a lingering question on my mind

[denli]

In my experience, its still the affection towards the lady which I don't care of her status. When I was with her, I was blind to the fact that she is married.

On the other hand knowing that she has a husband working while I am bonking her turns me on more.

My case might be a bit different also. She was 8yrs older so it was an extra turn on.

[owl888]

Best to do with a stranger coz after the lust and passion is over we can part ways easier. Do avoid colleagues or people you know coz you end up may hurting your family!

Kelly, I may an option to you?

[denli]

Originally Posted by owl888

Best to do with a stranger coz after the lust and passion is over we can part ways easier. Do avoid colleagues or people you know coz you end up may hurting your family!
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Very true.. as the saying goes "Don't eat and shit at the same place.". Thats why office romance is a no no unless you are very sure this other is a lifelong partner. Even so, things might change and people will talk. So just save the trouble and look elsewhere.

[bigbrudder]

I never had one, must be thrilling!

[acidicavex]

Majority men with women (both married) I would say lust But I do come across some who would say it a trophy to bed other men wives..... vice versa I came across women who also considered it a trophy when they bed other women husband..... their tot is they somehow feel more superior over the spouses of the one they bed.... married single.

All in general men would be lust women will be with emotional feeling.... unless Ts u are otherwise those women with lust also.

Also u are both married to eat n shit in your own company ground Well good luck handling the gossip.....

[onlyhuman]

Ts, u must have a conclusion already la...u just want some like minded ppl so that u can lessen the feeling of guilty part.

We always hear girls complaining everywhere that their hubby strays...now the trend is opp...

I wished u all the best and hopefully the partner of urs will not faced the same situation.

Onlyhuman

[michael_jack]

May i check how old are you? Thkq

the Forbidden Fruit ...

[ebonkie]

Originally Posted by KellyNg

hello,

i'm new here and i would like to ask fellow bros here what you guys feel about having sex with a married woman? do you guys treat it as just another woman? or does it increase the kinkiness and therefore increases shiokness?
inputs and opinions are appreciated.

it's because i recently had this affair with my colleague and when i asked him why he liked me, he actually told me it was because i'm married.

pl advise ty.

regards,
kelly

Having a fxxk buddy who s married damn memorable.. my experience wiz an older (5yrs older) who s also an on-going divorcee.. she was in her 30s and i was in my late 20s..

the thrilling part was to have sex in her in her master-bedroom while her ex-hubby was busy snoring in another bed-room.. I would not say havin a married woman as FB would increase the kinkiness and therefore increases shiokness..

generally married woman are more experience/passionate/creative/daring/proactive especially while mating out..

[2centsworth]

Basically, he just told you that you are more attractive when you are a forbidden fruit. Everytime he beds you or makes you moan, he is telling himself he is better than your husband. To test this theory, try telling him you are thinking of divorcing your husband so that you can be with him. If this forbidden fruit theory is correct, he will run away from you the moment you no longer are a forbidden fruit.

To make matters worse, he will be thinking 'if she can fool around with me when she is married to him, she can fool around with anyone too if she is married with me.' Even though he is the 3rd party now, he will not fancy ever being in your current husband's shoes.

So back to you, why do you have sex with him? For pure lust? Or have you developed feelings for him? If it's just lust, don't have so many lingering thoughts. If it's love, then the road ahead is going to be a rough ride

[BrandonNg]

Married FB are better coz they usually know they rules of the game and aren't sticky. We are out to have some fun and excitement in our lives, not add problem to it.

try saying you love him and be more sticky and I am sure he will drop you like a hot potato if he's married.

[James Porn]

From a man's perspective, I guess shiokness can come in many forms and having an affair with a married colleague tops the list. Instead of agonizing over going back to work on Monday, it is replaced by the thrill and excitement of seeing the 'office lover'. Working late together becomes a blissful option

One to one lunches, tea breaks, after office drinks are activities to look forward to. How about the ride home in the car, perhaps a slight detour for some stolen time? Yes, definitely more fun than the mundane married life at home, but consider the price to pay if both of you are ever caught. Your lover will be the first to bolt! No fun anymore if you are separated and divorced without the 'married woman' status. Have fun while it last!

[AmeShin]

Different ppl different views

Some may treat others just a sex partner
While others may involve emotional attachments

Its not right to judge the male or female party without knowing much about them.

But don't ever be too involved and let one who only like your body and skills to take advantage of you

Majority Wise but not all, females need certain emotion attachment in order to sex but most guys only need a body of decent looks.

Minority will be vice versa

[Wintermelontea]

Originally Posted by KellyNg

it's because i recently had this affair with my colleague and when i asked him why he liked me, he actually told me it was because i'm married.

Are you emotionally attached to him by asking this? Curious...

[MasterJerker]

I am not n any position to preach as I was a serial philanderer and have recently resumed a love affair but this is my take on this lingering question, Kelly:

* always best not to shit in your own backyard. An office affair is always complicated and people are bound to notice and talk. Even if you think you are being very discreet, your body language in the office will give you away. You wouldn't want to jeopardize your career.

* while the forbidden is always thrilling and for some, bedding someone else's wife is the ultimate conquest, an affair whether with a single or married woman would always have repercussions. You will be hurting your family and your partner's family. In the Zener you might also end up hurting each other.

I have often wondered what I would feel if it was the other way around. What if my wife had an affair? Even if I love my gf more than I love my wife I am sure I will still feel hurt and betrayed and it will be a big blow to my ego. I know it's Double-standard but that's reality. In more conservative and patriarchal cultures, why is it okay for men to stray while women are condemned when they have affairs?