How long did you not have sex with your wife or gf?

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by mscucky

if divorce, not ez. quite hard to face frens and relatives. everyone will b sad nia...probably if too sad..heart too sad, juz run to overseas n start a new life...

Actually depends on how you want to see it, frens and relatives how often do you see them, are you answerable to them but if for the sake of this reason then you prefer not to divorce and face someone that you have lost all feelings and love for the rest of your life, life will be very miserable..

Just wondering, how many of us would marry our wife if given another chance? I mean, if magically we gan go back in time, will you say "I do"?

[spidey82]

Originally Posted by jemz

nice to see some ladies commenting...


i see alot of bros complaiing the wife sian of sex.

for me... i donno whats wrong, im not ugly nor fat. frm this forum, i know either i initiate, be more exciting or one day i will lose my husband. so i will ask him very often, but he always will watch dvd until damn late, i wait for him until i sian also. we married less than a month only.

i want, but he like ai mai ai mai like that. or during the day i tease him, build up the anticipation until at night, den he will go and watch dvd. i like.. sit there and just . maybe i marry the wrong guy. before we got married he not like that one. i think also only a matter of time before i go out and find a partner or work as FL to earn income and to satisfy my own needs also if he continue like that. haix....

PM me if u got the need. more choice.

[spidey82]

Originally Posted by ToxicQueen

well, after reading all the comments... i felt quite truthful... i had a bf which we had been together for 2 yrs plus. we had sex almost every day when we 1st start dating. as times goes by, we reduced to 1 week 2-3 times.. i still miss sex with him n i think of all the sex partners i had (not more lah, around 5 only), he's the one who can sexify me. but in the end, he 'eat' outside. in the end, we broke off cos i really can't take it cos i can't accept. why i can give him (i mean i can sexify him well too) n yet he still sex with tat gal.. WTF... Damn hurting. been 4 mths since we broke off. till now i still miss him... i mean miss sex with him. lol... so i think sex is a must to carry on couple life but not always... cos thou u can sexify him but he still can eat outside. full of craps..... now is to enjoy as much as i like.
So back to the topic, i've been a virgin for 4 mths already.
lol

so what u mean by that?

[asdfghjkl]

quite shock to know that!

[BustLover]

Originally Posted by xilverzap

Hi All

My story is quite simple. I am married for 10 years now. Same as many guys here, wife does not enjoy sex at all. Total number of times we do it can actually be counted with my ten fingers. Yes. That little. I guess some girls just dont like it. I get my release from commercial side though, and actively so, I dont feel the stress of not having enough sex.

She is a good wife though. But I am not a good husband. I have my flings outside and by now I am not too bothered even if she has someone else outside or not. Some how the feeling has become numbed. We seldom communicate because we work and do not spend much time together and after been like this for so long, we just dont bother to actually make a point to spend some time together.

And then, a day came, she asked me. Are you having an affair outside? I got so tired from all these hiding, I said YES. Tears flowed for days thereafter from her. But she still cared. Like said. I am not a good man. I told her perhaps it is better that we go seperate ways. She refused. After all we have been married for 10 years. I am now seeing someone new though. Wether or not, this someone new works out, it does not change a thing in what I want. I want to be free again I guess. I know I might be stupid to let go all I have and start all over. But I think I am only being selfish and only want to persue what I want in the end not caring about my wife anymore. I think I might have felt better if she threw her temper at me and kick me out of the house, which i think i deserve.

Well, just writing to release some hot air in head. Hope this does not offend anyone here.

Actually, most women will get very upset when they come to know that their men are eating outside. But if you assure them that it is purely a FUCK & FORGET type with no string attached, they MAY still accept it.

To them, when they love someone, it seems to stay forever, provided the other party can find means to revive the good old days.

I may be wrong. Think the sisters here can comment...

[mscucky]

Originally Posted by BustLover

Actually, most women will get very upset when they come to know that their men are eating outside. But if you assure them that it is purely a FUCK & FORGET type with no string attached, they MAY still accept it.

To them, when they love someone, it seems to stay forever, provided the other party can find means to revive the good old days.

I may be wrong. Think the sisters here can comment...

hi guys,


very hard to say... there will be two types of woman. a fighter and a loser. depends wat wife u have. whether fierce or a giver........

for brudders with affair,

some women will fight and fight to chase off the other woman from his man. this woman may confront the other woman to leave her man ( lol just like those dramas with all the ah sohs to confront the third party).


another type of woman , will be the soft hearted ones or the generous ones that is to give blessing and her leaving him to be with the other party simply coz triangle it's too crowded and one suffer better than three.....usually this girl will suffer alot coz quite painful and she will runa way to start a new.... ha ha just like the dramas...

anyway it's a very sad story to see such an ending... if i am a man, i won't want my girl to be in pain.....do not treat wat u wish not to be treated.....


Tao chiak? how will ur wife react? it's the same... either forgive or can't accept...

the wife may be generous but i m sure deep inside her heart, it's painful for her to see her man 'eating out'


i would say the pain will be there. if the love is very deep, she will forgive...

but i m not sure if ur wife can accept if u sleep with other girls repeatedly and see no days and nites....

[john99]

Just some passing comments. For a successful executive or own business, you have to entertain sometimes. Occasionally, you will come across important clients who want that 'sort of fun'. Invariably the group will end in some high end KTV,. Of course gals will come & sit with you etc...

For me, it all ends right there at thre KTV, no ta pao and that sort of thing. If my client wants it I will arrange for them and pay for them if their business with me is important. I am not encouraging 'sex outside; but some men cannot help themselves with all these SYTs. If you don't entertain them, you may lose the business to some othe competitor who is willing to party with them.

Of course I don't party every week with my clients but I can imagine the scenario where some of my clients are not 'getting it at home' & therefore looking forward to going out with suppliers for fun.

So it is a balance between what you must do to make $$ to maintain yr lifestyle and your responsibilities as a husband to yr wife. Most Singaporean women shld understand this as the business world is not as 'squecky clean' as you think.

[Frankiestine]

A wise man once said:
"For a marriage to be successful, the wife must be half blind and the husband half deaf"....

[jaclyn]

Originally Posted by BustLover

Actually, most women will get very upset when they come to know that their men are eating outside. But if you assure them that it is purely a FUCK & FORGET type with no string attached, they MAY still accept it.

To them, when they love someone, it seems to stay forever, provided the other party can find means to revive the good old days.

I may be wrong. Think the sisters here can comment...

well... for me i dun think i can take it lor... if i find out that my husband is eating out... that will be the end of the marriage... dun think i can share the man i love with another woman...

Sighs... lustmeimei was active in the first year of pator but after that the excitement died down. my bf sometimes says he's tired and sometimes say no urge.. so the sessions died down...

it slowly became like once every 3 months... and also i am always the one asking for it..

then just last month lustmeimei found out that he had been visiting porno sites and masturbating as frequent as monthly.. why?? sick and tired of me?

seniors, pls shed some advice to meimei..

[mscucky]

[QUOTE=john99]
For me, it all ends right there at thre KTV, no ta pao and that sort of thing. If my client wants it I will arrange for them and pay for them if their business with me is important. I am not encouraging 'sex outside; but some men cannot help themselves with all these SYTs. If you don't entertain them, you may lose the business to some othe competitor who is willing to party with them.


QUOTE]


john,

to be able to be resilient to these all forces n attractions, it's not easy as it requires alot of strong mind, will power and dicipline. if the guys can control things,yes they will refrain from eating out. not many guys are like u, knowing wat u want and how it should be controlled.

i was in the sales n services industry where alot of social grounding needed.

i agreed totally that alot of entertainment needed to get biz and to build rapport.

mscucky

[mscucky]

Originally Posted by jaclyn

well... for me i dun think i can take it lor... if i find out that is eating out... that will be the end of the marriage... dun think i can share the man i love with another woman...

can't accept coz it's a deep pain and a form of betrayal. secondly more on health reasons...


just read dis from website. quite sad ....

those who cheong, be careful and hv protection. pls love urself n practise safe sex.

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quote :

http://www.thestar.com.my/news/story...929&sec=nation


- extract from the above link....


AN HIV-positive man whose wife walked out on him on discovering that she had contracted the virus from him is begging her to come home.

In a letter to China Press, the man, who calls himself Ah Tee, said he used the services of call girls on business trips to China and believed he picked up the disease from the prostitutes.

The businessman said he became “hooked” after going to Guangzhou for a convention and being told by a close friend that “the girls there are young, pretty and cheap.”

“But my wife never suspected anything,” he said.

According to him, the prostitutes’ services cost less than RM200 per session and he would sometimes ask for different girls in a day.

Ah Tee said he started feeling unwell a few weeks ago and was shocked when a blood test showed that he had HIV.

“After that, I spent a long time persuading my wife to do a blood test. She told me she would not forgive me if she also was HIV-positive,” he said.

In the letter, he told his wife that he deeply regretted what he had done.

“I have no more hope and I ask for nothing else. But could you come back and let me be your companion so that we can make this journey together?” he added.

Ah Tee also advised other men to remember that love within the family was the most precious thing and there was a price to pay for fooling around.

[xilverzap]

Originally Posted by jaclyn

well... for me i dun think i can take it lor... if i find out that my husband is eating out... that will be the end of the marriage... dun think i can share the man i love with another woman...

Well, like I mentioned. The problem here is that I am not getting sex at all from wife. Does this give me an excuse to "eat outside"?? I have been married to this woman for so long. Everything a man want in a woman is this woman that I am married to. BUT THERE IS NO SEX. haiz....

Ending up, me having a fling outside that have caused me to stir away from this marriage. Two different gals will have 2 different qualities and problems. At least with this new partner, I get sex and lots of it and I am able to accept her flaws too. I am not viewing or comparing. It would not be fair. The other way is to see if I am acceptable to the new partner with all MY flaws.... and so far everything is quite fine with her.

How long did I not have sex with me wife? YEARS..... that I cannot remember the last time we did it.
How often do I have sex with my partner? EVERYDAY SINGLE DAY I am with her.

Like the other bro mentioned. It is tough as it is to be like living with a stranger. Some people told me I am lucky I do not have any kids or committed to anything like a house. It belongs in her name. So means I can just move out.

I am pondering over a decision to totally cut the marriage. But it is not something I can decide overnight. It is hard. I admit I am not a good man. But with not that many many years left in my life. I was thinking to give the new partner a shot to start all over. I think I am selfish and am going to hurt my wife A LOT if I do this. Damn........ this things are never easy....

I guess the question for me is IS SEX going to be the deciding factor??????

Regards
Xilver

Although sometimes I may have the fantasy of watching my bf having intercourse with another woman when I stumble across them, I know that if that happens for a fact, I will not be aroused at all! In fact, I think I might just die on the spot.

I believe for most women, we attach sentimentality to sex. We see sexual intercourse as our way of loving our other halves. Maybe you have not given her the impetus for her to 'show' her appreciation for your love?

My bf has never complained of not getting enough, in fact, he complains about having too much! -_-lll But whenever he wants it, I will try to comply. This is to prevent him from 'eating out'. I think it is very important to communicate to your wives on how you feel about not getting enough. Maybe they'll 'wake up their ideas' and give you more than enough! =)

Walking out on your wives simply because you are not sexually satisfied is not reason enough, neither is it fair to them. Perhaps you can do more to arouse them and get them to give you what you want!

Don't always think of leaving, think about staying on first... Or you might regret it someday. Better to try, than to have never tried at all.