Re: Tricky Situation, How do you tacke this???

[old_yet_horny]

Hahahaha...

Bro TS.. Please do not blame ur GF.. She is not the one who make demands.
Dun ruin a marriage becuase of such trival matters.. I have seen friends who got married under circumstances like yours and made enemies with the in laws.. Just let them know that financially what they want from you is too taxing and if the old folks really want to stick to their way of marrying off the daugther, ask them to wait while you work on the money side (by savings or selling backside)..Dun just dump ur GF like that.. If its something money can solve,its not a problem at all..


For my case, I am 1 lucky bastard...My OC's parents says all dinner and dowry are useless and stupid which they do not like the idea for...
Asked me to scrap all traditional chinese practices..
BTW.. my OC's parents are eduacated and people of status in one of the "garment" agency..

They just give us their blessings, ask us to ROM and fly off for honeymoon.
My father in law also wanted to sponsor our honey moon air ticket to Europe but I tried to decline his wedding gift to us in the end, it was her father's sincerity that made me accepted it...

To show my sincerity in return for being such understanding in laws, I bought a diamond ring almost 12K for my OC and to show my appreciation to her parents, I bought an OSIM U Pilot massage chair for the old folks.

Now I am in the old folk's good books that they simply treat me like their own son..

[colins]

I agree with bro old_yet_horny, first of all your gf doesnt seem to be the party at fault unless she was the one to instigate the entire showdown. My advise is still to find out any reasonable points on why the parents made such requests.

At the end of the day, it is the sincerity that counts. If on day one, the parents start demanding that you and your gf should tie the knot and you should foot the entire bill, it is subjective to say that they are sincere or they are just plain putting the stress on you to make their face big in front of their relatives. The bill may not be hefty, in today's standard, a 10k wedding is moderate.

But like in bro old_yet_horny's case, the sincerity is definitely there without question. Everybody is happy because everybody know what needs to be done for the couple instead of for themselves. So everybody starts to contribute to make everybody happy.

So if you want to carry on and marry this girl (despite you calling her a bitch), try the proactive approach rather than the negative approach. Try suggesting different plans like honeymoon marriage, smaller scaled wedding banquet, buffet dinner, etc. to show your sincerity in marrying their daughter. If they still insist in making it THEIR way for YOUR marriage, it is only reasonable that you just 'open up the deal' to say you need much longer time to save for such a wedding.

Just make sure your gf knows the reason why you are doing it, and that is to marry her and at the same time, still be able to maintain an amicable relationship with her parents.

[qguy]

Originally Posted by websurfbastard

Tricky Situation, How do you tacke this???

Thread heading sounds good though


I have been having a great night out and manage to get a catch tonight. I was quite intoxicated but I manage to check into a hotel with her.We immediately started frenching when we reached the room, got into action when I slided my hands beneath her mini skirt and into her panties. I got a shock when I relised it was a "AH GUA"

Tricky Situation, How do you tacke this???

Hahaha...That's a good one!

Remedy:
Apply KY "Gao Gao" & Fark IT's Ass lor

[Steadyman1]

If her father is so thoughtful of her daughter, just tell her what you have; your income and asset.

If he still "Buzz" around then ask him for sponsorship.
If yes, then the ball will be in your court whether you want to settle down.

[SDMM]

Originally Posted by hur hur hur

Went steady with a local 20s girl about a year, born from a traditional chinese educated parents. Her parents are already telling me about marriage. (Proposal or what!!!!) And they told me that a guy should pay for everything for marriage. That includes house, wedding dinner, honeymoon, rings, wedding pics and etc. and my girlfriend, should not worry about this at all. Of course, I kana snook, and will be alarmed by all these. Getting stress somehow.

How to you guys tackle this problem? Besides ditching that bitch, if you tell me.

Tell them that you are a traditional guy and you will do the above if the girl is also traditional as in she is still a virgin. If not all bets are off

[Jack Frost]

Weddings can be real expensive better be real sure about this one brother! Best to stay cool.

[singexpat]

Originally Posted by SDMM

Tell them that you are a traditional guy and you will do the above if the girl is also traditional as in she is still a virgin. If not all bets are off

i like tis suggestion, plus e girl has to knw qing, qi, shu, hua...

one of my friend was smart...
he worked up a show tht he borrow money frm loansharks to pay for the dinosaur demands of the inlaws...

in e end, the inlaws take 100 ping kim, return all angpows of their 2 tables, plus give 10k wedding ang pow to my friend, askin him to return to loansharks asap so as not to disturb or scare their daughter..

he nw cho bee bee everyday...

[ken li]

Br TS,
Do you love her? (whatever that means nowadays)
Do YOU WANT to marry her?

If yes to the above, listen to Bros colins and old_yet_horny. Good advice. Because above all you do not want to hurt your GF's / Wife-to-be's feelings. The last thing you want to do is directly or indirectly pit your beloved against her parents or to make her choose sides as to who is right.

If your answer to the above are negative or you take more than 2 seconds to answer either question, then its not a tricky question at all. Tell the old geezers they can have their daughter back and remind them we are in the 21st century.

[agent]

Originally Posted by singexpat

worked up a show tht he borrow money frm loansharks to pay for the dinosaur demands of the inlaws...

this is a good way to deal with very demanding and unreasonable in laws
and the best thing was, u dun have to hide the fact that you are putting up a show haha....

[Frenchkiss]

Give her up!

Lots of girls to choose.

Remember, you cannot blame your parents being poor, but you are to be blamed for getting a poor wife or In-laws.

Why put yourself into a bottle neck?

The best thing in life is FREE!

[kelvin_21t]

Originally Posted by Criminalz

Do what my frd did, Fuck the girl, make her pregnant and then say no money. watever the parents say, just say no money, they cant wait too long either, tummy getting bigger.

eventually, everything split between the 2 families. Of course, dun expect much nice words from your in-laws.

Hahahaha..Good suggestion bro, machiam stock going down trend so the parents will have to "cut losses" before the stock worth nothing

[Stitch626]

Get a senior relative (preferbly supported by 3rd Auntie and Sixth granny) that really knows how to bargin and send them to do the negotiations.

Downside, you may end up not getting married

[2MuchLove]

Originally Posted by hur hur hur

Went steady with a local 20s girl about a year, born from a traditional chinese educated parents. Of course, I kana snook, and will be alarmed by all these. Getting stress somehow.

How to you guys tackle this problem? Besides ditching that bitch, if you tell me.

From the way I see it, you are already calling your gf a BITCH and clearly you are not at all keen to marry the girl. So I suggest u really do break off.

[bangbangben]

Originally Posted by Frenchkiss

Give her up!

Lots of girls to choose.

Remember, you cannot blame your parents being poor, but you are to be blamed for getting a poor wife or In-laws.

Why put yourself into a bottle neck?

The best thing in life is FREE!

U still need to pay for a $40 fuck in GL if you are fat, ugly, single and unwanted. to enjoy your "best thing in life"

[bangbangben]

Honestly TS, I believe you come from an average family and you earn an average salary and you are in your mid twenties?

Normally if this was thrown into my face, I believe I would
1) have to speak to my gf to see what's her actions and approach to it. This could also be used as a test to see how much she will stand by ur side?
2) After seeing her reactions, Review your relationship? Provided her actions are negative.
3) If she seems positive, then u two have to work out where u two gonna find the $$ and how long u need to save it.
4) I will also review her family condition, if there would be a possibility of having to support your in-laws and then review yourself if you would be comfortable with this till they die.

Honestly, if u dun agree to anything... I sincerely think u shouldnt move on to a marriage as most human hide the smallest issue and when u two quarrel, u most likely will dig ur dirtiest trash out and end up in a divorce...

oh ya, divorce is more expensive then a marriage...

So please consider all issues on this.