Will you marry KTV whore if you love her ?

[smartke]

Originally Posted by alan0338

hehehe, u can tahan so long or not first

actually no need to ask one la....go ahead and marry la, u love her, she love u ma

if it's me, honestly, dun think i can tahan so long lor...

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

Wow! Bro alan0338, no wonder you are 1 of my best bro.

Same same thinking!!!

Btw, your postings on the Changi prison thread were very good and insightful. I am glad you are ok now and still 一条好汉 !!!

tis is wat i called 英雄所见略同. lolx...

[justl00king]

Marry her, no way!

But keep her as FB can.

[Regency]

Originally Posted by Big Foot

For you... will you accept she still carry on working in KTV after marrying to you

Well if u mind so much abt her working in ktv after marriage. R u really certain in future after marrying her u wun mind her past as a ktv ger? Strange!


Just my 2cts worth....

[kysh]

Originally Posted by Big Foot

hi, I fall in love with a KTV girl working in Singapore...

Lately she said she also love me wanted to marry me for a PR status here because she want stay in Singapore long term & work in KTV without worry. In addition, she promised me that she won't be a burden to me (asking me for $).

Bros, can you guys accept this type of arrangement ?

Your love for her is short term, trust me.

She want to stay in S'pore to earn easy money, that her priority. You are just the tool for her. She may still treat you and "love" you after marriage but eventually still will go separate way.

Just enjoy good sex with her. If you marry her, you will regret big time!!!

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by Big Foot

Bros, can you guys accept this type of arrangement ?

We must give credit to this KTV whore for being so honest with TS
Most others will hide all these intentions under the hood when hooking up the guy for marriage/PR.

To me, this is not a case of KC trap, but just a batter trade between TS and the KTV whore with EYES OPEN.

TS, if you can't get "love" elsewhere, and rather/can afford to pay for "love", it's your money and life

[hoosdathu]

yo TS, if u don't mind her running away once she found someone rich enough to bao her, go ahead marry her, be the white knight.

yeah, u r a good guy! (if that's what u wanted to solicit from us )

ok lah, on a more serious note, it's ur life.
read my 1st sentence again. if u'r prepared for the consequences, do whatever u like.
we can give all the advice or opinions u wanna hear, but in the end it's still up to u...

[flirt king]

Originally Posted by Big Foot

hi, I fall in love with a KTV girl working in Singapore. She admitted to meThen I offered to give her $1,500 a month to support her parents but she said that is not enough because she herself has eat, spend and travelling expenses too.

$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$).

Bros, can you guys accept this type of arrangement ?

If my name is Robert I sure go ahead ,but too bad "name Robert not too much but still some guys ,they use to go nightclub not enjoy but get marry .....

Temple is Temple for monk ,Black Temple is for Devil ....

[buay_tahan]

Hi TS,

Yours is definitely NOT love, but simple lust. Ya, you find her attractive and there have been some "deep" sharing between the two of you. But stop and look at the situation. Very few people in China needs more than $1500 to stay afloat. With that kind of money each month, her parents can go for holidays every half a year!

Hey, why settle for this one WL, when there are so many WLs out there? One brother said that with $1500, you can have 10-15 WLs a month! I wish I could part with that kind of money each month so I can have 10-15 WLs! Of course my CO will probably castrate me if I keep going out at nights.

So, brother. She's just playing on your softness and your pity. If we want to go out and cheong, we must remember that they are for bonking, not loving.

[hardcoremayhem]

Originally Posted by Big Foot

I trying hard now.. give me one month as I won't contact her see how she respond

Well bro, its good to see that at least theres some kind of cooling off and you're thinking on what the fellow bros here have said. Have you spoken to your close friends or fellow chiongsters about it? Nothing like those face to face kopitiam talks and getting a bro's perspective.

Honestly speaking, the marriage arrangement seems a bit bizarre to me. You are a young man (i assume) with a future in front of him, what with the honours degree and all.

Have you fully considered the ramifications of your choice to marry her?
Here is a list of juicy complications to consider.

1. If she changes her mind, or meets someone else, your life will be turned UPSIDE DOWN because she can divorce you, put a claim on your assets, ask for maintenance, etc One of my friends who is in his mid 30s just went through a divorce and his backside is getting torn apart by the maintenance. Every mth, pay 30% of salary to woman, 20% cpf... got shit left for sustenance and feels like life has no meaning and wants to commit suicide every other night.

2. Many a man has a desire to be that Knight in shining armour. Maybe you need to accept that it will not be you, because your pockets are not deep enough. You cannot pao her completely because she says she is still gonna work KTV. That in my book makes no sense. One of the main reasons for mariage is supposed to be exclusivity. If a woman cannot promise you exclusivity, then she is only a short-term fuck. Just as a normal guy canot stand GF two-timing them or ONS behind their back, what more if its a wife?

3. You mentioned that her going for short time etc hurt you. That is A BIG SIGN in my opinion. Cut your losses. Maybe you feel you have something real with her, or maybe you spent a lot of your $ or savings (happened to my friend with GRO, spend too much $$ and cld not be convinced to turn back)
Thats nothing compared to your future, bro! The pain/hurt that you feel is a clear sign that you cannot accept her bonking other guys, which is NORMAL. in which case don't complicate your life. If you marry her, in the future, you may suspect her of ONS or FLing because of her past history, whether true or not. If true, then you'll suffer even more emotional damage because you'll ask yourself why you ignored the writing on the wall.

4. Singapore is a SMALL country. I have had friends who ran into colleagues while FLing and HCing. Have you considered the fact that if she becomes your wife, you may have to appear at social events with her, or that people will see her pictures? How are you going to live down the social stigma and embarassment if word gets out to your social circles or workplace that your wife is a PRC working in KTV? Or better yet, what if someone you know has short-timed her??? That is something you may never live down. Can your family bear such shame also?

5. By whoring after mariage she places you in danger of various STDs that she may pick up from customers! Alright, she may not do raw but we know that condoms break and customers just pretend donno and finish by shooting inside as some FLs tell me. And if she gives customers BBBJ (or even if she doesn't theres still a risk only smaller) then you stand to get free herpes, chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphillis among others!

6. Its good that the rational part of your brain is still functioning. Try to focus on the cold hard logic and it will help you snap back to reality. Sure, it sounds nice, she doesn't want to be a burden to you blah blah blah. Bro, she is a prostitute telling you that she is going to continue being a prostitute after marriage. Pardon me, but doesn't that make you an unpaid pimp? IF she does loves you, she will quit for good and make a new life with you. Have you heard of those FLs that went mainstream? They cut off all contact with ex-customers and the world that they left. People always have a choice, bro. Her parents are an excuse/flawed justification for her continued whoring ways. Have you spoken to her parents face to face and asked them how they feel about their daughter doing short-time to pay their medical bills?

7. Sure, many SG gals have terrible attitudes and marriage here is a dodgy proposition. But it doesn't mean we swing to the other extreme and embrace the first FL to sweet talk us. Some Sinkie guys have been trodden upon by SG girls so often that we jump at the first non-SG girl to give us emotional comfort.
If you manage to get your act together, theres a whole wide world out there waiting for you. Don't let this KTV whore derail your life, man.

TS, I wish you all the best and keeping my fingers crossed for you, Bro.

[Big Foot]

Thanks bro hardcore & other bros that given me good advice. Let me reply all in one post.

I read bro hardcore 7 pointers & very appreciated it. First let me share more. I did have a SG gf for past 2 years and we did not ROM because I cannot meet her high demanding expectation & also she don't want to have kids after marriage. My SG gf did not treat me & respect me like her bf.

In my boring & emptiness I met this KTV girl, of course I paid her for sex. Doggie, reversed cowgirl & 69 we did almost everything on weekly basis. I definitely not rich to bao her like giving her $5,000 a month only can afford to give her $1,500 monthly. Unlike some Tianamen KTV girls did received fat monthly allowance from their sugar daddies.

Yesterday she told me if her work permit expire soon. She need $10,000 to make a singer pass on top of that need to pay monthly levies of $800 to agent. That make me think that why a Singapore Permanent Resident is so important to her... meaning that save her a lot money (paying agent fee) & hassle (entering thru SG custom)


I would think it time for me to cut my losses further by spending too much on KTV stuff & on her. Also wasting my time

on the flipside..she did fulfilled something that my SG gf cannot give at all

[MoralEpitome]

Hmmm I hardly wander into Affairs of the Heart but since I am temporally retire from ktv and on leave now...I should make giving advice on SammyBoy my full time job....hopefully he will pay me to be his moderator one day....

Before we criticize TS, we have to note that 3rd party perceptive is always much clearer and it is completely different when you are the party involved...I myself despite my strict discipline and control had ever fell in love once with a prc girl...I thought she is different and very talented and very smart...and well she is....she came from a wealthy family but fell on harder times because her dad was cheated of money...she actually studied artistry in one of the uni in China and can sing and play musical instruments rather well....i was just mesmerized by her talent and maturity of thought and she was one of the most hardworking singers I met as she would keep me company during HH everyday whereas other singers only punch card at 830pm....now I am attached to a SG girl and despite her faults such as her unloving nature and not being a back and call sex partner and our quarrels....I have come to accept it as I still believe deep down she loved me if not she would not be with me for the past 3 years as with her standard it should not be so difficult to find another bf....we have to understand that a local girl and a working girl is entirely different...after all she is doing a proper job and is earning her own keep in a proper way so definitely we cannot expect the kind of attitude from a prc who is working her way into your heart because of money.... it's more about give and take in such relationships and we cannot expect the kind of service we get from WLs...for example sex from the experienced HC APs can be mind blowing which unfortunately not every gf or wife can give....

So coming back to the issue, if your ktv girl wants to marry you because she loves you and is willing to quit the ktv scene to get married with you by all means go ahead...she must be willing to accept all terms offered by you such as the allowance of $1500 etc... now for a ktv girl...she can easily earn about $6000 a month working....some earns $8000 to $10000.....would she be willing to accept your offer? The fact that she doesn't seem to is plain to see that she is unwilling to give up that kind of life yet....there are some girls who would not ST but since you girl is willing to, money is still the overall consideration for her so unless you are a rich man and is willing to bao her for $6000 a month, I figure there will be no fairytale ending to it....I suggest you turn yourself into a alpha male first with the ability to bao girls for $6000 to $10000 a month before falling in love with these prc chicks if not be a cheapo like me and just go for HH and tip $30 to $50 at a time...

[Big Foot]

Putting KTV whore aside.

Guys.. do you all think giving your wife (SG or PRC) monthly allowance of $1500 is enough assuming she will be a housewife &
living in Singapore standard

[MoralEpitome]

Originally Posted by Big Foot

Putting KTV whore aside.

Guys.. do you all think giving your wife (SG or PRC) monthly allowance of $1500 is enough assuming she will be a housewife &
living in Singapore standard

it depends on yourself...why some malay family can survive on 1000 a month with 3 kids and why some cannot survive even with 3000 is a question of how you allocate your resources....I don't not know whether to scold you or counsel you to make you wake up!

[Big Foot]

Originally Posted by MoralEpitome

it depends on yourself...why some malay family can survive on 1000 a month with 3 kids and why some cannot survive even with 3000 is a question of how you allocate your resources....I don't not know whether to scold you or counsel you to make you wake up!

My ex-SG gf who earn $5,500 a month also asked me to give her monthly allowance if we married

[kick_ass]

Originally Posted by Big Foot

Yesterday she told me if her work permit expire soon. She need $10,000 to make a singer pass on top of that need to pay monthly levies of $800 to agent. That make me think that why a Singapore Permanent Resident is so important to her... meaning that save her a lot money (paying agent fee) & hassle (entering thru SG custom)


I would think it time for me to cut my losses further by spending too much on KTV stuff & on her. Also wasting my time

on the flipside..she did fulfilled something that my SG gf cannot give at all

bro based on what she say, u better be careful. based on what i know & hear there isnt any singer permit during this period.
u better check otherwise u can say bye bye to the 10k