Should I give her another chance

[hamsapkwai]

sounds like a fun ride , even better than any at any Theme Park

why dont just sit in till the finish but just dont commit

whatever is yours is yours and whatever is not wont be

girls like that will eventually leave anyway and only beg to come back when things the other side dont work out

[hoho99]

Heard from a word wisdom that goes something like this:

Your friend machiam like 山， the gf standing on this 山 will always look at another 山 and admire that 山 beauty and marvelness. One fine day she like all human beings will try to leave where she is at and climb that 山. However halfway up the new 山 she will begin to look back and realise that the orginal 山 she is at is also equally beautiful or even better. She being human will of course return to a place where she is familar which in turn will mean she forever will look at others beauty from your friends comfort.

All human is like that, be it male/female, race, nationality, educational level. Until one learn to be contented, one will never stop betraying another

All is not lost though. Tell your friend 山是很大的，为什么用来只装下一个人呢？He need not necessary go into fl or something but he need not put her a his number 1 no longer

Sorry for being kaypo here

[MaMister]

Originally Posted by alan0338

u shouldnt dump her, if she can attract another guy means she at least is those kind of buay pai gal, suggest to continue fucking her and ignore wat she do, then in the meantime hunt for another gal who truly deserves u...

I think so too... fuck until she don't let you fuck, meanwhile find someone else.

[MrStyleKing]

Originally Posted by joscklee

Good horse doesn't eat return head grass

So agree bro. Unless TS is black horse

[sentsggirls]

life is about choices, is either you follow your heart or your cock.
You said u love her the most, but it will never be for her because is always like that for all relationship. one party love the other one more.

right now, u must decide if you heart is bigger then your cock , to accept the past and present and the future. if u want to love a person then prepare to be in pain. I forsee it will be very tiring for you in the long run after u guys married becos the matter of fact, you love her more then she love you. but is okay as long as you she appreicate the things u do for her.

such things dun have to ask her, you can see for yourself wether she appreciate you anot.
take good care.

[ColdBlood99]

no chance given, she betray you once and will betray you twice, some more i dont believe in lying. why should she lie? stay truthful and tell what she is doing.

nobody would like to be kept in cage. everybody need freedom.


just ask her to FO. singapore so many gals dont need scare lah bro.

your story still okay, mine is when house is ready wanted to get marry but she run away.

end of the day this type of gals are bitch, dont waste your time on her

[chenchen]

Ya.. better end sooner, pain short short better than pain long long..

[MrStyleKing]

Dump her and go find another girl because once a vase is broken, hard to mend back

[flowbow]

I know you'll be getting a lot of advice asking you to move on because based on what you've said, it really seems as if this girl doesn't know how to treasure you. But I can also understand how you feel because you both have been together for so long and you really, truly love her.

So I'd say... If you're not sure, yet still wanna be together with her, then don't trust her completely yet... Give her some sort of a probation period. Make sure she really does cut off all contacts with the guy and check on her regularly. If she manages to pass this "probation period", then good for you both. If she can't, then well, I guess you really should wake up and see for yourself that she just wants the best of both worlds, and that you don't mean enough to her for her to let go of the other guy completely.

[Greendevil]

TS, many samster have spread their wisdom already. I will just want to ask if you got back together, can you tahan another pain? Given a track records of lying and betray, what the chances of that? Do you want to be the moth that fly
Into the fire knowing that will hurt/kill u?

[xuanz]

I tio almost the same scenario. Bro, it won't work out anymore. It will take months to recover. But even if you two are tgt again, you will just rmb that one time, she fucked you out. Hard for guys to forget.

Break up, and remember. Always prettier and better girls out there.

[maxsee]

She can cheat on you once...she can do it again...there are greener pasture out there...

[Megatronzombie]

Bro TS

I had the exact same problem many yrs ago with my then gf. She cheated with her colleague then i found out. My heart broke like never before she kept apologising and with much effort i forgave her. 1 week later slept with her colleague again!! I was flin upset until i call my gangster buddy to burn the guy's house down. Funny thing my fren advised me he can do it but think twie whether i really wanted to or not. Anyway after much pleadingand crying i actually forgave her! Fast forward oneyr she got pregnant and she claimed that was because she was raped by her colleague. She had an abortion and again wonders of wonders i believed her. Now fast forward to present and she is my wife of some yrs and fuess what? She is now very close to a ... Tats correct, a colleague! she refused to admit anything and since this time i found out early i believed her. But what if i didnt find out earlier? What would have happened? Do you see a trend goin on in my story here? Indeed it is ery hard For atiger to change his spots. I never go FL or spa but i went as a revenge on her long ago and ended up hooked to FLs and spas until some yrs back i retired from it coz bece jaded liao one FL look like another wats the point? Anyway u asked if anyone has similar experience so i tell u mine. Its ultimately up to u if u wan to continue with ur gf or break the relationship. For your info my thengf now my wife also drop dead pretty so what? She act like a slut i might as well hire a real slut and bang her rite?

[zeusfist]

Bro.. my advice is dont...

My ex was like that... Almost want to ROM liao.. den she met another guy frm her work place. Then at first just say meet friend nia.. Then after that her own friend tell me... she fucking him behind my back. All the drama cam out.. how she was lost, how she was stupid to believe him.. gave her chance..

Then one day i happen to go to her work place to find her.. she not there.. txt her.. she say she at work.. a few time this happen... i decide to stalk and wait.. she end up going hotel with that same guy.

when confronted... same.. beg for another chance.. my heart cold liao.. ask her fuck off. then she change tone.. say if i trust her more it won't happen..

bottom line... leopard cannot change its spot.

[he-man11]

thanks to all bros who shared your opinions and suggestions here.

bro megatronzombie, seems like u been thru it all and can tell from your first-hand experience. can i know when u decided to give her another chance after catching her for the 2nd time, how was the feeling? did things get better that u decided to take her as your wife? through-out these yrs, wat kind of feelings do u get? do u feel very tired always being suspicious? or does the feeling actually slowly fade away. did u ever love her again? or was it just for the sake of being together.

there's so many questions in my head that has no answer unless i try it out. but then again, the risk of getting hurt again just stops me from doing anything.


anyway as an update, she called recently and i had a long talk with her. it was the first time i didn't sense anymore cover-up stories from her. she came clean on everything i asked. she admitted that when she came back with me to sg, it wasn't bcuz she learned her lesson or 'woken up'. it was a combination of touched that i went for her, pity that i was heart-broken and the fact that i was still a better catch than the other guy.
so when we were back in sg, she didn't think twice about doing it again bcuz she didn't learn anything at all from the saga. i simply took her back too easily.

she said that now that i really left her, she finally got a chance to learn her lesson. she feels that she is such a lousy person and is working hard to change into a better person.

i'm such a softie at heart.