Marriage First or Career First?

[Pickering]

Sex comes first

[newlywedbride]

Originally Posted by TomMAffolter

possible if she a LESBIAN, or is married with a cockold husband or someone who isnt easily jealous etc....

but yeah if both you guys are in ur 40's, then probably companionship is more important, the only issue is external pressure for her to marry....

Lesbian won’t be interested to have a bf; unless the guy is a xdresser or a ladyboy. The FB guy of a cuckold hubby’s hotwife is known a bull & not a bf in cuckold lifestyle. Only a handful of ladies have high sex drive. Therefore most ladies are never interested in sex.

WP’s MP Sylvia Lim too has a bf for companionship.

[Lessname]

Well say bro

[ironmaiden2015]

Waseh.. you in SBF leh.. so you must have been a pro in sex liau.. If you find ML/FL often, I suggest just focus on your career ba.. dont let her disappointed.. unless youre willing to quit the ML/FL adventure for good.. So far, 10 out of 10 friends said will quit but all fail...

[joncheong]

let's not talk about visiting WLs which you are tired of now...once you have a well-established career with some money to spare and lavish on girls...trust me...colleagues can easily become fbs or female acquaintances...you can have the time of your life...and reach 40 already then start to look for a late 20s lady to marry...ideal ain't it?

[hitnrunn]

Anybody believes in chemistry & love at first sight? Preferably to hear from ladies.

[porscheclub]

TS, manage your social skills first. You sound like an introvert so make more friends of both sexes so you can understand females more and they can be difficult. Otherwise, you'll end up with a divorce if u jump into marriage blind.

Women are not attracted to shy guys because they look for security which means confidence without attitude. Money is secondary and dump those who look up to you for money because they will never be satisfied by your wealth and often flee during troubles.

I encourage pre-marital sex because this will deal with both expectations & go a long way, you will be surprised that some women dump men because of their "short-comings"! So, it's not always the men doing the selection now.

Just chat her up and know her better cos she may not be the one even if there's sparks flying.

[Harvest]

In today's modern society, financial foundation is more important if you want to have a stress-free marriage (or as least stressful as possible). According to research, the top cause of marriage breakdown is communication problems. But to me the real cause is the lack of financial resources from the man. Asian men are still expected to be the main breadwinners. When you do not have sufficient financial resources, you have less bargaining power. And it is made worse if your significant other has a higher earning power than you. Your male ego gets crushed and your confidence is lost. And if you are introverted, you find it hard to swallow your pride and share your problems with her. That leads to.... communication problems!!

[AUDITH]

70% of young Singaporeans are saying 'no' to marriage - Are you one of them?:

http://women.asiaone.com/women/relat...076#xtor=CS1-2

[AppleCoke]

In Singapore context, career first.

[MobileSuits]

In Singapore you need to spend $$$ to date a gal. Then you need to spend more $$$ to get married. After getting married, you need to spend much more $$$ to sustain the marriage. All this comes with a heavy price tag to pay for having a wife, sex (not really free after all), house, baby, kids education etc. Can you see yourself in earning all these $$$ for a marriage life in the society of Singapore?

[Graz]

Career first definitely. Any woman, especially if she is local, who tells you money not that important and all that is talking rubbish.

[topcook1]

Originally Posted by MobileSuits

In Singapore you need to spend $$$ to date a gal. Then you need to spend more $$$ to get married. After getting married, you need to spend much more $$$ to sustain the marriage. All this comes with a heavy price tag to pay for having a wife, sex (not really free after all), house, baby, kids education etc. Can you see yourself in earning all these $$$ for a marriage life in the society of Singapore?

Marriage seems to be a losing investment....no guarantee of success too...Guys has to please the woman more and have to endure her emotional swings too....

[sundial]

No woman no problem

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by sundial

No woman no problem

Agrees most of the problem comes from woman.