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[shengge]

Dear Bros,
Sorry for the multiple postings.
The system was not stable last nite.

My sincere apology.


SG

[SGPshanghai69]

Originally Posted by Morningrun

Bro SGSH69,
How are things with you? sorry I called during a meeting... but am really concerned about you. Hope all is well on the home front. I agree, yes women are totally different creatures from us, and need special caring.... If you really need someone who understands you fully and can be there when you need... and not there when you do not need, then I suggest Brokeback mountain lah.... And Bro Maninsin can be Ang Lee.... Kekekek

Seriously, give it a couple more years... and you will get used to her. I recall you telling me that you are not used to this kind of lifestyle at this point, yet you and Bro Maninsin gave me the right advise that literally brought the wifey back to me 100%. She even jokes about it.... so you are not off the mark at all (not to even say short of the mark). Even feel like sponsoring the next board meeting for you two brothers.....
MR

Yo Big Bro Morningrun,
So you're packed & ready to 'move out' here eh? Good for you bro....looking forward to your return here with your family!

Home front for me is ok so-so lor. On & off the usual tantrums from 'you know who' lah.....sigh.... ..............Give it afew years as you said here big bro? It's been 3 years + now & things are infact getting worst day by day.....there again, I started the thingy with 'you know who' on the wrong steps lor....who to blame but only myself! At the begining I shouldn't have give in so much, then it won't the present situation right now. As a bro of mine told me b4, don't do something to the gal you're courting initially if you knew for the fact that you can't be doing it long term (i.e. picking her up after work daily). If you do start it, you will NOT be able to put a stop to it as it's been a habit & a MUST-DO thingy at the begining. Whereas, if one hasn't done it right from the begining, yet occasionally do pop by to surprise her & pick her up after work, it would be a pleasant thingy to do, not a MUST-DO chore anymore!

I fully agreed on that point...sigh...women! Can't live with them yet can't live without them either.....sibeh charm......

I'll be fine for now bro, no worries. I'm simply taking the relationship right day by day, with NO plans at all for the future. Very uncertain feeling inside.
Every now & then should there be any fights or sensing any coming akan datan, I will simply walk away, either sleep in the Guest Room or surf net in my Study. So far, the best solution to it for now, as it works pretty well with 'you know who' & she's ok the next day.

Thanks again for the kinds words you've put uopn us infront of your CO big bro. We're just merely giving you words of concern as a bystander. Like the old saying goes, It's always in clearer perspective from the outer circle as a bystander to look at matters, whereas the one involves are always blinded.

Looking forward to your return comes next week big bro.....& most of all the 'Board Meeting' lah!

P.S. - BTW, My 'you know who' is leaving for Germany this Sat, she'll only be back on 7 Apr. Yupee!!!!

[Prince Fed]

Hi Bro SG69,

I was reading your last post and cannot help to think about my own situation in the past. It is true that you should never give too much at the beginning because it will become an habit that, if you break it, people will start to tell you that you changed you dont "love" her the same way etc.....

Relationships are not easy but once you start to handle them in a nice and fair way it is really fulfilling.

So until April 7th you will be a "free" man again. Anything planned? Let me know. I will leave this friday for Philippines and be back one week after.
Keep in touch.

Cheers,

PF.

[OceanEleven]

Originally Posted by SGPshanghai69

Yo Big Bro Morningrun,
So you're packed & ready to 'move out' here eh? Good for you bro....looking forward to your return here with your family!

As a bro of mine told me b4, don't do something to the gal you're courting initially if you knew for the fact that you can't be doing it long term (i.e. picking her up after work daily). If you do start it, you will NOT be able to put a stop to it as it's been a habit & a MUST-DO thingy at the begining. Whereas, if one hasn't done it right from the begining, yet occasionally do pop by to surprise her & pick her up after work, it would be a pleasant thingy to do, not a MUST-DO chore anymore!

I fully agreed on that point...sigh...women! Can't live with them yet can't live without them either.....sibeh charm......

Yup, never do something and make it into a routine for "You know who" will take it for granted. Imagine she work in Pudong and you work in Puxi and stay in Huangpu........

[shengge]

Originally Posted by SGPshanghai69

It's been 3 years + now & things are infact getting worst day by day.....there again, I started the thingy with 'you know who' on the wrong steps lor....who to blame but only myself! At the begining I shouldn't have give in so much, then it won't the present situation right now. it would be a pleasant thingy to do, not a MUST-DO chore anymore!

I fully agreed on that point...sigh...women! Can't live with them yet can't live without them either

Dear Bro SGPSha69,
You sound not so good.
Love comes with a lot of factors, easy to say then done.
Many thing is not a Must Do but we simply have to do it. I think, if one starts to appreciate what the other has done, I am sure thing will get better.

To live together it is always difficult. Hope it goes well for you.

Cheers!

[SGPshanghai69]

Originally Posted by shengge

Dear Bro SGPSha69,
Love comes with a lot of factors, easy to say then done.
Many thing is not a Must Do but we simply have to do it. I think, if one starts to appreciate what the other has done, I am sure thing will get better.

To live together it is always difficult. Hope it goes well for you.

Cheers!

Dear Bro Shengge,
thanks for the kinds words & concern. Indeed in a relationship it comes with many contributing factors whereby making it all works. saying that "I love ya" is easy but actually doing it, to love that someone......really needs alot of patience, tolerance, giving, considering and the usual TLC (tender + loving + care).........most of all, it's the heart that feels & matters bro.

By simpy doing "it" as bro you mentioned herein, the ultimate execution is still doing "it" bro. Whether a MUST DO or simply do "it" dun make a diff. It's more like doing with all one's heart to it or simply doing it for the sake of doing. I'm presently living & having that kinda feelings within me bro, very honest about it, doing it for the sake of doing it.

Appreciation is a matter that is from the heart & shown thru gestures, not by mere words, my sentiments about it. I strongly believed in daily appreciation to that someone I love, but not the yearly St. Valentine's Day gift & candle-lit wine & dine thingys, nor the birthday or anniversary wine & dine thingy again, showering her with gifts...yet everyday having 'fun' behind her back.....no point in doing that. However, sad to say, all women believes in all those above-mentioned thingy on gifts, candle-lit wine & dine thingy....sigh...fairy-tales are always nice to live & imagine........women!

Indeed living together is always a very very difficult thingy to maintain.....相处难,同住更难!

谢谢兄弟关怀及支持!

[maverick72]

Originally Posted by SGPshanghai69

Dear Bro Shengge,
thanks for the kinds words & concern. Indeed in a relationship it comes with many contributing factors whereby making it all works. saying that "I love ya" is easy but actually doing it, to love that someone......really needs alot of patience, tolerance, giving, considering and the usual TLC (tender + loving + care).........most of all, it's the heart that feels & matters bro.

谢谢兄弟关怀及支持!

Bro SGPshanghai69,
wat happened to you man? remember our small talks in the past? we are the men...i think i still remember telling u that men must treat them like shit than they will love u more...well, i guess u didn't heed my advice man...anyway, this kind of thing works differently on different type of gals...i just want u to know that no matter wat comes out of it, remember that you must be happy first...if u are not happy, than useless to push it on...u know wat i mean...haven't posted in the forum a long time...heehee...it's gd to be back...by the way, how come u not online on MSN? knn, wanted to talk bird with u...hahaha...

[Faidenk]

Originally Posted by SGPshanghai69

Yo Big Bro Morningrun,
As a bro of mine told me b4, don't do something to the gal you're courting initially if you knew for the fact that you can't be doing it long term (i.e. picking her up after work daily). If you do start it, you will NOT be able to put a stop to it as it's been a habit & a MUST-DO thingy at the begining. Whereas, if one hasn't done it right from the begining, yet occasionally do pop by to surprise her & pick her up after work, it would be a pleasant thingy to do, not a MUST-DO chore anymore!

I couldn't help but agree fully.

Now let's say I just got to know & bed the girl and if she were to have read the above advice, what I would be getting is a plain missionary one the first time around. No BBBJ, CIM, not even a doggie. Occasionally, if and when she feels like it, when I least expect it, would I get a surprise BBBJ, and once a blue moon, a CIM.

Earlier I have already qualified myself by agreeing with your stand. Now how do I get her to disagree with you? Hahaha!

[SGPshanghai69]

Originally Posted by Faidenk

I couldn't help but agree fully.

Now let's say I just got to know & bed the girl and if she were to have read the above advice, what I would be getting is a plain missionary one the first time around. No BBBJ, CIM, not even a doggie. Occasionally, if and when she feels like it, when I least expect it, would I get a surprise BBBJ, and once a blue moon, a CIM.

Dear Big Bro Faidenk,
Greetings big bro. It's been a real long while since we last heard from you here...how're you?

Couldn't agree more with you on the definition herein to the above matters. Same principle, same logic except that if will to change the viewing point from the perspective of the opposite sex, being the lady standing I'm very dead sure that the lady would have their side of the story & arguements to it.

Whatever the case it might be, end of the day the mutual respect given, mutual appreciation and last but least the communications has to be established between both parties.
But, I guessed it's always earier said than done here with regards to relationships issues....................

Thanks again for sharing your valuable views with me here big bro and looking forward to meeting you up in person soon......

Wishing you well.
Best regards,

[holein1]

Originally Posted by moonlight

Dear Bros
I will be making my first trip to shanghai on the 02 April 2006 and will be staying there till the 06 April 2006.

....
Cheers

bro, get CEO69's help. he is very free nowadays..in fact he and me are BBB. and we always BBBJing together..tio bo, bbb69?

hin1

[Prince Fed]

Dear bro SG69,

It seems you're not too busy with your new job, spend a lot of time on internet
Let me know if you want to get together for a lunch tomorrow or friday, got plenty of time for lunch break these days

Cheers,

PF.

[holein1]

Originally Posted by jasper

Brother you got such good lobang, best of all few ladies..... Could you spare some contacts to us...

Yo bro, I hope your real life name aint the same as your sammy id right? if not, i would think you are my ex boss....lol

[SGPshanghai69]

Originally Posted by maverick72

Bro SGPshanghai69,
i think i still remember telling u that men must treat them like shit than they will love u more...well, i guess u didn't heed my advice man...anyway, this kind of thing works differently on different type of gals...i just want u to know that no matter wat comes out of it, remember that you must be happy first...if u are not happy, than useless to push it on...u know wat i mean...haven't posted in the forum a long time...heehee...it's gd to be back...by the way, how come u not online on MSN? knn, wanted to talk bird with u...hahaha...

Hey Bro Maverick72,
How're you bro? Still tat busy flying all over China & M'sia?
You are the one that disappeared from the local Shanghai scene for a long long while bro, not me. Also, I can't log onto MSN Chat much being new on the job, dun feel good that my colleagues seeing me chatting away in my room, whereas they are all so busy with work la.....My room is full glass panel (like a fish tank) so whatever I'm doing are easily being seen & watch by others.....even my room door is clear glass lah bro! sigh......

I agree with you bro that to a certain extend that some women deserved to be treated differently.... Relatively speaking, it also depends on her culture background and family upbringing as well. KTV gals perhaps you can treat them the way you proposed herein mentioned but gals that are of not so 'night-life' background and more decent family upbringing, then we have to look at her otherwise. I'm not implying that KTV gals are not to be treated with respect but rather they are more exposed to the society 'dark sides' whereby making them more 'practical' & realistic towards men so they are more independent to a certain extend on themselves in both approach & thinking.
On the other hand, gals of decent family with day jobs are more prone to expect from their men on both materials, monetary as well as all other aspects i.e.commitment, attention, more submissiveness as compared to the KTV gals whom are only all out scheming for monetary rewards.

I agree with you that basic fundamental in any relationship is that both parties are to be happy, then only all other matters would be delightful & cheerful in overall perspective bro. Maybe for me now, I'm just all caught up with new job, new environment so need some time out on my own....
Thanks for sharing here bro, most of thanks for the concern.

See ya soon back here in Shanghai bro!
Cheers & take care.

[Faidenk]

Originally Posted by SGPshanghai69

Dear Big Bro Faidenk,
Thanks again for sharing your valuable views with me here big bro and looking forward to meeting you up in person soon......

If you're meeting, give me a buzz. If I'm not outstation, be glad to meet up with all the brothers.

[SGPshanghai69]

Originally Posted by Prince Fed

Dear bro SG69,

Let me know if you want to get together for a lunch tomorrow or friday, got plenty of time for lunch break these days

Cheers,

PF.

Hey Bro Prince Fed,
Hi there! Yup indeed I'm pretty free for now on my new job being that I will have to get my directions & objectives from US HQ before any actions taken. Going to US end Apr for a month+. After that upon return to SHA, will be dead bloody busy, I hope bro. So for now, CBL (meaning doing nothing at all, and YES! I'm simply surfing internet every seconds, every moniute lah! But tactically, not to obvious though)

Sure would like to meet you up for lunch, shall call you bro!
Cheers.