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Wah bro I respect you, how do you only visit FL once every 4 months? I am kind of in the same situation as you but I visit ML weekly, sometime twice a week.
Simplest answer is a question i ask myself everytime i feel the urge.. "I can afford to spend $120. Should I spend on a ML/FL or would i rather give a nice treat to my family?"
Simplest answer is a question i ask myself everytime i feel the urge.. "I can afford to spend $120. Should I spend on a ML/FL or would i rather give a nice treat to my family?"
The litmus test above fails every 4 months. lol.
Haha I see. I have no kids, so it is either I spend this $120 or I save it up for the future. But I am already 35, what is the point of saving all my money for when I am old. By then, wanna visit ML also no energy already.
Don't know why guys cheat in general, but I'll tell u why I cheat.
My wife has a low sex drive. Or perhaps I am not skilled at all. It's hard to get her wet for me because she says it hurts. She's saliva conscious so she doesn't like frenching. She will do it sometimes, but it's not gonna get her in the mood. She also doesn't allow me to go down on her, much less giving me BJ.
Didn't think counseling have any use (maybe didn't find good one) and it is expensive. Feeling good from counseling was just temporary so I thought, why not use the money for another avenue to feel good.
There we are. Feel free to judge me, I deserve it.
Your wife and you are not sexually compatible. Period
Don't know why guys cheat in general, but I'll tell u why I cheat.
My wife has a low sex drive. Or perhaps I am not skilled at all. It's hard to get her wet for me because she says it hurts. She's saliva conscious so she doesn't like frenching. She will do it sometimes, but it's not gonna get her in the mood. She also doesn't allow me to go down on her, much less giving me BJ.
She does try, and because it hurts, she has consulted doctor for vaginismus. At least now can enter but I'm not allowed to move much. Only one position is possible and because she has never been sexually active nor interested in sex, during the slow process of sex, she will talk about other stuff that honestly kills the mood.
Cheating has never crossed my mind though because it is something unforgivable. It was until recently where a big incident happened in our relationship that I found mentally and psychologically difficult to overcome. We are back to normal more or less, but I do feel depressed often. Had bouts of depression, and didn't fare well with medication. Previously went to a few rounds of counseling. But didn't feel like it was worth it. After this incident, the talk of counseling came up again.
Didn't think counseling have any use (maybe didn't find good one) and it is expensive. Feeling good from counseling was just temporary so I thought, why not use the money for another avenue to feel good.
There we are. Feel free to judge me, I deserve it.
As long as you leave no traces, you're still a good husband! Just think of it as a stress relieve therapy and you're alllll gooooood
As long as you leave no traces, you're still a good husband! Just think of it as a stress relieve therapy and you're alllll gooooood
Hahaha thanks. Hope to reduce, or at least don't keep going more and more, otherwise confirm one day will expose one. Or worse kena KC.
But yea, just a stress relieve therapy for now. Sexually not compatible with my wife, at least can play her boobs to my heart content and her boobs still better than what I've seen outside
For me i have thoughts of cheating on my partner as i wanna experience how it's like to have sex with other ladies... Like trying more varieties of ladies...
after birth of my 2nd kid in 2016, suddenly wife doesnt want sex anymore. Its like a switch went off. I faced countless rejections. Not even cuddles in bed anymore. Previously, she'd would want sex a lot.
we had a huge argument over the deadbedroom situation sometime back, nearly led to a divorce. One of her remarks was "I only wanted sex to have kids". Man, that truly hurt.
Since 2016 till now, we only had sex total of 6 times. That's like once a year of deadfish 'obligatory' sex.
I struggled with this a lot previously. Always fantasized that me n wifey could go back to our great fucks when we were dating/early marriage. Then i slowly thought over and realised its not worth killing myself over this. (yes i had depression and suicide tendencies). I have 2 beautiful daughters who really love me, and for that I'm really grateful.
I changed my mindset. Decided to not let the sex issue get better of me. I decided to be a happier husband and dad. Now I go GL if I cannot supress the urge (which on average once every 4 months).
And this lifestyle kind of works for now. Me n wifey are actually happier with each other (of cos she doesnt know my side hobby), probably because i no longer pressure her into sex. We still hold hands going out, still have our playful banter, just zero sex or intimate cuddles. Basically a married room mate. Kids are happy to see us happy too. One day, as I get older, my libido will slowly die off too and that'll be the end of my GL/FL seeking days.
When i was a teenager and single, I despised men who cheated. Always thought that men should always be faithful to their wives. As I grew, and now in my mid forties, I realised that life isnt all that black and white. Its only going through actual experience and long term struggles that I understood this.
Have u communicated to her that you can't survive in the relationship without sex? It's like some ladies crave for intimacy, commitment, it's part of our needs too
Have u ever asked her if can have open relationship?
after birth of my 2nd kid in 2016, suddenly wife doesnt want sex anymore. Its like a switch went off. I faced countless rejections. Not even cuddles in bed anymore. Previously, she'd would want sex a lot.
we had a huge argument over the deadbedroom situation sometime back, nearly led to a divorce. One of her remarks was "I only wanted sex to have kids". Man, that truly hurt.
Since 2016 till now, we only had sex total of 6 times. That's like once a year of deadfish 'obligatory' sex.
I struggled with this a lot previously. Always fantasized that me n wifey could go back to our great fucks when we were dating/early marriage. Then i slowly thought over and realised its not worth killing myself over this. (yes i had depression and suicide tendencies). I have 2 beautiful daughters who really love me, and for that I'm really grateful.
I changed my mindset. Decided to not let the sex issue get better of me. I decided to be a happier husband and dad. Now I go GL if I cannot supress the urge (which on average once every 4 months).
And this lifestyle kind of works for now. Me n wifey are actually happier with each other (of cos she doesnt know my side hobby), probably because i no longer pressure her into sex. We still hold hands going out, still have our playful banter, just zero sex or intimate cuddles. Basically a married room mate. Kids are happy to see us happy too. One day, as I get older, my libido will slowly die off too and that'll be the end of my GL/FL seeking days.
When i was a teenager and single, I despised men who cheated. Always thought that men should always be faithful to their wives. As I grew, and now in my mid forties, I realised that life isnt all that black and white. Its only going through actual experience and long term struggles that I understood this.
Just happened to read this, and felt I had to respond too. Bro, you are not alone. My wife started peri-menopause and like your wife, doesn’t want sex or even cuddles or hugs any more. Like you I struggled with this a lot and was hoping it would be temporary and we would go back to our hot sex days. She still has a killer slim body, long legged and tanned with super firm ass, but she doesn’t want sex any more no matter how hard I try to persuade her. It’s super frustrating as she has a much better body and is far better in sex than any FL or escort. But all that is in the past and I feel very agitated sometimes sleeping next to her now knowing I can’t have her body anymore. I’m tempted to seek my release outside but nothing compares to the killer bod and sex my wife was able to give me. It’s like a consolation prize whenever I visit an FL outside.
Haha I see. I have no kids, so it is either I spend this $120 or I save it up for the future. But I am already 35, what is the point of saving all my money for when I am old. By then, wanna visit ML also no energy already.
I have no kid too so for me I will spend $120 to make myself happy
23-05-2023, 11:00 AM
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