Matters of the Heart.Has a Commercial Fuck turned into a torrid Love Affair which has turned your life upside down? Fear not. We have experts here who can help you through your roller coaster ride. Tell us your story and we'll do our best to help.
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
So bros, my question is, is she a slut? What do you guys think?
The question here is not whether she is a slut or not. Irrespective of whether is or not, you are only interested in having sex with her. Your actual bigger question is what are your changes of having sex with her, since you are already interested in her sexually. So, leave the question of whether she is a slut or not and, moreover, it is not fair to pass such judgment on someone when you don't even know her.
Anyway, let me draw some comments based on what you have mentioned.
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
is she a slut?
.....The 1st time I saw her was at the kopitiam, sometime late last year, probably November or December. She was with a 40+ year old man. Then at the moment she saw me looking at her, she quickly held the hands of the man. Btw, bros, what did this mean on her part?
Well, it probably means that she is giving you the message that she is taken and not interested in you. There are two reasons for her to do that.
Reason 1: She probably must have seen and noticed you at the turf too, since you have frequented that for several years now and she works behind the counter too. And based on your description on her, I am sure you must have looked at her sexually as you find her sexually appealing. Trust me, a lady can tell the difference when you look at her admiringly or otherwise. There is a high chance that she must have felt uncomfortable about it and must have marked you too and know you by your face. This leads to the second reason...
Reason 2: Now that she recognizes you and, this time, she was with someone, she held his hand to indicate to you that she is not available for you and to forget about any chances of having any. There is a high chance that she do recognizes you based on your description of her reaction.
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
..at the moment she saw me looking at her..
It seems you have already created a fear factor in her, not by your looks (I have no idea how you look like) but by your attitude towards her, which is probably your stares at her (to have irked her) as her actions seems quite reactive. If she is not aware of your existence prior to that, no sane person will react in that manner.
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
Do I have the chance of approaching her first, talk to her and hopefully up her?
So, to be honest, chances of you knowing her is very slim. For a women to come out of that cocoon will take some drastic measures. The moment a woman is not comfortable with you, even before you had a chance to talk with her, says a lot that she is annoyed in some way or the other at you. You can try to approach and talk with her but you can expect what the outcome will be. Following her will not help your case.
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
But as a 40+ year old woman, is that normal?
Is there a limit to age on how a person should behave, unless it is illegal or offensive? By passing such judgments, you are actually showing the readers a picture on your state of mind (no offense to be taken).
But anyway, do share, if you get lucky with her. It will interesting to know after all that I have written and to be proven wrong.
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
great idea thanks...but how to create the chance to approach her...i know her workplace is where but not convenient...a lot of people there and her colleagues there...i know in future i would probably bump into her also as she stays nearby...
Aiyo bro got chance just smile at her see how she react if she smile back means ok la can talk le , if not you have to monitor , some ladies need more time to respond de dun stress if she is yours means will be yours
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
great idea thanks...but how to create the chance to approach her...i know her workplace is where but not convenient...a lot of people there and her colleagues there...i know in future i would probably bump into her also as she stays nearby...
Usually women in 40s very emo de , yup , simple la be str forward just go ahead and say hi if got the chance and starts from there , normally first time she will reject you de but I am sure if you try a few times maybe she will agree that's what happen to me before
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by ycfu1980
Usually women in 40s very emo de , yup , simple la be str forward just go ahead and say hi if got the chance and starts from there , normally first time she will reject you de but I am sure if you try a few times maybe she will agree that's what happen to me before
Share your story on how you went about . It might help TS on that.
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by ycfu1980
Usually women in 40s very emo de , yup , simple la be str forward just go ahead and say hi if got the chance and starts from there , normally first time she will reject you de but I am sure if you try a few times maybe she will agree that's what happen to me before
best advice, thanks. better than some people come in and type wall of text of negative stuff to say i got no chance and all.
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by lobowolf
The question here is not whether she is a slut or not. Irrespective of whether is or not, you are only interested in having sex with her. Your actual bigger question is what are your changes of having sex with her, since you are already interested in her sexually. So, leave the question of whether she is a slut or not and, moreover, it is not fair to pass such judgment on someone when you don't even know her.
Anyway, let me draw some comments based on what you have mentioned.
Well, it probably means that she is giving you the message that she is taken and not interested in you. There are two reasons for her to do that.
Reason 1: She probably must have seen and noticed you at the turf too, since you have frequented that for several years now and she works behind the counter too. And based on your description on her, I am sure you must have looked at her sexually as you find her sexually appealing. Trust me, a lady can tell the difference when you look at her admiringly or otherwise. There is a high chance that she must have felt uncomfortable about it and must have marked you too and know you by your face. This leads to the second reason...
Reason 2: Now that she recognizes you and, this time, she was with someone, she held his hand to indicate to you that she is not available for you and to forget about any chances of having any. There is a high chance that she do recognizes you based on your description of her reaction.
It seems you have already created a fear factor in her, not by your looks (I have no idea how you look like) but by your attitude towards her, which is probably your stares at her (to have irked her) as her actions seems quite reactive. If she is not aware of your existence prior to that, no sane person will react in that manner.
So, to be honest, chances of you knowing her is very slim. For a women to come out of that cocoon will take some drastic measures. The moment a woman is not comfortable with you, even before you had a chance to talk with her, says a lot that she is annoyed in some way or the other at you. You can try to approach and talk with her but you can expect what the outcome will be. Following her will not help your case.
Is there a limit to age on how a person should behave, unless it is illegal or offensive? By passing such judgments, you are actually showing the readers a picture on your state of mind (no offense to be taken).
But anyway, do share, if you get lucky with her. It will interesting to know after all that I have written and to be proven wrong.
after all that u've typed, it doesn't even matter. because even she had that fear from me, that happened last year and by now she'd have forgotten about it.
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by kraam
after all that u've typed, it doesn't even matter. because even she had that fear from me, that happened last year and by now she'd have forgotten about it.
Chill.... This is a forum and people will say stuffs that may elate you or the other way round. So, don't take every word to heart - filter those unwanted ones. But, I do wish you all the best in your endeavor
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by lobowolf
Chill.... This is a forum and people will say stuffs that may elate you or the other way round. So, don't take every word to heart - filter those unwanted ones. But, I do wish you all the best in your endeavor
Lol bro, know that I agree with what you said though. I do wish TS all the best, but it just seems unlikely to us hey? Plus, I feel like she's going after the older men for their CPF lol.
TS, how hard can it be approaching her when you see her in your neighbourhood? Just say hi and talk about the one thing both of you know you have in common.
__________________
The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists intact,
Is to realise that two out of three ain't bad
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by lobowolf
Chill.... This is a forum and people will say stuffs that may elate you or the other way round. So, don't take every word to heart - filter those unwanted ones. But, I do wish you all the best in your endeavor
I agree with you, lobowolf. Sometimes people rather hear a beautiful lie than the bitter truth
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by prettymannequin
Lol bro, know that I agree with what you said though. I do wish TS all the best, but it just seems unlikely to us hey? Plus, I feel like she's going after the older men for their CPF lol.
TS, how hard can it be approaching her when you see her in your neighbourhood? Just say hi and talk about the one thing both of you know you have in common.
CPF....? Haha, I missed that out. You certainly jest, don't you? That must be just a coincidence ..Lol.
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Sorry TS, I wasn't sensitive towards your inner feelings in my earlier post. We all have emotional and physical needs and desires and we are all entitled to our own lala land and methods of achieving it.
Re: Is this attractive 40+ year old woman, a slut?
Quote:
Originally Posted by hijav
I agree with you, lobowolf. Sometimes people rather hear a beautiful lie than the bitter truth
sometimes people here judge others too much. even after i've explained how i've used that word 'slut', they make a mountain out of a molehill try to sound like smart alecks.
people themselves made the mistake of mistaking me still want to sit on their high horse and act morally superior, lol. u think i give a shit to all u here? only thing is that u all still think u all are correct but u all don't know how much i am laughing at the idiocy lol.
04-05-2015, 07:37 PM
That must be just a coincidence ..Lol.
