Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner - Page 451

SingViet · #**6751** 24-01-2010, 08:42 AM

I see a trend nowadays where the vietnamese spouse will ask the singaporean husband to buy them land and cow in the province. Many times, this is done when they are pregnant. It looks very much like a trade deal. I give you a child and you give my family in vietnam land and much more.

I do admit that i gave my in laws a piece of land and build a house when i married my wife many years ago. Even till now, i feel that its kinda stupid of me. hahha Better to keep the money for the raising of your child. Its easier to make money in Vietnam than in Singapore. Its just a matter of whether the person is willing to look for oppotunities and work hard for it. Often, those chaps in the province will rather seat there, smoke, sip coffee etc than work.

dreammare · #**6752** 24-01-2010, 10:39 AM

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The thing is , marriage nowadays is not as stable as those of our parents or grandparents. Be it a singaporean or vietnamese you are marrying, gals nowadays can walk out of a marriage easily. This also apply to some guys too. marriage takes a lot of tender , loving , care, endurance, patience and financial power to substain. You need to be able to support your wife and maybe your kids daily expenses. Its not just the daily 3 meals they sought after, but its , to a certain extend, lifestyle that is comparable with her friends in Singapore. Our viet gals like to gossip and compare, and if her viet friend in singapore can lead a better life than her, she will want you to do something about it. Once you have kids, its more money spinning things you need to handle. From baby clothes, diapers, milk powder for the initial few years, to shopping, school fees and so on.... if you are on a normal fixed monthly salary, you may find it tough.

But of course, there are some bros with viet wives that may disagree with my statement, claiming truthfully that their viet spouse is happy with the little salary that they bring in monthly. But let's be truthful enuff, even the singapore man is not happy with his own income, how will the spouse? Singapore is a place where majority of us are stressed daily by the overflowing bills and ever rising price level.

So for bros who are not married yet, don't take marriage like a game. It's never a game. Its a game of responsbilities that bring some joy and happiness. If you marry because of sex, then forget it. Better pay , fuck and forget.c

I like your sentence , if marry because of sex , i find some of friends tend do so , in the end . Well , it takes two hands to clap . Anyways regards to your threads , i didn't read through much , but the title , really pull me into this thread . I wanted to get a VN wife (my stupid friend influence me , ask me turn her to sex slave *mindset bad* , while himself get a sg gf and want to marry her ?crap?) , partly because i don't have time to date a local or other race ? Is the reason i don't know ?But your thread should give a headstart in things .

Hurricane88 · #**6753** 24-01-2010, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by dreammare

I like your sentence , if marry because of sex , i find some of friends tend do so , in the end . Well , it takes two hands to clap . Anyways regards to your threads , i didn't read through much , but the title , really pull me into this thread . I wanted to get a VN wife (my stupid friend influence me , ask me turn her to sex slave *mindset bad* , while himself get a sg gf and want to marry her ?crap?) ,

I suggest you read through thoroughly so that you dun hit so many walls before you start looking for a Vn wife...to us this is a Vn wife encyclopedia...must read daily...

SingViet · #**6754** 24-01-2010, 02:40 PM

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Originally Posted by dreammare

I like your sentence , if marry because of sex , i find some of friends tend do so , in the end . Well , it takes two hands to clap . Anyways regards to your threads , i didn't read through much , but the title , really pull me into this thread . I wanted to get a VN wife (my stupid friend influence me , ask me turn her to sex slave *mindset bad* , while himself get a sg gf and want to marry her ?crap?) , partly because i don't have time to date a local or other race ? Is the reason i don't know ?But your thread should give a headstart in things .

I am glad that you found your way into this thread. There are many bros who have vietnamese spouse and i should say different bros have different thinking. Some statements i made are not soothing to their ears while others find me cocky. Be it whatever character you are, take the thread as some pointers that you should look out for while going out with viet ladies. Different culture will bring misunderstandings but hopefully the contributions from bros in this thread will help you reduce the misunderstandings to the bare minimum.

jackbl · #**6755** 24-01-2010, 02:52 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Often, those chaps in the province will rather seat there, smoke, sip coffee etc than work.

And say no money, but can go Bia om and Caphe om.....

dreammare · #**6756** 24-01-2010, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Hurricane88

I suggest you read through thoroughly so that you dun hit so many walls before you start looking for a Vn wife...to us this is a Vn wife encyclopedia...must read daily...

i know , i am starting read everyday , darn i just realize one , if i get VN wife , my home will be a small indochina lol , cause my sis-in-law is Thai . My mom going have a big headache when comes to that . But then , mom is one open-minded lady , she now do what she can to educate my sis-in-law in "arts' of controlling my big bro(always think big) , which reminds me , i think my bro surf sbf , but don't talk too much or else he will know .

And okay i subscribe to this thread , i will hereby visit here when i am at SBF

cunt_ranger · #**6757** 24-01-2010, 07:42 PM

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Originally Posted by SingViet

Often, those chaps in the province will rather seat there, smoke, sip coffee etc than work.

Bro,

I totally agree with you on this!!! In fact, many of the Viet guys are like that... while most of the Viet gals are working their ass off... the guys just sit and relax and wait for money to come back... bloody loafers!!! Hahahaha...

I have a VN gf and often she tell me that Viet guys are just too lazy... most of them anyway... I'm seriously considering to marry her if things goes well in 1 year's time... is it very troublesome to get PR for VN brides???

cunt_ranger · #**6758** 24-01-2010, 08:14 PM

Bro,

Can anyone guide me where in Singapore can I learn Tieng Viet of the Southern (Saigon) accent?

I desperately need to attend some lessons to brush up my limited TV...

haojian · #**6759** 24-01-2010, 08:56 PM

thanks pipillon30 for your useful info. what's the phone number for?

SureScore · #**6760** 25-01-2010, 11:34 AM

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Originally Posted by cunt_ranger

Bro,

Can anyone guide me where in Singapore can I learn Tieng Viet of the Southern (Saigon) accent?

I desperately need to attend some lessons to brush up my limited TV...

This topic has been discussed extensively in the thread here
http://thesbf.shop/4471147-post3960.html

SingViet · #**6761** 25-01-2010, 03:35 PM

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Bro,

I totally agree with you on this!!! In fact, many of the Viet guys are like that... while most of the Viet gals are working their ass off... the guys just sit and relax and wait for money to come back... bloody loafers!!! Hahahaha...

I have a VN gf and often she tell me that Viet guys are just too lazy... most of them anyway... I'm seriously considering to marry her if things goes well in 1 year's time... is it very troublesome to get PR for VN brides???

Most viet man are hopeless. Let me relate again how these province vietnamese man are. My BIL was offered 4.5 million VND a month to drive bus between Ben Tre and Saigon. He refused to and choose another driving job in the province that pays 2.5 million VND a month. His reason? Drive bus between Ben Tre and Saigon is too tiring. Damm... F**king lazy

KangTuo · #**6762** 25-01-2010, 04:28 PM

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Most viet man are hopeless. Let me relate again how these province vietnamese man are. My BIL was offered 4.5 million VND a month to drive bus between Ben Tre and Saigon. He refused to and choose another driving job in the province that pays 2.5 million VND a month. His reason? Drive bus between Ben Tre and Saigon is too tiring. Damm... F**king lazy

Not all viet man are hopeless and lazy.
My galfriend has 2 brothers... 1 is the youngest of the family and he is still studying. It is understandable that he do not work to earn money now.

Another brother who also like to fool around abit but ever since he get himself a wife, he has been working hard to support her. The setup a hut outside his family house. He repair motor while wife sells coffee shop. Recently he took up a part time job to sing and entertain people during wedding and party. He is real good in this.

She has 2 brother-in-law. 1 in HCM. He is also working to support family.
1 in mekong.... this one CMI. only dirnk and drink.

I would say that how viet man behave really depends on the family up bringing. I believe religion also plays a part as the whole family and the BIL in HCM are catholic.

dreammare · #**6763** 25-01-2010, 05:42 PM

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Hmm... now we are at the new topic.... is it a MUST for your future vietnamese spouse to be a VIRGIN when you marry her? Personally, i don't find it that important. I don't like to train VIRGINS on bed. heheh

Hmm which reminds me , my friend said he don't mind his gf not virgin , but he want to be virgin . I believe his one till today , but still see hentai anime crap . Okay sorry to hijack like , i read through so find some interesting topic u made er 2 yrs ago...pai-seh

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Bro, if you marry a normal vietnamese gal, then you will be the sponsor for her PR. ICA normally will take a close look at your financial capabilities before granting your vietnamese spouse PR or just Long Term Social Visit Pass (LTSVP). If you have diploma and above and have been working in the same job for the past few years, then PR for your vietnamese spouse will not be much trouble. ICA will also want to take a look at your past 2 years income tax returns.

It was quite easy for my wife to get PR although she wasn't highly educated. My wife got PR within 4 months.

Your above information clearly help me understand why my bro have a whole shit of bro get LTSVP or PR for my sis-in-law . When you're in sg , i go find you , learn more about the vietnam . Reading here , i am having a bit of headache hehe .

naemlo · #**6764** 26-01-2010, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by KangTuo

I would say that how viet man behave really depends on the family up bringing. I believe religion also plays a part as the whole family and the BIL in HCM are catholic.

Depends on family up bringing, I strongly agree.... but religion doubt so.

Hurricane88 · #**6765** 26-01-2010, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by KangTuo

Not all viet man are hopeless and lazy.
My galfriend has 2 brothers... 1 is the youngest of the family and he is still studying. It is understandable that he do not work to earn money now.

I still say Viet men are lazy because they dun bother to work hard...only want to work those easy job and rely on the Viet ladies to bring the money back...haiz.....sianz....

Can see all the taxi drivers mainly men loafing around the neighbourhood gambling or playing chess with money changing hands in the day...normally you dun see ladies doing that...the ladies tend to their stalls, and once finished get home to wash, and prepare meals...

I have my utmost respect to Viet ladies and think they are really wifey materials...of course I meant those non WL...