girls for potential girl friend. But i got better when i just went out without any hopes and just made friends. Let things come naturally and go with the flow. If you don't expect anything how can you be disappointed right?

[s1.w3n.b41.l31]

TS.. just be yourself, maintain a correct attitude towards bgr, and you'll meet someone who's comfortable with you and who you're comfortable with.

i think you've over romantised bgr too much, and you're missing what can go wrong and the price you need to pay.
there's no point being someone you're not just to get a gf. then you'll have to keep up the charade all the time.
also no point mulling over rejections. it's better to end it early, than find out it was a mistake all along.

lastly, the way you ask for points is probably as fail as the way you approach love. it is forced, too obvious, insincere, and puts many ppl off. my humble 2 cents. no offence intended.

[xiaoquan]

25 only. Like some mention here. Go for the less attactive first. As for me. Im also tall, looks above average but not humorous. My plus point? I can sing, so jio girls ask them go ktv sing and they will be impressed. Best if the girl also like singing. Do sports or hobby you like and from that area, the girls will have more topic to talk to you due to common interest.

But, don't put too much focus in any girl. Not worth it. I put too much in mine and now hard to get out of the relationship. Not to be selfish but think about yourself more. How to earn more money.