Sexually frustrated

[Pineapple]

An alternative. Maybe you can trying swinging to rejuvenate the excitment?

[sunnysunnysunny]

nothing wrong asking for advice here.......gd luck ts

[StillLearning]

Advice is the same singular or plural.

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

Hi all~ Been a silent reader for quite awhile and been contemplating whether I should seek advices from fellow samsters.

A little background:
I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. Sex was amazing initially but have started to dwindle about a year ago. I'm 23, he's 25. I'm 101% sure he isn't cheating on me. Just that since he started his own business, he became quite busy and had put on a lot of weight. He used to workout everyday but none at all now.

Before, we had sex everyday or almost everyday. He could last for at least half an hour. Now when we have sex, he comes quite fast although he tries to delay it the best he can and always makes sure I come first. We can't have rough sex like before which is what I like. Sex is limited to once or twice week at best, or occasionally once a fortnight.

Would really appreciate any advices at all as I feel like I'm going crazy at times as my sex drive is quite high.

[angelababy]

I think it takes 2 to spice up the sex life. I am more horny than my partner and most of the time I am the one who thinks of kinky games, toys and lingerie. From a girl's point of view, I suggest you can try that too.

Talk dirty, send dirty sms-es, dirty pics of yourself in the middle of the work day. Nothing quite fires up a man's desire when he knows his lady wants to go down and dirty with him.

Play with yourself in front of him.

Book a staycation. New majestic hotel has a room that is all mirrored up, even on the ceiling.

As what I always believe in," please, and you will be pleased."

[maxman]

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

Hi all~ Been a silent reader for quite awhile and been contemplating whether I should seek advices from fellow samsters.

A little background:
I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. Sex was amazing initially but have started to dwindle about a year ago. I'm 23, he's 25. I'm 101% sure he isn't cheating on me. Just that since he started his own business, he became quite busy and had put on a lot of weight. He used to workout everyday but none at all now.

Before, we had sex everyday or almost everyday. He could last for at least half an hour. Now when we have sex, he comes quite fast although he tries to delay it the best he can and always makes sure I come first. We can't have rough sex like before which is what I like. Sex is limited to once or twice week at best, or occasionally once a fortnight.

Would really appreciate any advices at all as I feel like I'm going crazy at times as my sex drive is quite high.

Your problem is not unusual, as many other older and more experienced adults will also tell you. In life, there are 2 big things that will take a man or a woman, or both, a lot of time and energy to grow it up successfully, that is a business and a baby. This is why there is plenty of advice out there that strongly recommends you don't attempt both at the same time because doing both is going to extremely strain and break a relationship, and as it is, just growing any 1 of the 2 is already capable of breaking many relationships.

Anyone here who runs his/her own business will surely know how difficult, strenuous and tiresome it is to get business up and going successfully. Any new parent here will also tell you that once baby enters the picture, romantic times, intimate acts and sex goes out the window and almost very difficult to revert to pre-baby times.

You don't have to take my word for it, but you can Google search and read up. I don't know what word to search for about business straining relationships, but it is much easier to search for baby causing husbands to stray and couples to drift apart.

I'm not saying that your relationship is going to fail. It will fail only if you don't realize and don't understand that his business is something that can strengthen and secure his financial future, and yours. If there is anything a man should be valued for, it is his ability to responsibly work and provide for himself (at the very least), and for the woman he loves, and any children he eventually has with her. Yes, while the business may take his time and energy from you, and it can be very difficult to balance his time with the business and you, would you otherwise prefer that he spends his time and energy on other things that don't have any benefit to his future and yours with him?

[justanothergirl]

Hi everyone! I've read through all of the posts and PMs. Some are rubbish, some quite insightful.

From what I gather.. I should reflect upon myself about my outlook in life. I know starting a business is hard but never really thought of it as THAT strenuous for a guy. So yes.. I will try to be more supportive of him.

For a start, making him healthier meals and also taking up interests that I wanted to do but did not have time for it.

Holidays to spice things up will just have to wait as he's unable to travel soon.

Big thank you to all!

[SammyNewbie]

Many of them should have asked you to bonk them instead.

[hi2u]

Life is more than just sex.
True, it can be frustrating. I myself, have quite a high sex drive too. I am attached, however my gf does not want to do it. We did it initially, however, she feels guilty about it all the time, so we've decided to just shelf it. Not to mention, accidents happened around us at the same time lol.
Well, what to do? Just got to suck it up and perhaps do the right thing haha.

[DemonicSS]

Hi TS,

I guess your partner is focused on his business. Sex is not really everything to a man, some have a higher drive to earn money (you know the saying Sex, Money Power or all 3?) So he seems to be attracted at Money, so while chatting works, it would only be temporary. I really see no reason to push him into sex as the business I would believe is at its infancy. He would need to focus there.

Since you've known him for afew years, you should roughly know what you can and cannot do, and ask him to allow you to play outside. If you and him are unable to separate the differences between sex and a relationship, then you will have to make a choice between sex and money. Good point is - not everyone have such good a choice. or at least have the option to. Hope you can have both!

[justanothergirl]

Bros and sis!

Sorry to leave this thread hanging for awhile now but after reading previous comments of how a business is really strenuous to a relationship and how I should be more understanding and supportive.

I've took time to seriously reflect on myself and things have taken a turn for the better. No, I still have not changed my views on finding sex outside. It's just that I've learnt that some aspects of life are more important and I should focus on that instead.

Just wanted to tell everyone that things are going well between us and that this thread is closed

[jason_]

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

Hi all~ Been a silent reader for quite awhile and been contemplating whether I should seek advices from fellow samsters.

A little background:
I've been with my boyfriend for about 3 years. Sex was amazing initially but have started to dwindle about a year ago. I'm 23, he's 25. I'm 101% sure he isn't cheating on me. Just that since he started his own business, he became quite busy and had put on a lot of weight. He used to workout everyday but none at all now.

Before, we had sex everyday or almost everyday. He could last for at least half an hour. Now when we have sex, he comes quite fast although he tries to delay it the best he can and always makes sure I come first. We can't have rough sex like before which is what I like. Sex is limited to once or twice week at best, or occasionally once a fortnight.

Would really appreciate any advices at all as I feel like I'm going crazy at times as my sex drive is quite high.

you can rub yourself to orgasm. if you believe no penetration mean no sex mean no betraying your bf, you can look for guy here to rub you to orgasm while you give him handjob to orgasm (mutual masturbation).

[henabi]

Originally Posted by justanothergirl

Bros and sis!

Sorry to leave this thread hanging for awhile now but after reading previous comments of how a business is really strenuous to a relationship and how I should be more understanding and supportive.

I've took time to seriously reflect on myself and things have taken a turn for the better. No, I still have not changed my views on finding sex outside. It's just that I've learnt that some aspects of life are more important and I should focus on that instead.

Just wanted to tell everyone that things are going well between us and that this thread is closed

great to hear that ^.^ communication is very important to keep a relationship alive and kicking, especially after being together for so many years.

up my 2 humble pts for you ^.^

[justanothergirl]

Originally Posted by jason_

you can rub yourself to orgasm. if you believe no penetration mean no sex mean no betraying your bf, you can look for guy here to rub you to orgasm while you give him handjob to orgasm (mutual masturbation).

That's just twisted thinking to convince oneself that they've done nothing wrong to clear their tainted conscience.

[wantanabee]

he might have low Testosterone. (hypogonadism)

get him some testosterone pills and do some regular excerises.

[jason_]

another way is, since he is too tired out with his business, that you do all the work in bed and let him just lie back and relax. not sure if you do blowjob, if no better learn, suck his balls, etc, just make his dick hard and then ride him cowgirl, if do not know how to ride cowgirl then better learn.

if he just lie back and relax then he will be more obliging. and you will get his hard dick inside you more than what you are getting now.