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16-10-2006, 09:16 AM
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ur man will realise later.i hope it's not too late for him to say sorry or have learn his mistakes.... btw, in order to gain ur composure and self confidence...besidess upkeeping ur looks and waistline, learn how to cook or etc.... u may want to build ur self confidence by being kind and helpful to others. do u believe in karma or always have a good heart? stick with good deeds. be kind and good nor matter wat ur man do to u. back in august, my aunt showed me an article, it says u haven't be kind enough till u have helped those who really in need and can't repay of such help..... if u can devote much of ur time to help those in need , it can help to boost ur self esteem n start to realise that there's so much to see in life than to feel sorry.... doing good deeds will sooth ur heart alot.doing good do not means we will need to be very charitable. being good can be means having good thoughts, good intentions and good gestures.. it means kind in a way that u will leave a very good feeling in others. for instance, when u know they are not happy, u talk to them to cheer them up so they are less sad..... this will be a good start coz u hv take away people's worries though u r sad. if u have not share enuff time with ur parents, u may want to spend more time with them. or ur kids, u may want to pamper them with some toys and motherly love that they will remember u and look up at u.... my loved ones, family and friends will always come first before me. reserved a better things to others than to myself. .... i get very upset when people is selfish . mom always feel i am very selfless. but i feel there's nothing wrong to feel this way.... .... maybe if one day, i were to go.. i can go peacefully with no remorse... ha ha.. we are not asking for anything. but perhaps my fren's joke may help. to get people to cry for us when we died rather than to hate us... dear all, dont take things for granted. appreciate wat we have. P/s : sorry, i m not a buddhist neither i am a catholic. but no religion do not mean i am hopeless.. god is in my heart. 
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#377
17-10-2006, 09:04 AM
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#378
17-10-2006, 09:09 AM
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think we in the same boat... shld be alot of bro & sis here are in the same boat... 
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#379
17-10-2006, 09:18 AM
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as for me... well i've afew suitors rite now who dun mind me having a child... but i juz dun bare to end this marriage... as i love him deeply & for the sake of my child... i dun wan the poor kid to suffer... cos whenever we quarrel my child will start to cry & ask us to stop... it's really sad to see the kid being hurt so badly... 
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#380
17-10-2006, 11:08 AM
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try not to argue infront of the kids. sigh..seeing so many brudders n sisters in troubled marriage. i feel very sad....
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#381
17-10-2006, 11:28 AM
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I am married with a kid. Yes, the quantity invariably drops but hey it is the quality that counts. Good suggestion to send the kid and have private time with yr partner.
Besides we are now busy looking towards building careers and funds for retirement. Scouting out regionally best place to go after our kid have left the roost. Did not want this thread to regress to Singapore bashing thread but people here hardly smile and our neighbours though 'poorer materially' are a happier lot and probably have more sex than the average Singaporean. I think money and career is important as it defines who you are within the context of society but after too many 70-80 hour week, the law of diminishing returns start to apply. Perhaps this applies to sex too.
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#382
17-10-2006, 12:05 PM
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Hi All
I have been reading this thread with great interest. Everyone have got either one party that is not working well in the relationship. Well, I guess there are more out there then we know. My story is quite simple. I am married for 10 years now. Same as many guys here, wife does not enjoy sex at all. Total number of times we do it can actually be counted with my ten fingers. Yes. That little. I guess some girls just dont like it. I get my release from commercial side though, and actively so, I dont feel the stress of not having enough sex. She is a good wife though. But I am not a good husband. I have my flings outside and by now I am not too bothered even if she has someone else outside or not. Some how the feeling has become numbed. We seldom communicate because we work and do not spend much time together and after been like this for so long, we just dont bother to actually make a point to spend some time together. And then, a day came, she asked me. Are you having an affair outside? I got so tired from all these hiding, I said YES. Tears flowed for days thereafter from her. But she still cared. Like said. I am not a good man. I told her perhaps it is better that we go seperate ways. She refused. After all we have been married for 10 years. I am now seeing someone new though. Wether or not, this someone new works out, it does not change a thing in what I want. I want to be free again I guess. I know I might be stupid to let go all I have and start all over. But I think I am only being selfish and only want to persue what I want in the end not caring about my wife anymore. I think I might have felt better if she threw her temper at me and kick me out of the house, which i think i deserve. Well, just writing to release some hot air in head. Hope this does not offend anyone here.
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#383
17-10-2006, 12:46 PM
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Later she came back and wanted to be like before. Meaning 3 of us together. She asked why the other girl did not want to talk to her? She say let's try to make it work between the 3 of us. Not possible though it's every man's dream... So we moved out.... It's the same again after my 2nd wife gave me a boy. 1st wife nothing... She refuses to have sex, even on holiday and the same stories goes... I spend so many frustrating night going to the coffee shop with a hard on and cannot sleep drinking beer till god knows what time.... It affect us... But things did not change, she just refuses every time I try to touch her.... Sigh.... No commercial sex for me as I hate it...... Then I was posted overseas and found another lady that seem perfect. Again things are back to square one after the birth of my little girls.... sexless life for months.... The moral of the story,....... all seem fine till u live together. U tends to find the missing 10% of a women that we hope to see though our wife do have the 90% of the character we want.... It's the missing 10% that frustrating us... So do we give up the 90% just for an unknown 10% that we currently have and see a few times a week??? Well..... It's 11 yrs with my Sin wife and 8 years with my other wife.... Things seem to be working out somehow and we are making love like rabbit.... Last week was 10 times between the 2..... but.... do I regret.... Yes I do... Just sharing some secret and for those who seen me and both my ladies... keep it a secret ya,... Cheers
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#384
17-10-2006, 01:07 PM
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I am glad a sister is willing to kiss the hubby goodbye every morning and a big hug when he comes home, this is EFFORT, good thinking, sister ! As for the hubby side, would he take this show of love for granted ? I hope not, if you have a wife that does this to you, please show your share too. I think putting in effort in a relationship is very important to maintain it. Some men work very hard for money, to upkeep the expenses. Some women also work very hard to supplement or some even contributed more. Esp for a place like SGP, many families needed double income. Therefore, there must be a lot of torelance and understandings between couples. Everyday, everyone faces different challenges in work and society, when they reach home, sometimes they really have no mood to do anything but just laze around doing nothing to refresh. Having said that, when at home, both must also put in effort to do little nothings for each other, a kiss, a note or something intimate. Yes, in this case, SEX will be great, but with aching bodies, will not be fun ! 3 years after my first divorce, I think, if we would have communicated more, things might be different. Anyway, I learnt a good lesson and have been more understanding and willing to put in the extras. Great sex, to me, is complimentary, great TLC, accepting and giving, is utmost important. my 0.2 cents worth.
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#385
17-10-2006, 03:02 PM
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Yes it is everyman's dream isnt it? And Yes, there is more to the story but I think sharing the surface of it is enough. My wife did consider sharing me but in the end, she said it is not possible. Sometimes I do wonder if I should just put a stop to other relationship and start being a good boy to my wife again. But then again, I think I would be lying to myself. Maybe I am already lying to myself NOW.. hahaha.. situations and emotions are very sensitive stuff and many times I do think I am such a fool to leave a good wife. Till now we still do not make love though. But I get all my sex with my other partner. Sex does make a marriage. At least for me and I am not getting it. So i stray I guess.
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#386
17-10-2006, 03:36 PM
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since got sis here.. maybe can teleport more women from other forums here..
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4/7/12: Cleared my inbox. Can send me message again. Ran with hot pink FBT shorts, inner netting removed, can feel so many eyes ogling at my long fleshy legs. Selective lady who is nymphomaniac and like to wear sexy when clubbing. Message/Add me as contact to club together.
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#387
18-10-2006, 10:21 AM
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Hi all sis n bros,
Well I am not married but am attached to my gf for at least 4 years. Have been following the sharings of the married men n women. Must admit, it really got to me initially, cos I am a romantic (and idealistic) person and who doesnt want the whole pie to themselves (i.e. romance and sex). But I must thank the sis n bros here cos you ppl made me realize that what I crave for with my gf, e.g physical touch is more of a sexual need but not what I always presume as affection. Like some bros here, I am affection-craving, i.e. I like to be sayang, hugged from behind by surprise, sudden kisses, long cuddles etc. But I realised that I muddled that with sexual needs, i.e. asking my gf for HJ/BJ etc. Realized that what I really craved for from her is attention n affection. haha after all i can relieve myself by pcc. Interesting that being in sex forum made me realized how much more I love my gf LOL Anyway, to the sis n bros out there who are not smoothsailing in their marriages, I can only pray and wish the best for you ppl. Hope you dont stop trying at it, altho I m the least qualified person to say this. Being the romantic n idealistic me, I will still hope the best for my future marriage as well, even though that I know it is not going to be easy. Thank goodness I have a wonderful gf, haha altho she is not hsd like me, but at least I know how to appreciate her in a different way.
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#388
18-10-2006, 10:34 AM
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18-10-2006, 01:15 PM
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18-10-2006, 04:42 PM
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if divorce, not ez. quite hard to face frens and relatives. everyone will b sad nia...probably if too sad..heart too sad, juz run to overseas n start a new life...
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