Rejected until buay tahan

[edwardlim]

wow thanx alot guys! i certainly learnt many pointers and my mood definitely changed for the better now!

yes i wanted to go FL to de-stress. but scared of getting HIV. very noob here sorry but i come from a conservative family.

now my main problem is whether i should give up the gal or continue chasing her... Headache... I'm not even sure of my own feelings towards her after what happened..

[magicbrush]

ed bro,

I empathise with your situation. Like many bros mentioned, you are still young and got lots of chances still.

I think you're a idealistic person which is nothing wrong. It shows that you have values, but seems like your values are not really practical in terms of courtship. Or rather, at this point of your life you found the way you do things are getting negetive results. That vibe will turn girls down.
i would like to bring you to see your level of self confidence. think about how happy you are when you're single.
Cos if you're confident when you're single, that quality will shine without you knowing. Really, this quality will cause girls to chase after you. i suppose many of your gal friends have gave their sound counsel. hope you will hear me out - be a happy and confident single and not rely on a r/s to make you happy.

I was in your shoe. But i realized the single and uncommited lifestyle helped me gain so much more.

My 1st post to you bro. Take care man.

[magicbrush]

ed bro,

I empathise with your situation. Like many bros mentioned, you are still young and got lots of chances still.

I think you're a idealistic person which is nothing wrong. It shows that you have values, but seems like your values are not really practical in terms of courtship. Or rather, at this point of your life you found the way you do things are getting negetive results. That vibe will turn girls down.
i would like to bring you to see your level of self confidence. think about how happy you are when you're single.
Cos if you're confident when you're single, that quality will shine without you knowing. Really, this quality will cause girls to chase after you. i suppose many of your gal friends have gave their sound counsel. hope you will hear me out - be a happy and confident single and not rely on a r/s to make you happy.

I was in your shoe. But i realized the single and uncommited lifestyle helped me gain so much more.

My 1st post to you bro. Take care man.

[freezetheDB]

best is to take up dance (eg. hip hop, jazz) because majority of them are female and most of the dancer males prefer guys.

[magicbrush]

ed bro,

I empathise with your situation. Like many bros mentioned, you are still young and got lots of chances still.

I think you're a idealistic person which is nothing wrong. It shows that you have values, but seems like your values are not really practical in terms of courtship. Or rather, at this point of your life you found the way you do things are getting negetive results. That vibe will turn girls down.
i would like to bring you to see your level of self confidence. think about how happy you are when you're single.
Cos if you're confident when you're single, that quality will shine without you knowing. Really, this quality will cause girls to chase after you. i suppose many of your gal friends have gave their sound counsel. hope you will hear me out - be a happy and confident single and not rely on a r/s to make you happy.

I was in your shoe. But i realized the single and uncommited lifestyle helped me gain so much more.

My 1st post to you bro. Take care man.

[(o)(o) Tuner]

Hi TS, dun be discourage. You are still young, so why not work harder and climb the corporate ladder? The day when you become rich and famous, drives a BMW 645, is the day where flocks of gals will come to you. By then you can show off your wealth and power by throwing $$$ at their faces after you have fucked them numerous times.

[Filza]

Brother, I support you. I also cannot find the right girl thats why i am still single.

I think some times in life we need opportunities but dun find girls who go club or drink often because they will hurt you badly if your were to together.

For them changing a bf is like changing clothes. For us, its like another great lesson to learn.

My shop have some customers like you, that why i accompany them to such places and sell them toy.

For me i put business and money first. Because those r things that never leave without reasons or betray you.

Do visit my shop if u emo.... I am a guy but can give u some suggestions...

[Chouryujin]

Originally Posted by sexonair

edward,

you're only 25, just rejected twice only and feel so disheartened!
As singaporean guys, we're one of the luckiest, because no need for us to leave singapore, there're so many foreign women in singapore for us to choose, i mean the non-chicken type.

Some good ways to meet girls i can think off. Join some hobby clubs, join some voluntary groups where you can meet a lot of people and working with them, while doing so, you no need to find excuse in getting close to them, if you're a christian, from this sunday onwards, go to church every sunday, church is a good place for meeting decent girls, enroll in those dance class, yoga classes, cooking lessons, or when holidays, join tour groups, sure you can meet lots of girls, during tour, people are usually more receptive to each other.

don't give up, have faith in yourself!

Originally Posted by sporty

i totally agreed here.
Church is e best place. Reali.
I'm not a christian thou. N yet to frequent churches as well. But overall, wat suggested here are great ideas.
I lik u. Older than u. But dun understand y i can't find a gf too. Maybe my standards abit high ba. Dun dare to tink too much. Puttin it as it is for now.

Good luck!!

knn you two sex bastards, you burn in hell for trying to bed christians!!!!! Knn chao chee bye! By all means go and be shameless elsewhere. Knn

[frivolous_ami]

Ts, you also probably can well afford a conti coupe too like an audi tt. Having a status car helps to elevate your status among certain types of gals. Of cos, coupled with your career achievement, how bad can it be?

Just dun be in a haste to dive into a relationship. Gal got nothing much to lose really, aside from being bedded (but its common bread and butter in today's society).

But as a guy, you stand to lose more. Eg your time spent on courtship which could ve been invested in developing your career, your money spent which could ve been invested in property or stocks and forgone opportunities to earn more $$.

For gal, its just time and youth. For guy, miss a gal, still got many others. Dun forget our miw has allowed many ft (normal ones) gals to come to sg. No need scared no gal, only scared you got no money and time.

Cheer up.

Ps: i got rejected many more times than you. The last one even wanted to con me into becoming her guarantor!! I can swear many many times...But life goes on. End of the day, if not wife, you do how much also doesnt necessarily mean anything. One gal said before, ni qin wo yuan, shui ye bu qian shui. Better invest in yourself like what a bro said. Why strive for a stranger when she may become someone else's bonk buddy anyway. Lol. If got an itch, jus cheong ktv/ gl/ spa. Small problem.

[kateheartspade]

Don't be discouraged. Love will hit you when you least expect it.

[stone08]

Originally Posted by orneryjoe

Actually you don't know how lucky you are. Marriage is over-rated. Many bros here can tell you that. After some time, the loving stops... the sex evaporates. Unless you really want to start a family, you don't really need a girlfriend or wife. Sex workers can give you a very good time. And you can enjoy a variety of them. Why bother to be hitched to one woman for life? Been there, done that... and it's really boring.

If I start my life over, I wouldn't ever marry... not even to the most beautiful gal in the world.

Agreed 100% here!

married with 2 kids, regret! cannot refund, i feel like its the end of my life now, my sole purpose is to serve the wife and kids...

[frivolous_ami]

Originally Posted by stone08

Agreed 100% here!

married with 2 kids, regret! cannot refund, i feel like its the end of my life now, my sole purpose is to serve the wife and kids...

Bro, understand your plight. Thats why marriage is scary and not for the faint hearted. But, cheer up, your kids may be good people next time. All not lost.

[stone08]

i think a lot of the modern guys need to be educated on the perils of marriage. these generations including myself are unlike last time generations where ppl are matchmated and they accept their spouse for life.

we are more restless and want more out of life , rather than be a "good husband" , earn money, serve the family.

and now also women are more cunning and shrewd, once they hooked you, you are done! and they fuck around too!

[stone08]

Originally Posted by frivolous_ami

Bro, understand your plight. Thats why marriage is scary and not for the faint hearted. But, cheer up, your kids may be good people next time. All not lost.

hope my kids turn out to be happy and good ppl, i dont mind them not being in elite professions. but hopefully be ethically good ppl.

[kgbkgb]

Originally Posted by edwardlim

yes i wanted to go FL to de-stress. but scared of getting HIV. very noob here sorry but i come from a conservative family.

now my main problem is whether i should give up the gal or continue chasing her... Headache... I'm not even sure of my own feelings towards her after what happened..

Hiv is just 1 issue. It's so much easier to contract herpes or genital warts both of which cannot be protected by use of condom and they're incurable.
The problem is you keep looking for a galfren. That scares off a lot of gals. Try looking for a casual fren 1st and slowly take it from there. Dun be so impatient