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Step 2
You might already be sensing that you have some control over the timing of when you come. By slowing down your partner as she masturbates you, or stopping her altogether, you may have discovered a new level of control over what previously seemed to be an unstoppable process. The next step is to learn how to accept more stimulation without rushing towards your orgasm. As before, gentle massage, caressing, stroking and touching are the first steps of the exercise. When you have a erection, your partner stimulates you more by using a lubricant or even just large quantities of her own saliva on your penis. http://img234.exs.cx/img234/4493/396bk.jpg http://img93.exs.cx/img93/1581/407tp.jpg http://img93.exs.cx/img93/3640/413tm.jpg http://img24.exs.cx/img24/8228/423xd.jpg She can also give you oral sex as she masturbates you. http://img240.exs.cx/img240/2157/508xw.jpg http://img240.exs.cx/img240/6384/455mu.jpg http://img229.exs.cx/img229/9497/499df.jpg http://img139.exs.cx/img139/9725/482pz.jpg Once again, it's your responsibility to keep track of where your arousal is going, and to stop her when you begin to feel you are approaching the moment of ejaculatory inevitability. http://img139.exs.cx/img139/2803/525cf.jpg http://img140.exs.cx/img140/8495/537sz.jpg http://img139.exs.cx/img139/47/541ac.jpg http://img12.exs.cx/img12/5171/557rc.jpg Once again, lie still and don't tense your muscles. The lubrication, and the more intense stimulation it produces, will teach you a further level of control. If you begin to lose your erection, then your arousal has probably declined a bit too much. http://img94.exs.cx/img94/5320/562ku.jpg http://img115.exs.cx/img115/922/472ms.jpg http://img240.exs.cx/img240/3857/460ko.jpg If you really feel yourself on the absolute edge of ejaculation, get up and walk around. This may stop the ejaculation and give you time to get your arousal level down. Wait a few minutes before you ask your partner to resume masturbating you. Over the course of a week or two, you will learn to tolerate higher levels of arousal without coming. The aim of the exercise then becomes to keep yourself near the point where you would have to ejaculate, but without doing so. For example, if on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 meant that you were going to come, then you would aim to keep yourself at 7 or 8. As your partner masturbates you, focus on your arousal level, and when you get to 6 or 7, tell her to ease off or slow down, so you can keep your level of arousal high without ejaculating. If you suddenly lose it and ejaculate, well, just put it down to experience and try again next time! After working on this with your partner - say 2 or 3 times a week for 4 weeks - you will find that you can more easily stay aroused without ejaculating. What's more, if you can stay aroused for 15 minutes or so before your partner brings you off, you'll find that the intensity of your orgasm is much greater and more intense when you do ejaculate! You need to make this more gradual approach to ejaculation a habit pattern, which is best done by practicing 3 times a week. When you practice over and over, it will become the normal response in your body - just as your quick ejaculation is your normal response right now. Coming Next - Step 3 thaivisitor Last edited by thaivisitor; 08-04-2005 at 02:14 AM. |
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After reading the step 2, actually this cum contro thing can "train" alone. I remember I read it somewhere, just mast until almost cumming, then stop. Repeat the process for 15mins daily for 2weeks to see result. Too bad me got no discipline, me always ended up a "never return" situation! |
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Step 3
Next, you can enhance steps 1 and 2 by sliding your penis along the lips of her vulva without entering her. This must be fun and relaxed, so don't put pressure on yourselves and make it a strain. Just enjoy the whole thing. Start with the kissing, cuddling and caressing which by now will be familiar to you. Satisfy your partner if that's what you both want. Then, turn your attention to your penis! You begin, as always, by lying on your back, with a good erection. Your partner will use lots of slippery lube and then climb over you as if you were going to make love in the "woman on top" position. Instead of you putting your penis in her vagina, though, she will slide your penis back and forth between the lips of her vulva. You don't move. Yes - that's right: no thrusting, no hip movements, nothing. You literally lie back and enjoy it. And you keep your eyes shut and your hands off your partner, so that you can better concentrate on how you are feeling. This will all be very exciting and no doubt you'll feel your arousal going up. But you're learning to keep your arousal under control, so you need to monitor how excited you are, stop her moving, and ask her to lift her vulva off your penis, when you feel you are approaching the moment of ejaculatory inevitability. Once again - be a man! Don't slip into the all-too-easy place where you think, "Oh, it's alright, just this once. I'll be able to get control back next time." That's not the point! Your self-discipline here is important to make the whole process work. When she stops, rest for as long as necessary to reduce your arousal level to the point where she can safely get back on your penis and slide her vulva along it again. You don't really want to lose your erection, just to rest for long enough so that your arousal goes down somewhat and you don't ejaculate. Repeat this whole stop-start sequence 5 or 6 times, and then continue to orgasm. Enjoy it! You're going to do this for three weeks, and with each week that passes, you can introduce more stimulation into the routine. So, in the second week, open your eyes and put your hands lightly on your partner's hips. This will add to your arousal, but by now you will have greater control, so you will still be able to stop your partner moving in time to prevent your ejaculation. If you want, as you approach the point of ejaculatory inevitability, close your eyes and take your hands off your partner. This may lower your arousal and help you concentrate on telling her when to stop. In the third week, keep your eyes open and touch her body. Fantasize a bit if you want. At this point you are aiming to keep her sitting on you with your penis between her vulvae lips when she stops moving. The idea now is for you to develop more sophisticated control, so that you can stop yourself ejaculating while you are still receiving some stimulation. At first this stimulation will be the warmth and wetness of your partner's vulva resting on your penis. But as you develop your self-control, you will find that you can control your arousal so well that you don't want to ejaculate even while she continues to move slowly and gently on you. But all the time, you need to keep your awareness of your arousal, and monitor where you are on the road to ejaculation. Coming Next - Step 4 thaivisitor |
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bro tv,thumbs up to u for providing tis informative article...salute u...cheers....
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Guys, do rate this thread to give me an idea how it is being received by bros.
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Bro,
What do I do if I'm lasting too long? :P Quote:
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Step 4 - Vaginal Intercourse
The light at the end of the tunnel is in sight - vaginal intercourse. Prolonged vaginal intercourse at that (or longer, at least). Imagine it - not shooting your load the minute you enter her! OK, so what do you do? Start, as always, with sexual caresses and gentle play. Satisfy your partner if she wants it - and at the point where you are ready to take the plunge, so to speak, lie on your back. You're going to have sex with your partner on top while you lie on your back. You can put your penis at the entry to her vagina or just inside it, and see what that feels like. If you feel like coming, ease off or away until the sensation passes. Remember the idea is to maintain your level of arousal for as long as you choose without coming. Your partner must be wet so you can get into her easily. If she's not aroused enough, go back to some sex play that gets her lubricating freely. When you're sure you're in control of your arousal, with your partner on top, put your penis inside her vagina and rest there without moving. http://img207.exs.cx/img207/6065/576tk.jpg http://img207.exs.cx/img207/4504/588ck.jpg http://img207.exs.cx/img207/7918/595rv.jpg http://img207.exs.cx/img207/3215/618vc.jpg Think about how it feels. If everything has gone well, you will be able to enjoy this most wonderful feeling without coming. If, by some mischance, you do ejaculate the minute you're in her, it isn't a disaster. Don't get uptight and apologize or mentally beat yourself up!! Just enjoy the ejaculation, let yourself go fully into it, and make the most of it. Then, when things have calmed down, go back in your exercises to the point where you last had good control. Don't despair! Just work through it again, perhaps taking more time over the exercises before you ejaculate. If all goes well, and you are now in her and comfortably in control of your ejaculation, guide her up and down with your hands on her hips until you are comfortably aroused but not going to ejaculate. Keep it that way by adjusting the speed and depth of your partner's movements. Don't move yourself! http://img207.exs.cx/img207/916/624kg.jpg http://img207.exs.cx/img207/6964/631nh.jpg http://img207.exs.cx/img207/1482/645kg.jpg Stop her moving and rest if you get too close to coming. You can even take your penis out of her vagina and rest if you feel this to be more helpful in developing your self-control. http://img199.exs.cx/img199/1780/676qy.jpg http://img120.exs.cx/img120/5867/683td.jpg Resume when your arousal has decreased. http://img177.exs.cx/img177/8272/692ci.jpg http://img71.exs.cx/img71/7808/718sq.jpg http://img110.exs.cx/img110/1839/706vr.jpg Your desire to ejaculate will decrease at this point, and when it has done so, guide her into resuming her movements, once again pausing when you get near the point of ejaculatory inevitability. It is important that during the first three repetitions of this sequence you do not thrust. And it is probably obvious to you that the longer you both go on practicing this before you ejaculate, the more control you are developing. However, on the fourth repetition, let yourself go, focus on how it feels and thrust until you ejaculate. Enjoy! The crucial thing is that you try and focus on what you're feeling all the time, so that you know when you're about to ejaculate and can stop her moving before it happens. If you find your arousal increasing too much you can also close your eyes so you don't see your partner's breasts. And instead of enjoying any fantasy you may be having, at this stage think of your taxes instead, if it helps slow you down in the move towards orgasm! And of course if you're really having problems of self-control, you can stop your partner moving altogether and wait, resting inside her, until your arousal decreases and you're back in control. Coming Next - The last step thaivisitor |
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Anyway, cant wait for the final instalment ... Keep it coming fast and furious ...
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The Last Step
The last big step is for you to actually begin thrusting. Do this gently at first, so as to work out how aroused you get and how quickly you move towards orgasm. The essential point to remember is that you are in control: you can control the speed and depth of your thrusting to regulate your arousal .At some point you will find a balance between movement and arousal and you'll then be able to continue thrusting for as long as you want to without coming! http://img171.exs.cx/img171/87/724oo.jpg http://img171.exs.cx/img171/5880/730zq.jpg http://img87.exs.cx/img87/828/746dy.jpg CONGRATULATIONS! You have achieved your goal of being a longer lasting lover! Coming Next - Positions can help! thaivisitor |
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Positions can help!
Positions that restrict a man's ability to thrust are best for ejaculatory control. Start with the woman on top position. Tell her to stop moving when your arousal becomes too high. http://img91.exs.cx/img91/4480/753tf.jpg http://img164.exs.cx/img164/6486/766kz.jpg http://img177.exs.cx/img177/553/654mn.jpg http://img177.exs.cx/img177/9553/666lh.jpg After three or four sessions of lovemaking using this process, you could repeat the exercise in the side by side position for three or four sessions of lovemaking. http://img142.exs.cx/img142/8391/805cm.jpg http://img167.exs.cx/img167/8928/817md.jpg http://img167.exs.cx/img167/7267/843yo.jpg http://img167.exs.cx/img167/4166/867ea.jpg http://img167.exs.cx/img167/4061/830ek.jpg Lastly do it with the man on top, missionary position. http://img198.exs.cx/img198/2567/891iq.jpg http://img114.exs.cx/img114/681/878vm.jpg http://img114.exs.cx/img114/8199/902ka.jpg The whole sequence can be repeated as many times as you like until you're confident you can control your ejaculation - the point of the exercise being that you can get to a point where you can let go and come when you want. This may take from 2 to 10 weeks and sometimes a few months to get complete control. And above all remember to ask your partner what she wants each time you have had an orgasm. She may be happy just to see you happy, or she may want clitoral stimulation to orgasm. Talking with each other about expectations and what feels pleasurable means you don't have to second guess your partner. Telling each other what you like, what you want, and how to do it, means you will get more sexual confidence in all ways - not just relying on the penis-in -a vagina routine for sexual pleasure. Be adventurous! Practicing frequently is the single most effective thing you can do to continue to develop more effective control over when you have an orgasm. Remember, though, that sometimes you will just be too excited and you'll shoot quickly. When I started learning these techniques my girlfriend and I had the habit of starting our lovemaking by me bringing her off with oral sex. This got me so aroused I was desperately horny when I entered her after she'd had her orgasm. Needless to say, I lasted about two minutes! Now when we do the same thing, no matter how aroused I am after giving her oral sex, I can go on and on for as long as we choose - and she often has vaginal or G spot orgasms while I'm in her. This - as you can imagine - feels like a big change, and a great success! So don't dwell on your failures - don't apologize unduly, and don't punish yourself for them. Steady forward progress is what matters. Laugh and joke with your partner about the process - sex is meant to be fun, not a trial! Coming Next - Problems? thaivisitor |
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Problems?
One problem, of course, is boredom. The routine can be tedious, though this can be remedied simply by having a lovemaking session which is free of the exercises once a week. Another issue may be that your partner gets aroused and then frustrated if she doesn't get an orgasm. Fairly obviously, the answer here is that she can have an orgasm through masturbation or oral sex. Use a vibrator if necessary. For these exercises to work, you need to think only of your own arousal, your sexual feelings and the sensations in your body. It's counter-productive if your female partner distracts you by complaining about her lack of an orgasm, or indeed anything else. You need to be loving and respectful of each other and both committed to resolving your quick ejaculation. This will be easier and more likely if you're in a relationship where each of you takes pleasure from helping to resolve the other's challenges. I suppose that is stating the obvious, but still, there are many relationships where there is an underlying current of hostility or resentment which is not generally expressed, and which will find its expression in subverting exercises that need mutual co-operation. If you have a problem with these exercises because of some more fundamental issue about putting yourself in the hands of a woman, or she has an issue with "being your sex servant" (or some such expression), then you have an issue which I can't help you with, and you may want to get counseling or therapy to address these more basic insecurities. But let's look on the bright side - some men enjoy being passive in sex for the first time, having been brought up to believe that a man must always initiate and lead. In some cases, as the man gets better ejaculatory control, his female partner may experience profoundly negative reactions - these may include emotional conflicts or depression or anxiety - or she may sabotage the treatment, perhaps by expressing her boredom. This may be because the woman is insecure about her ability to keep her man, and she thinks his new-found sexual confidence may make him go off with another woman. In some cases, a man's quick ejaculation conceals the fact that the woman can't orgasm very easily. If she was blaming this on her man for ejaculating quickly, she may well not want her own difficulties exposed in this way. Any shift in the balance of power in a relationship - sexual or otherwise - can expose all kinds of unspoken conflicts and tensions. Coming Next - A few more comments on quick ejaculation thaivisitor |
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