Advice needed, conversations with wife/gf

[Johnbass]

Originally Posted by Kenny87

Not exactly, you seem to have a very low opinion of woman. I wonder why is that?

I lowered my expectations is so that he can hit the small milestones and be encourage to achieve greater things. If i set the bar so high that he cannot see, then what is the use of him trying?

CNY mai so serious leh...
You also need to less opinionated about me...
You happy with your low expectations of your hubby, I also happy for you...
No need to prove me right or wrong...
Prove yourself right can Liao...

[Johnbass]

Originally Posted by demonhunter

Behind every successful man is a smart woman .... i believe we would clik very well .
GXFC

JiBye!
U also appear at the same time...
Mai clone leh...

[simply2323]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Let me give you the other side of the coin and that is the fact that ambitious alpha males are notorious for having a string of affairs.

From what I have gathered from your posts your husband is an ideal mate when it comes to caring for you and the family. His failures are financial but he seems to have a very good heart and is kind and caring.

If you give up on him and end up with a financially secure and ambitious mate, be prepared for a lot more emotional toil because if you find him attractive because he is a success in life then so too will a lot of other females.

You'll end up with sleepless nights wondering what he is up to while he's out "entertaining" or on business trips to far out lands.

Women who have been hurt by philandering husbands would probably love to swap places with you. The peace of mind of knowing that your beloved man is almost always at home awaiting your return should be very comforting.

Be careful what you wish for.

Fantastic advice and all so true. I have a successful career and not that bad looking. Coupled with frequent overseas postings, ended up with plenty of opportunities to stray. However, after a few hiccups that nearly destroy the family unit, taking the female point of views, I have been a bastard. So Kenny, please do look deeply into your own expectation. Sometimes, what we wished for before is not really something that we want after. In a culture like Singapore where wealth and titles are almost everything, we sometimes neglect the real 'glue' that makes a marriage successful. Wishing you all the best and hope you really know what you wanted.

[Nordic]

Very very very few married men remain faithful. You need to be aware. However it also seems like fewer and fewer married women also remains faithful.