Guilty Conscience Gf

[VanGogh]

TS MIA liao... .. 4th ONS in the coming ???

[fair]

Haha, no choice, just have to wait for the Return ....

[will.punish]

Dear Angel_sg,

I think since you have his forgiving.. you should also forgive yourself~ Put the past behind you and look forward with a future with him.

I think you needn't try hard to love him, if you don't~ maybe you don't really like him~ that's why you're at a lost. Probably you're just guilty for doing such things to him, but it wouldn't bother you anymore if you know you love him~

Treat him with sincerity~ just like how girls would want their guys to treat him~ There's nothing better than just someone who gives you support for whatever you are.. or would be~

Hope that helps~ Let him guide you through..~

[MistressVamp]

Seriously...if ur bf never find out n shout at u...will u actually continue the affairs n ons ard??

[Angel_Sg]

Thank you for all the advice. I am so touched by some of your advice that I really broke down. Some of you had even hit the nail in my heart. I did not expect that I can really pour my woes here and you guys are great.

Although I really did find some solace here, its true that I have to overcome this myself. I will have play my part as a gf true to my bf.

Some of you guys said may be true. Maybe I did not give 100% of my love to him. Or maybe I was too naive, wanting to get involved with good looking guys. In fact, my bf is good looking but maybe he is too involved with his work that made me astray? I dont know, but I really did twist and blame him for making me having affairs one after another but he managed to put back on track, told me off and made me speechless and afraid.

Although he said that he forgave me, I know he will not forget. Can guys really forget?

[Wizard69]

Originally Posted by geckoSG

TS, ask yourself, why did u have 6 affairs & ONS if you really loved him.

It's the same reason why married and attached men goes for FL and others.

Angel - no guilt needed!! You are normal.

[tigerprawn]

Originally Posted by Angel_Sg

Thank you for all the advice. I am so touched by some of your advice that I really broke down. Some of you had even hit the nail in my heart. I did not expect that I can really pour my woes here and you guys are great.

Although I really did find some solace here, its true that I have to overcome this myself. I will have play my part as a gf true to my bf.

Some of you guys said may be true. Maybe I did not give 100% of my love to him. Or maybe I was too naive, wanting to get involved with good looking guys. In fact, my bf is good looking but maybe he is too involved with his work that made me astray? I dont know, but I really did twist and blame him for making me having affairs one after another but he managed to put back on track, told me off and made me speechless and afraid.

Although he said that he forgave me, I know he will not forget. Can guys really forget?

Dear Angel,

I guess maybe it is girl's nature to want to twist and turn the truth for blaming the guy for making you have affairs.... so dont be too hard on yourself. Though seriously deep inside you know what the truth of the matter is. As per what i said in earlier message, my gf also did the same twisted everything round against me become my fault and she becomes the victim instead. At least for you, you have the courage to admit and realise that you were twisting the truth and feel sorry. So there is still hope for you if you really treasure and want to try at making your relationship with your bf work.

Let me explain something to you so you may understand things better from a guy's prospective. Having been in the same shoes as your bf, I know perfectly his pains and hurts. It is one thing that you cheated on him. But what hurts even more and truly angers him and makes him snap is your twisting of the truth against him after you cheated on him. That is worse. 10 times worse. If you cheated and you feel remorseful and sorry, if he really loves you he will forgive you eventually although there will be pain but there wont be so much anger if he really loves you. However, your twisting of the truth against him is what really hurts him more cos that kind of action totally displays an absolute disrespect and unrepentence for what you had done wrong. It is like you drive a car hit down an old lady then you blame the old lady somemore that she use her body to dent your car and dirty your car with her blood so therefore she should compensate you cos you are the victim. This kind of twisted logic is a kind of mental violence which can drive people mad.

So, I would suggest, if you are still really serious about wanting to try to make it work with your bf, then have a good heart to heart talk with him. First of all, make peace on everything. Apologise not just for the cheatings BUT also on your twisting of truths against him, tell him it is because you were so afraid and scared at that moment that you did not know what to do and did so only out of sheer fear and you are truly remorseful and regret what you did. That you know your actions had hurt him deeply and you are sincerely sorry. That is a starting point. Then you talk about whether both parties still want to try and if so, what efforts both parties will make together TOGETHER to try to improve and make the relationship work. You said that he works too hard and may neglect you, is that true? if so, bring it up to him too and I am sure he will be willing to adjust accordingly.

Last but not least, you asked if a guy can forget even if he forgives? I think this applies to everyone the same not just guys. What are you asking about forgetting? That he totally wipe and erase it from his memory as if the incidents never happened? That is unrealistic and asking too much. We all must take responsibilities for our faults and actions. The best he can do already is to forgive. You cant wipe away what that has already happened and pretend that it never occured. That would be pretending and not real. On the other hand, if he can face the hurting truths and still forgive you, he truly loves you. It doesnt matter whether he remembers or not. What is past is past - wiping it out is not the solution. It is about letting go. If he can let go of the past in full knowledge of the past, then he has truly moved on and forgiven you. That should be the forgiving you be seeking, NOT pretending things never happened.

Good luck and all the best to the both of you. I wrote especially long for this thread cos I can personally relate and feel your bf's pain having gone through this myself. Believe me, you may think you know how painful he feels but you have absolutely no idea the level and depth of hurt and pain he has gone through for you to forgive you and continue to love you. Many guys would have slapped you and left. Some even slit your throat. So, this may be something worthwhile of your cherish and treasure.

Wishing both of you happiness eventually.

[VanGogh]

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Like TS, I also feel so touch to see all Bros here being so helpful !

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[nycaloth66]

Aiyah no point thinking about it. TS should treasure your bf. A guy who can forgive, forget and trust you despite your misdeeds is one guy that you would not want to lose.

So for his sake and your own sake, let the past be the past and treasure him, be faithful.

[VaeVictus]

Angel_SG is probably lacking attention from her bf. The lack of love and security the bf is suppose to provide in a relationship due to his commitment to work. Yes, it does lead people astray, but it does not validate the fact that cheating is still cheating no matter the extent of it.

Be thankful he found out and he forgave you. That shows that he truly loves you. People will forgive.. But forgetting ?? I know a friend that forgives his gf for cheating on him 8 times. He still loves her after all the scandals and affairs. Blame it on his addiction to soccer than she lacks attention. But he did mention before... "Forgive and forget? More like Forgive and forget about forgetting." Reasons being, why try so hard to forget the pain and unhappy memories? Just move on and hope that things will be better and the other half learns. Now.. They're happily married. The wife is married, stays home, looks after the kids and etc etc. Hangs out with his family. Very homely now. Apparently lost the urge to have numerous scandals.

Hope things will turn out well for you and you'll "wake up" from all the scandals and wandering matters of the heart.

[3m3m3m]

Dear TS,

Does not mean to pour "cold" water on u,in my opinion although ur bf said he already forgave you, but not forget..just that now he has not find a new gals that worth his next attention.One day when he really find a new gal better then u,he will confirm plus chop use this as an excuses to breakoff.

Not that i wanna flame u to leave him now..just that this will be possibilities or as some bro here said that his fren gf cheat on him 8 times but still can forgave her...thats very rare.

i myself can't even take it..unless my wife told me that all the flings was before he met me..then this is acceptable...when boking her,can ask her eleborate her ex bf do her on what style..wuhaha...

[HumpBackOak]

it is human nature to require attention, some more than others.. some lesser than others...

alot of times.. its the partner's fault for focusing on something else besides the relationship..

particularly the men who are too involved with their careers and will attempt to use money to keep the love of their partners. sometimes it works.. sometimes it doesnt work.. particularly if their gf/spouse is still attractive.

the men know they are not spending enough time with their partners.. they know they are not giving the attention they should give their other half. but yet they do nothing.. alot of people dont realize that being together long does not mean you do not apologize for neglecting your other half.. it means having to say sorry 100 times or a million times if thats what it takes.. if you really love the person.

it is human nature to seek what they need and if they dont get it in the relationship they are in, it is only natural to seek it outside.

the question here is not whether he really forgave you or is willing to forget what has happened.

but whether is he or this relationship what u want.. because end of the day.. without the fulfillment you need.. its just going to happen again

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Although he said that he forgave me, I know he will not forget. Can guys really forget?


Can guys really forget?
Answer is no & that's applicable to all human beings. If one can forget, it means you meant nothing to him/her.
Fact: We will never forget, but we can & must forgive to move on with our lives.

Honestly speaking, I am no different from you. Only thing is that I am in a male body. That's why I can relate to your experience.
Go get the daily bread from Novena church and have a good read of that book. It will reveal yourself to you in ways no other humans can.
I dun know u in person but sis, with God's grace, nothing, and I mean nothing is impossible.
The most difficult part to walk 10,000miles, is the 1st step. After that will be a breeze.
Do be focused in what you want & set your heart mind soul spirit to achieve it.

Last but no least, remember this phrase, WE CAN SEE THE END FROM THE BEGINNING. WHEN WE JUMP FROM ONE PLACE TO ANOTHER, DO IT WIF YOUR EYES OPENED. Many do it wif their eyes closed & live to regret their actions once it's time to pay their dues.

[kiekie2]

Originally Posted by Angel_Sg

Thank you for all the advice. I am so touched by some of your advice that I really broke down. Some of you had even hit the nail in my heart. I did not expect that I can really pour my woes here and you guys are great.

Although I really did find some solace here, its true that I have to overcome this myself. I will have play my part as a gf true to my bf.

Some of you guys said may be true. Maybe I did not give 100% of my love to him. Or maybe I was too naive, wanting to get involved with good looking guys. In fact, my bf is good looking but maybe he is too involved with his work that made me astray? I dont know, but I really did twist and blame him for making me having affairs one after another but he managed to put back on track, told me off and made me speechless and afraid.

Although he said that he forgave me, I know he will not forget. Can guys really forget?

Although ur bf is busy with his work, that doesnt give u an excuse to go astray. My ex did the same to me, the first time i found out i forgive her, but the second time i found out again i told her to Fu** off. I must say ur bf have a very big heart to forgive u, don't make the same mistake again. Be trueful to each other and treat him nicely, i wish u 2 have a blissful relationship.

[Angel_Sg]

I really dont know that some of you guys is experiencing the same problem between me and my bf....Im sorry this thread of mine bring back bad memories. Thousand apologies.

It really look like girls nowadays fling around as much as guys do, and I am of no exceptional. I always thought that I am a faithful gf as I had been very faithful to my other ex bfs. But I dont understand why I can took a wrong move to this bf since he is very faithful to me.

Can I really change? I have to remind myself again and again so that I dont take the wrong path again.