foreign bride. china vs vietnam

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

Oh, I think I know your uncle. He is older by 15 and working in the wine industry. His Chinese wife is now working as an assistant manager selling cosmetic.

They have a 10+ child now, staying near Hub.

One thing I do not get is why of all places in China, Hainan has the most number of brides in SG.

Ten points if you know the answer!

Hmmm idk the uncle but I know why is hainan gal
So far feedback are good?

I know certain places of china gal are very shrewd can't touch one hahaha

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

no one hiew my question?

Ans sorry miss u out -.- old liao eye can't see clearly haha

[eddy72]

Originally Posted by eddy72

The answer: location? Near to sin, not really develop but catching up. Fast. + yours is three positive example. Vietnam, zero?

Aiya, answer u liao. Location.. N my uncle got one son, one gal. That y + yrs is three example..

[snooker]

Eddy, your age plays a part here + your salary too

My advice is to get the bride direct from source rather than agents...
If age gap too big/income too small then the chances of the bride 'running away' is very high

[queeniegal]

Originally Posted by snooker

Eddy, your age plays a part here + your salary too

My advice is to get the bride direct from source rather than agents...
If age gap too big/income too small then the chances of the bride 'running away' is very high

They also so choosy? No ba

[sane]

Originally Posted by Iluminati

wow ms. sane u from Hainan? no offense but your English is good and throw in the Singlish as well, I thought you were local Singaporean.

This is what we called "入乡随俗“ mah..

Originally Posted by wally888

None, better get Malaysian or Sg gals

Upz u when my pt is back

Originally Posted by queeniegal

Nope! I'm Singaporean but my mum is

Take hainan ba...my neighbour wife not bad

Ha I prefer go bkk then Taiwan! Cause with my mum will go to 金门 n relative will start asking why I'm nt married ha

Even I go Taiwan I go with my friends see my cousin I feel sian cause some are so pretty I'm far away from them haha

Yup support support Hainan..lols.. ur mummy fr 金门？ quite a distance, gotta take domestic flight in. So u like 金门贡糖 in 竹叶？ and also 高粱？
There are lotsa places of interest in Tw too, can go to cingjing, Hualian, Taichung, Kaoshiung mah...

Originally Posted by Iluminati

TS, well to answer your question, u have to look at the chemistry between u both as well. If u choose a China women then u can easily communicate with her. But if u choose a Vietnam women, there might be a language barrier problem.

Vietnam ladies english also good, my Viet buddies' english r very "tok kong" leh..

[littlepok]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

Oh, I think I know your uncle. He is older by 15 and working in the wine industry. His Chinese wife is now working as an assistant manager selling cosmetic.

They have a 10+ child now, staying near Hub.

One thing I do not get is why of all places in China, Hainan has the most number of brides in SG.

Ten points if you know the answer!

i try to earn 10 points ah...

because singaporeans like to eat chicken rice? haha...

on a side note, i know a girl from hainan who just convert PR, 26yrs old i think with D cup, pretty face too. but i dont click with her la so made her godsis.

1 thing i realised about hainan gals is their accent resembles malaysians alot, anyone got similar experience? i will mistaken them for malaysians if they never tell me. maybe got 亲切感 when they hear the accent.

that place also along the coast so the weather closer to ours also.

[eddy72]

Not sure y is hainan dao. Many would have thought china wifes could have come fm fujian, guangdong, guangxi or other coastal area. But hainan dao seems to occupy top spot. Maybe got bride agency, u know la, got saleman. Saleman brides come fm hainan dao, say it better than the rest.

[weewee23]

I am a Hainanese Singaporean (4th generation). My great-grandfather immigrated here when he was young. He was from Dingan while my maternal branch was from Qionghai. I am also rather proud of my dialect group and tries to speak as much Hainanese as possible.

It is interesting to note why MOST of the Chinese brides are from Hainan and not from Fujian, Guangdong where there is a much larger Hokkien, Teochew, Cantonese community.

When I went back to Hainan in 2008, I noticed that most of the Hainanese men will retire at about 40 years old and spent their time playing cards in teahouses while their wives (or womenfolk) continued to toil in the fields. That may offer a reason why Hainanese women are generally perceived to be hardworking, caring and thus there seems to be an influx of Hainanese women being married to Singaporean men.

If I have to choose between a Vietnamese or Hainanaese, I would choose an Hainanese anytime.

Just my 2 cents worth.

[eddy72]

Male hainanese so good life? After 40 can retire like a lion? I, 40 just start working. Properly. How? Then hainanese woman work until what age?

[weewee23]

I am refering to male hainanese in Hainan island. Singaporean Hainanese work till they die.

For hainanese women in Hainan, they generally take care of their family till they are old. Just like my maternal grandma.

[eddy72]

Ya, that what i mean. At hainan dao, live like a lion. At sg, live like a donkey.

[weewee23]

Originally Posted by eddy72

Ya, that what i mean. At hainan dao, live like a lion. At sg, live like a donkey.

haha, yah. In sg really live like a donkey.

[sgjoey]

In terms of cultural and linguistic affinity, especially if you speak Mandarin very well, then of cos, picking a Hainan lass means less obstacles to overcome.

That said, much depends on your personality as well as that of your future spouse. Whilst cultural closeness is an advantage, it could be nullified if the woman you choose turns out to be someone you cannot get along with in the longer term. That's the risk in all marriages, presumably.

If I were you, I wouldn't marry at all. But then, speaking as a married man, the grass always seem greener on the other side of the fence.

Good luck in your search for a life partner.

[japboy]

Originally Posted by asdfghjkl

One thing I do not get is why of all places in China, Hainan has the most number of brides in SG.

Ten points if you know the answer!

Yup... Dis is one thing I really noticed... & oso d fact dat most marriages does not occur thru dating agencies....

But one of my frenz recently pointed out another thing... Dat most hainanese still keep contacts w relatives in china or elsewhere unlike d rest of d dialect grps who has lost touch w their counterparts elsewhere over d yrs......

First, i think Bonding r very strong n I guess even after grand parents has passed on, d strong kampung spirit & bonding is inherited... Compared to other dialect grps, bonding & linkage is lost after grand parents has passed on..

Secondly, d dialect hainanese in sg is not so diff frm hainanaese in china or elsewhere so ease of communication in own dialect breeds familiarity & homecoming feeling.... In comparison, other dialect grps differs greatly in sg & elsewhere, eg our hokkien is very close to Taiwan but china hokkien, he'll, I can't even understand wad d he'll they're talking...

Thirdly, d link-up play from both sides plays a very impt part as well... I've heard of many elderly hainanese Sillyporeans retiring in hainan dao n hence they will start to intro distant relatives bk to sillypore.... "Surely got a 4th nephew's BiL is not married, here got ah Kim's neighbor's 2th SIL of marriage age, intro ba".... N oso w all d three-eight aunties intro here & there, n oso sista married here n intro own younger sista here, blah blah blah.... Viet oso do dis a lot but mostly fails because of language barrier (I attended weddings w Vietnam brides n once I sit down, d Vietnam gals (of cos w their own husbands) dining same table w me will say intro me their cousins o wateva).....

Last, (no offense) hainanaese in Sg generally treats relatives frm elsewhere like family, no air or anything, as long as we r family..... Of cos I've heard horror & sad stories w/in d hainanese community, but dis is far fewer than I've heard frm others..... so hainanese who r here feels safer to intro their own sista o relative to guys in sg... i Know of many prc who complained abt all dis n eventually went back china, never coming bk here (shame as 1 is a gd bonk w gd figure.. Got married in china & became Aunty liaoz... Heng ar!)...

all dis creates a strong link-up play and hence lead to the number one spot....

I guess hainanese are like Malaysians but a mini-china version...

I m proud to say i m a third gen hainanese sillyporean & I speak fluent hainanese... n I m still happi 2 meet any fella hainanese, be it in sg o elsewhere.. Lolx...

Ps bro, I think u can't add me thru 2yrs later.. ;p