Sad Man

[Panamera]

Bro T.S, like I said in above post. Your heart will most likely to U-Turn when she call you...and all will be forgiven..

You are longing for her to call you back actually!!! It's your ego that is hurt, not your heart, it seems...

Think it be a lost cause for all the bros who have posted here....Sad..sad...

[NewandLost]

Guys its all good. You guys saved me from falling. Whether she is ex KTV or not, no woman that plays this kind of game deserves anything from me. It doesnt even sync with normal relationship or friendship behavior. Thing is I actually meet a lot of normal gals but still thought of the ex. Crazy. The "relationship" with this girl was very different from my past relationships in that with the others there were no money problems in play at all. Boy meets girl, boy dates girl, boy either chooses to marry girl or they breakup. Intents and desired outcomes were all well understood. IF either or both no longer wanted the outcome, the parting may have been tough but it was amicable and friendly and well understood. No mind games with culture as veil for lies, deception, etc.

The stories of people going bankrupt and suicide from the final knowledge of betrayal from this kind of thing are enough of a warning. I feel sad when I read those stories that you guys shared on this board.

My contribution to this board is my case. I hope those who read it learn and excercise a lot of caution even outside the realm of KTVs etc. IF a woman you meet wants to upgrade any facet for her lifestyle or material wealth while she is dating you then IMO its a weak cause for you to continue and the motivation is more greed than love. Yes you might get burned through divorce and lose a lot if the upgrade is after a union but at least she proved to you she would stick with you. One can argue PRC gals have different cultural values but even if that is the case, is it something you can live with? They live with men outnumbering women and where the woman wants to get the best financial deal possible. But you dont need to step into that game at all. In fact she should feel lucky you accept her into your life. If you two cannot meet each other half way on that aspect with total understanding then I would say the outcome will be very bad.

[NewandLost]

Originally Posted by Panamera

Bro T.S, like I said in above post. Your heart will most likely to U-Turn when she call you...and all will be forgiven..

You are longing for her to call you back actually!!! It's your ego that is hurt, not your heart, it seems...

Think it be a lost cause for all the bros who have posted here....Sad..sad...

There wont be a U turn. I wait a few weeks then flush my SIM card down the toilet.

[BKnight]

Originally Posted by NewandLost

There wont be a U turn. I wait a few weeks then flush my SIM card down the toilet.

Bro, why wait few weeks? Still hoping....If within these few weeks, she call you, then how leh?

Anyway, Good luck and hope everything goes well with you!

[Peugeot]

BRO!! be a man lah.. Move on.. after you bonk a fine gal, you will forget all unhappiness.

[_AXL_]

Originally Posted by NewandLost

There wont be a U turn. I wait a few weeks then flush my SIM card down the toilet.

yes, why wait for a few weeks??? flush it down now... and dont give her your new number. but i suspect that she knows where u live and she still has the ability to locate u. so, u have to be strong. when she comes back crawling, u have to steel your heart to reject her. do not allow her to come into the house if she turns up at your place.

cos i suspect u like familarity. once she hugs and kisses u the way u liked and missed, all your blood will go to your small head and give in to temptation. in order to get over her, u have to buck up, get pro-active, go out to make more new friends. if u cant find a nice girl on your own, more often than not, friends would be able to. most importantly, put yourself out there and get over the "laziness" of having her around.

u have been with this girl for a long time, thus it is understandable that u would miss her for quite a while. but, dont brood. go out there and enjoy your newfound freedom, and i suspect, u would suddenly find that u have a lot more money to spend now, now that u dont have to contribute to the bottomless pit. go spend it, pamper yourself, ya?

as for the CNY thingy, it is so expected, my friend. most single cheongsters here would know that such women would be very free during holiday periods, especially extended holiday periods. why??? cos their sugar daddies all have family commitments and thus unable to accompany them. that is why she called u then... cos her present ATMs r unavailable. do u want to be a substitute??? even if she loves u, she would only look for u when she (on the rare occasions) need some real tender and true loving... do u want to be that person???

if u do, my condolences to u then. otherwise, i would actually like to congratulate u for being able to escape from hell, relatively unscathed. nothing to be sad about. money can always earn back. treat it as a lesson learnt, but i do hope that this episode does not put u off love. there is still women out there worth your total trust and unconditional love. u just have to open your eyes wide next time.

take care. cheers.

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by Panamera

You are longing for her to call you back actually!!! It's your ego that is hurt, not your heart, it seems...

Think it be a lost cause for all the bros who have posted here....Sad..sad...

Originally Posted by NewandLost

There wont be a U turn. I wait a few weeks then flush my SIM card down the toilet.

so zhun sia bro Panamera.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Classic case of 放不下
Thus the door is still opened to be FUBAR again

[deviltan]

If unto test whether she really likes u or just making use of u.
Simple lar! Just call her & sweet talk abit then tell her that u strike 4D 1st prize/6 numbers in TOTO or BIG SWEEP.
Tell her u got $$$ to buy anything for her.
MAYBE aft hearing this. She immd CRAWL back to u.
Then u will noe the answer liao!
Maybe not immd but will cho pattern that she still love u & etc.................

[fanaticd]

Let it go. what do you really like in her?
Why hold on to a blade of grass where you can have the whole f**king jungle.

if looks wise attract you, i suggest that you should take a trip to china and camp there for a few months. the better ones are all back in china. not all are like her as her main intention is always money and many prcs are been led astray by their girlfriends in singapore. always taking singapore man as roberts

there are still nice prcs out there in CHINA but not so many in SG (hehe... happen to know a few)

So don't feel sad anymore, let if go and move on. what done is done, just that you need to cut the blood supply off the leeches.

Oh! remember, if she say she loves you and blah blah blah, don't really believe, if you are unsure whether she got a BF or whatever, pay some money to hire a private detective, you will get the truth from there
Take care!

[NewandLost]

yes i got weak and tried callng her this weekend. gave benefit of the doubt. i also have some other problems and was looking on someone to lean on and stated so. no response refused to answer. what a heartless b tch. through all the help i gave this woman i get dead silence. removes all benefit of the doubt. removes all view of who and what she really was. nothing but a leech and gold digging PRC whore is how i view it. i feel lucky as f ck to be rid of her now. moving forward. when you hit bottom there is only one way but up and im free of the devil. thanks folks. just had to vent.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

yes i got weak and tried calling her this weekend. gave benefit of the doubt.
This is so expected, as many bros including me have already forewarned

i also have some other problems and was looking on someone to lean on and stated so.
Look between your legs...wat do you see besides that shaft of yours????? LumPah rite? Got? If so, why you need to lean on anyone?????? Be a man and stand up on your own 2 feet to brave the storm or storms......Problems...who dun have problems???????
Remember this, 什么都是死的，人是活的！
Everything have a solution, its how you wanna handle it only.
You can:
1) SOB SOB and hug someone to cry your probs out but you LL still gotta face it
Or
2) Think of how to resolve your probs.......

Eitherway, you gotta face it....that's called life!


no response refused to answer. what a heartless b tch. through all the help i gave this woman i get dead silence. removes all benefit of the doubt. removes all view of who and what she really was. nothing but a leech and gold digging PRC whore is how i view it.
What you expect her to do? Answer and say miss you, love you, want you back, cannot live without you????
Oh pls, there was never anything to give a benefit of a doubt at all in the first place, everything is so crystal clear, you just cannot let go cos you felt you invested $$$$$ and you cannot accept the truth of this revelation!

i feel lucky as f ck to be rid of her now. moving forward. when you hit bottom there is only one way but up and im free of the devil.
The devil is not her, the devil is within you, thus u keep falling from being AWAKENED and decide to be in darkness treating it as light

thanks folks. just had to vent.
There was nothing to vent!
If i were you, i'd bang my head on the wall and see if i bleed
If i do, good there is hope
If i dun, then i'll know i'm already DEAD!

[Panamera]

Bro NewandLost,

1 question: Are you of sound mind or a Nut job with spilt-personality?

Please re-read all your postings in this thread since you are thread starter.

You contradicted yourselves OVER and OVER again...

Whenever you were dispressed or rejected, you came back to this thread to find solace for Self-Comfort, Self-Console and Self-Cheer.

Sometimes you are T.S, sometimes you seems like toking to yourselves in a mirror, sometimes you seems like toking from an outsider point of view advising T.S (Which is YOURSELVES!!) and in other thread, you are a different person all together!!... so confusing....

Who are you now? Bro New? Bro And? Bro Lost? or Bro NewandLost?

Please go make an appointment with a Shrink before you do something harmful to yourselves or your gal, you got my drift?

[Gaofar]

Originally Posted by Panamera

Who are you now? Bro New? Bro And? Bro Lost? or Bro NewandLost?

Hahaha! Sounds to me that as of now it's Bro Lost...

Irregardless bro NAL (I've shorten it for you, see how cool?), I can understand as you've mentioned that you need closure or a listening ear (or ears in this case..) to your situation.. But do take heed that with you coming forth here and post your story, inevitably bros here will want to help you with suggestions and solutions to get you out of this problem of yours.. That said, it is because of the help rendered to you, yet you kept posting updates of your situations quite differently of how bros here advised you on, thus setting off some remarks that makes people thinks that you are an "egg-head with multi-persona"..

Put it in this way, words from bros here are well-meaning. It is not necessary to keep us updated in this way to let us know what are your current course of actions in "real-time".. Some things are better left not being written down for all to see. Just need to express your gratitude is good enough.

Cheers!

[Panamera]

Bro Gaofar, well-said.

How have you been? Haven't see you here lately...