Bdsm?

[Chriskeong]

http://xhamster.com/movies/1846295/x065.html

[adventureseekin]

Originally Posted by Starry1314

You dom or sub?

Oops! Din see your reply... Probably a sub. I like him to be a bit rough..

[sane]

Originally Posted by kyoukai

i personally am more into the psychological play part, the helplessness, and not much the sex part. the sex probably is just a process within bdsm that increases the thrill, but is primarily not the focus of it.

I feel the same too because in real life, I noe it's impossible for my god damned stubborn character.

It keep me wonder what's the feeling like to be tamed?

if he shout at me or show me black face, I will just take my bag and go.

[illusions]

Hey, I just saw this exciting thread... like to revive it with some comments!

Anyone here has tried it? Or want to try?
Personally I'm quite keen to try since I like being the submissive one hehe.
But I find that it isn't very popular in sg? I wanna learn how to tie someone lololol.
Please share your experiences if you have tried ^~^

you really have to ask yourself wad about bdsm you lyke? some are in it not for the sex, some love that master-slave relation. some loved to be controlled and give up their 'mind' or that decision making capacity totally to the other party. lyke wad was mentioned, deres lots of 'categories'. others include forced orgasm, suspension, denial etc. etc. u probably wanna go a bit specific abt wad ur looking for?

I think I love the master slave thing with more loving feel to it... if it makes sense. As.long as my master wants, I'm okay

it does. at the end of the day, wad ur looking for is following instructions wif the end objective of being able to provide pleasure to the other party, whatever they may be (within limits of course). Not everyone loves freedom, some love being mentally restrained, controlled, manipulated, giving up dat decision making capacity. To be honest, there are a whole lot of them around. wished I have a slave like that. all the best in ur search!

i personally am more into the psychological play part, the helplessness, and not much the sex part. the sex probably is just a process within bdsm that increases the thrill, but is primarily not the focus of it.

Yes. I have tried it before. And still like to try. =)

When I read these post, it seems like you are hoping that you want to be a slave for a guy. Is that right? Well, I'm asking cos I would think most guys into SM, well, fantasize about having a cute girl as their personal slave eh... heh...

I have tried having a girl as my "slave". I have tried having a guy as my "slave". I have tried being a "slave" to a guy. And in very mild way, I have also been a "slave" to a girl.

For me, I'm more into SM, so that's where I'll share a little. SM can stand for slave-master, or can stand for sado-masochism.

The thrill of slave-master is the control u can get over your slave. It can range from very mild, like having your slave blow you in a posture you prescribe (usually kneeling) until you cum. The feeling of seeing the expression of your slave's face as you climax and unload into his/her mouth is priceless.

For a slave, the reverse is true. To go down into his cock in your mouth and you have to look up to him is humiliating. Even more so when you have to cringe to keep his shaft in your mouth as he unloads. Hence derogatory the phrase, "suck my dick." But the thrill is in knowing how much pleasure you have given him.

Slave-master can take a step forward and involve the slave obeying a larger range of command (not limited to giving a blowjob). Common ones are to ask the slave to hold in a certain posture, usually one that exposes her body in a beautiful and elegant way, as you slowly explore his/her body. If the slave is sporty or athletic, or most important, willing, the posture can be a strenuous one (eg, bridge, pushup). Doggie-training, where a slave is humiliated by being made to crawl around, is also common.

It need not be so complicated. It can be as simple as a willing slave"serving" you as you watch a game of soccer. A simple home alone night where the slave is not allowed to wear any clothes (or only what u designate), prepares something special for you, massages you as you sit on the couch, and be there when you want to caress her body, or if she is more adventurous, even to let her back be your leg-rest or snack-table as you lean back on the couch. (don't do it continuously for two hours. long session are really not fun for the slave, unless ur slave specifically okays it. I suggest doing it intermittently)

In the video linked, the SM play is a rather arousing one. It's the notion that the girl is helplessly pleasured and has no choice but to "suffer" orgasm after orgasm. It a great feeling to know that even her deepest feelings, her most primal feelings of arousal, is in your hands. Tied up, naked and exposed as such, you have the power control her body's pleasure even if she wishes to resist. Sadly, this is seldom true. It is actually not easy to bring a female to orgasm because a female's orgasm is more emotional than physical. It takes a lot more skill, understanding that girl, to bring a female body to orgasm than a male.

But yet, I have also met a girl (FL), who is so sensitive that just inserting a egg vibrator into her sex, I could bring her whole body to uncontrollable trembling pleasure with a flick of a switch. That counts as the best "sm" I had.

As a slave guy, this is even more true. I don't know about other guys, but I know that I can be forced to orgasm against my will just by simple, persistent stroking of my shaft. The feeling that my master can cause me to cum at any time is really humiliating and erotic.


Apart from simple role-play, which puts one in control over the other, SM can also mean sado-masochism. It's basically the same setting as the above, but with one additional factor - some measure of causing pain and deriving pleasure in the inflicting of the pain.

eg, when the slave is kneeling, giving you a blowjob. kneeling in itself is a slight cause pain as it is a little strenuous and painful to kneel. But usually that doesn't count as sado-masochism. I found that you can transform a manageable posture into one that becomes very strenuous and painful quickly be doing two things. Firstly, push her knees far apart, beyond shoulder width apart. Secondly, put her hands behind her back, holding each other. It gets really depraved from there as you watch her cringe and strain to blow you. I'm sure if u are are into sado-masochism, you can think of more depraved things to do to your slave when she is so helpless. A "common" action is to slap her face.

other forms of sado-masochism are spanking (which i think doesn't really cause all that much pain if you are concern abt avoiding marks or injuries), electricity (recommend using a AA powered fly swatter, remove the electric net, safe but really scary), endurance (where you purposely command your slave to stay in a strenuous posture, tip-toe, bridge, push-up, etc) for a prolong time while u watch her strain, predicament (quite hard to set-up, but there's one easy to set up one that's quite depraved yet safe)...

alright, have fun. for bondage, safe-word is impt. For slave-master w/o bondage, communication is still important.

In an ideal world, the master's greatest pleasures are also the slave's greatest fantasy. BUT, we don't live in an ideal world. In reality, a good slave-master pair is when there is greatest overlap between the kind of pleasure a master derives from a slave, and the kind of pleasure the slave wants to give the master.

I know it may sound more erotic for a slave to go to a new master and tell him to use him in whatever ways he wishes. But the problem is that it often doesn't end up well.

For me, as a master, I like to push my slave to the limit, then slightly over.
Similarly, as a slave, I like to be pushed to the limit, then slightly over.

But actually, more often than not, the "SM" I enjoy nowadays are just more adventurous foreplay before sex, but I admit there are a couple of occasions many years back that are really unspeakably depraved. And I also have been a slave to unspeakably depraved acts.


Well, I hope I've said enough to keep this thread going.

[dell_lee_2003]

for me I just love to be a slave to beautiful woman or girl. it will be more fun if playing with girl slave while serving mistress.

[Overdrive]

Dom here. Firstly, have to ask your sub how much she's willing to go, pain wise etc. After that, experiment and have fun! *evil grin

[Camel]

Originally Posted by dell_lee_2003

it will be more fun if playing with girl slave while serving mistress.

hehehe, very true

[illusions]

Originally Posted by dell_lee_2003

for me I just love to be a slave to beautiful woman or girl. it will be more fun if playing with girl slave while serving mistress.

What do u mean by playing with girl slave while serving mistress?

Do u mean, 2 "layer" of SM... A girl is ur slave, and has to serve you, while u are the slave to another mistress?

I have not tried before fantasies..
1) My slave and I, being slave to another master for a session.
2) Just as I'm starting a session with my slave girl, my master/mistress, who is the friend of my slave, comes to "rescue" her, coaxes my slave to tell her all the ways I "use" her, and does the same to me.

[Latexman]

Originally Posted by illusions

What do u mean by playing with girl slave while serving mistress?

Do u mean, 2 "layer" of SM... A girl is ur slave, and has to serve you, while u are the slave to another mistress?

I have not tried before fantasies..
1) My slave and I, being slave to another master for a session.
2) Just as I'm starting a session with my slave girl, my master/mistress, who is the friend of my slave, comes to "rescue" her, coaxes my slave to tell her all the ways I "use" her, and does the same to me.

that is probably one of the scenarios I got to try as well,
was hoping I could be a male sub made to serve a mistress who in turn is under the command of a master
or a male sub made to serve a master who in turn serves a mistress,
just wish to be the bottom of the foot chain, or another fantasy would be
helping a master / mistress to get another sub to submit to him / her...

all in the spirit of bdsm