A unmistakable feeling of loneliness

[frivolous_ami]

Bro, you are damn good. Wait i go home then up your points. My stupid ipad keep hanging when i want to click up rep points. Kns!!

You are quite right. From another viewpoint, she could just trying to develop the rite image. Still, a lot of phone call + sms she replies each time i went out with her. That kinda kills the positive impression. I m not tryin to be judgemental, issue is i still dunno her well.

Homely gal is indeed possible. I just found my colleague is such a person. Wtf, ask her meet 7 plus for makan, she say too late for her n she doesnt stay out late unless friends ask her out for makan. 0-0 i fell off my chair when she said this.

[goodpartner]

You got no points to Upz la. Wait I recover first and let u hit above 40...

[sgjoey]

Originally Posted by liverd3

we same crisis bro.
but, i keep my self busy FU Cking different girls acquired from different culture, place, and more.

after all this... i am all empty inside..... sperm can reproduce... but the voidness i felt is getting even stronger every time i empty my load on girls....

Like you, I indulge. But unlike you, there is no sense of emptiness at all. Each encounter is like a rollicking roller-coaster ride and I look forward to new rides while doing all the other things that I normally do.

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Have to agree with you. I find many things very unexplainable about the gal. Eg, she doesnt divulge the blk she stays at... come on lor if dun say then wait where. Other case, she claim very little earnings n dun dare anyhow spend. But can afford an iphone n aesthetic surgery n still able to support her family spendings. A bit odd... If really so telok, then still can go club. Stranger still, say she dun like such places. But she still choose to go after friend jio.

Tell me that her she hardly go out, but fb pictures show a different thing. N really a lot of sms n even calls. One pic she upload, she has dozens of likes. May be random friends. But is she really a homely person? 

I own a biz but also not so busy like her. Client do call n sms me. But not so exaggerating like her. I agree with you about sms n phone call. I answer phone calls during dates sometimes specifically for biz reasons. Funny thing is, someone like her keep claiming no suitors but still has a lot of phone call n sms. Surprising. Either i m senile or she think she very smart.

You have a point. She probably has a lot of choices. One pic can lead to many comments from (mostly) guys. I dun think she has a problem with many available eligible men. I may be one of the fools waiting to get makan. 

Within first few dates already expecting me to pick up the tab. Thats not a concern, but it does reflect a lot of dependency on her suitors.... If anyone find this story familiar, beware also.

Dear Bro frivolous_ami,

My humble comments on your situation:

Firstly, what do you like about her given that at this premature stage you seem to have much "dislikes" about her?

Falling in love to me is to accept everything about tht person.
One should not change the other person (unless it's some really bad habits or vices) just to suit ownself.
She will try to change herself if she wants to be with you.. to make you happy....... it's a form of "compromise" to bridge to different individuals together (not a very good term.. but i am havign mental block now ;p).... likewise you will do that to her too as you want to make her happy.
You will feel happy just by being with her, wanting to know about her, etc.
If she is so resistant in letting you know about her now, what "less" can happen in future?

To me, all the telltale signs or "pitfall" signs are there, eg: the trust element---You are having doubts about her "side actions" smsing etc..... she is not being "open" on her personal life to you.

Facebook is a powerful tool... since you have known more about her through there and it does not quite match wht she potrays herself to you....... So, are you actually getting an apple or an orange? This is another telltale sign that... "huo bu dui ban".. the goods delivered is not wht you expect.

You mentioned you run a biz... could that be wht attracts her? errr no offence.. i am just taking a pot shot on this.

Although it's easier said than done. I will call it quits sooner than later.

Nevetheless, i wish you a happy relationship with your partner. Life is short. Enjoy it to its fullest. God bless.

[sinner1234]

Originally Posted by Woodymah

Bros, recently Im not sure it is because I am approaching mid life crisis and getting panicky that Im approaching 30 - I have been consumed by a growing,gnawing sense of loneliness and a certain darkness in my soul.

I recently been struck by what is known as "YOU NEED A WOMEN" syndrome. I find myself longing for someone to love and to talk too....

I also find myself having wild mood swings from highly ecstatic to downright brooding dark.. Its scary and it is affecting my work.. I cannot seems to concentrate on anything.

I am not sure how this feeling came about, but I believe my recent infatuation on a co-worker is the main source of this... I have also cut off my 3 "best buddies" from my life as I had been their dartboard and mockery for the past 18 years. Enough is enough. So here I am without real friends and facing this darkness alone..

It has driven me to find comfort in KTV, HFJ and all.. but the darkness is still unkempt and bleeding me dry as I end up drunk almost everyday.

This is my little cry for help bros... What can I do to put my life in order?

p:s Sorry for ranting here..

Woody

Dear bro woodymah,

Care for some kickabout (soccer)? ;p

Since you know that you are crying for help........... it means you want to get rid of your current activities.......... simple... do a overhaul .. drop your present activities... and get the exact opp of the current activities?

ie: comfort in KTV change to discomfort in gym?

ie: HFJ change to hmmm... (it's difficult getting an opp for this)..... do some volunter work.. the smiles in return or happiness heard are voices beautiful to the ears (i associate HFJ to tht of excessive spending of "papers" on a piece of cloth... y not use those "papers" to actually help those needy?)

ie: getting drunk change to getting physically exahusted so as to keep the mind occupied?



No offence, but this is just my brief thoughts as it's knocking off time ;p
Adios......


Anyway... have a great weekend

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

You got no points to Upz la. Wait I recover first and let u hit above 40...

Haha, thanks.

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by sinner1234

Dear Bro frivolous_ami,

My humble comments on your situation:

Firstly, what do you like about her given that at this premature stage you seem to have much "dislikes" about her?

Falling in love to me is to accept everything about tht person.
One should not change the other person (unless it's some really bad habits or vices) just to suit ownself.
She will try to change herself if she wants to be with you.. to make you happy....... it's a form of "compromise" to bridge to different individuals together (not a very good term.. but i am havign mental block now ;p).... likewise you will do that to her too as you want to make her happy.
You will feel happy just by being with her, wanting to know about her, etc.
If she is so resistant in letting you know about her now, what "less" can happen in future?

To me, all the telltale signs or "pitfall" signs are there, eg: the trust element---You are having doubts about her "side actions" smsing etc..... she is not being "open" on her personal life to you.

Facebook is a powerful tool... since you have known more about her through there and it does not quite match wht she potrays herself to you....... So, are you actually getting an apple or an orange? This is another telltale sign that... "huo bu dui ban".. the goods delivered is not wht you expect.

You mentioned you run a biz... could that be wht attracts her? errr no offence.. i am just taking a pot shot on this.

Although it's easier said than done. I will call it quits sooner than later.

Nevetheless, i wish you a happy relationship with your partner. Life is short. Enjoy it to its fullest. God bless.

I think the initial attraction was that she was very simple and down to earth. After a few conversations, doesnt seem quite to be the case. What is said dun match what she does.

I would certainly considering just ending off asap. Like what you said huo bu dui ban. A bit too unusual.

If gal keen, the conversation would not always be initiated by guy. It would be initiated by gal sometimes. Correct if i m wrong. Plus even my name she cant remember exactly. Lagi worrying, considering we have been talking for quite a few weeks.

Keeping stuff private is a personal right. Somehow, if it becomes too much of trying to hide something, then its just tempting to find out whats there to hide.

I also do not if this is a common trend. Met a few gals who tend to hide their social circle. Getting together is not just about two persons. Its about merging of two persons' world. If you know some of the people in your other half's circle, then how to bring the relationship to another level. It seems this is to make it convenient for them to make a clean break up when the need arises.....

[FarAway]

Bro woodymah, you need to surround yourself with friends, engage in some sports, hit the gym etc.. instead of walking down this dark path.. Life has its ups and downs.. what you surround yourself with will largely determine the outcome.. places like ktvs wouldn't help a bit la, in the end you will still feel hollow inside, with wallet burnt one big hole.

Find motivation in new goals and drive towards it, that will make you more likeable as a person and everything positive will spiral from there. Wish you best of luck bro.

[FarAway]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

I think the initial attraction was that she was very simple and down to earth. After a few conversations, doesnt seem quite to be the case. What is said dun match what she does.

I would certainly considering just ending off asap. Like what you said huo bu dui ban. A bit too unusual.

If gal keen, the conversation would not always be initiated by guy. It would be initiated by gal sometimes. Correct if i m wrong. Plus even my name she cant remember exactly. Lagi worrying, considering we have been talking for quite a few weeks.

Keeping stuff private is a personal right. Somehow, if it becomes too much of trying to hide something, then its just tempting to find out whats there to hide.

I also do not if this is a common trend. Met a few gals who tend to hide their social circle. Getting together is not just about two persons. Its about merging of two persons' world. If you know some of the people in your other half's circle, then how to bring the relationship to another level. It seems this is to make it convenient for them to make a clean break up when the need arises.....

Hey bro, in your case most probably she's considering all her options.. thats why she can't give good attention to this r/s. While you may not need to give up at this juncture, I suggest you manage your expectations from this r/s this point onwards. That way you won't be devastated when things go south.

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by FarAway

Hey bro, in your case most probably she's considering all her options.. thats why she can't give good attention to this r/s. While you may not need to give up at this juncture, I suggest you manage your expectations from this r/s this point onwards. That way you won't be devastated when things go south.

Thanks. It seems to be the case that she has plenty of other choices. She is photogenic but not that pretty in person. I m certainly holding back my chips.

Actually, havent relationship. Still just going out stage. Looking at prospects of goin further. It seems more safe to pay lesser attention to this.

[Iemanishere]

Bro, get a hobby or learn to play golf..., or if u drive.. Wash and do up ur car... Or best be a good son to ur mother...

[twisty]

Cheer up bro

[frivolous_ami]

Thats where you know if someone is worth keeping because of the level of commitment to the relationship. Honest truth is that one cannot kiss another with a full face helmet. I believe that there are many of those who build high insurmountable barriers to their actual social life, such that you never know him or her.

That feeling of loneliness still strikes many. Happy long weekend for now, at least

[mortar]

This thread greatly describe what i am experiencing now..

im 24 this year, currently working and studying part time, and i have my personal goals too. So you can see my life is packed.

however like what ts and other bros have mentioned, sometimes loneliness just strikes me. Good friends in overseas study, and most of the time i will be staying at home or hitting the gym. I began to worry that i cant find a gf and all the nice/chio girls out there are mostly likely taken at this age liao.

Any bros here can recommend me on how to know more girls? Is visiting more events the only way out? cos i also not much friends, wanna know friends of friends also hard

[postcd]

i am also 30 liao.....
although i am not single... but doesnt mean life is better,
sometime thinking single is even more better... can do this can do that.. can go here can go there...

What i suggest is that you can do make more new frens....
ask them out for
1) ktv
2) kopi
3) steamboat
4) blah blah blah....
times pass very fast de...